Proxy with Yowei Shaw

The case of the guy who keeps falling for his female friends.
Ryan Jay has a problem. He makes friends with women. They get close. Then he falls for them.
It’s happened enough times that Ryan is starting to question whether he actually knows how to be friends with women without wanting to date them.
So we bring in a proxy to help Ryan figure out why friendship keeps turning into romance for him — and whether there’s another way to do this.

Proxy’s fall membership drive is happening now. If you want to help keep the show independent — and get bonus episodes, ad-free listening, live Proxy hangs, and more — become a paid member at proxyhq.org 🍏

From the episode:
—  Andrew Smiler, a licensed therapist and the author of Clinical Work with Men: Understanding Masculinity in Psychotherapy. Find out more about his work at www.andrewsmiler.com.

New to Proxy? Try Bisexual Wife Guy for a classic case, or Taelor Doesn't Want to Have Sex, about an asexual woman trying to figure out how to find the kind of intimacy she wants, without the part she doesn’t.

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The case of the woman about to start medical school who’s scared to ask for help with her drinking.
Chloe loves her life. There’s just one problem: she’s starting to drink more than she wants to, and she doesn’t understand why.
But Chloe is scared that asking for help could threaten the career she’s worked so hard for. So how do you deal with a drinking problem before it becomes an emergency? How do you know when it’s serious enough to do something? And what actually helps people change?
In this episode, we find Chloe a proxy: an addiction psychiatrist who got sober at the same age Chloe is now. Together, they talk about genetics, trauma, secrecy, accountability, AA, and what it takes to address a problem before your life falls apart.

Proxy’s fall membership drive is happening now. If you want to help keep the show independent — and get bonus episodes, ad-free listening, live Proxy hangs, and more — become a paid member at proxyhq.org 🍏

Learn about alcohol treatment:
— National Institute on Alcohol and Alcoholism — evidence-based information about medications, behavioral treatment, and mutual-support options
— NIAAA Alcohol Treatment Navigator — finding quality treatment in the U.S.
— Healthdirect Australia — alcohol treatment and support in Australia
Resources for doctors and medical students:
— Drs4Drs — confidential support for doctors and medical students across Australia
— Australian Doctors in Recovery — confidential peer support for healthcare professionals in recovery
— Federation of State Physician Health Programs — directory of U.S. physician heath programs

New to Proxy? Try Bisexual Wife Guy for a classic case, or Sam Doesn’t Know How to Be Rich, another story about trying to understand a troubling pattern before it turns into an emergency.

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Before Proxy comes back on September 22, Yowei and Kyle hold a tiny business meeting about the state of the show: more listeners, fewer members, a new membership goal, and what it’ll take to make year three. Also, Comcast has thoughts.

Carrie and Natalia want a baby. But they can’t agree on one big question: How much money is enough to become parents?

This week, we’re sharing an episode from “This Is Uncomfortable,”a podcast from Marketplace about life and the way money messes with it. Each Thursday, host Reema Khrais digs into stories about the unanticipated ways money shapes our relationships, identities, and the choices we make.

This week, as we continue working on new cases for the fall, we’re sharing an episode from our friends at A Slight Change of Plans.
Psychologist Ethan Kross talks to host Maya Shankar about why our inner voice sometimes helps us make sense of our lives—and sometimes traps us in an endless spiral—and shares practical ways to get some distance from the chatter.