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Some people are just not able to handle being put in the Friend Zone.

It’s
a pretty common thing. Two people meet by circumstance. Maybe they’re
college students who have a class together, or they could be
co-workers in an office. They get to know each other, and they become
really good friends. They end up spending a lot of time hanging out
together outside of work or school. They develop a close
relationship, maybe even confiding in each other and having some deep
conversations.

Then
there’s a problem that comes in. And I know this doesn’t just
happen in male-female relationships, and I don’t have any
statistics or studies to back this up; it’s just anecdotal. But
from what I’ve seen and read, one of the people, commonly the
woman, sees the relationship as platonic. They’re just wonderful
friends, and there’s no romance involved. But her male friend,
thinks otherwise. He’s developed feelings for this woman, and
thinks she might have feelings for him too.

Eventually
he might express those feelings verbally, or maybe he waits for what
he thinks is the right moment and tries to kiss her. That’s when
things fall apart. She explains to him that she sees him not as a
romantic partner, but just as a close friend. She just put him in the
Friend Zone.

And
different people handle this in different ways. He’s gonna be
disappointed of course, but what about beyond that? After he declared
his feelings for her, can they still be friends? Sometimes they can.

But
not always. My guest today, Marina, has experienced this. She told
this story on the podcast in one of the earliest episodes, back in
2019. She had a friend who actually scared her – because he took
things way too far.

Show
notes for this episode are here:

https://WhatWasThatLike.com/264

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Every
other Tuesday, we grab a past question from the Facebook group, then
Meredith and Scott answer it and read some of the answers given by
other listeners.

The
question for this episode:

What
was your most memorable vacation?

Links
for this episode:

Disclosure
Day trailer:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCYT8vb2siQ

Carnival
cruise to Cozumel:

https://www.carnival.com/cruise-to/mexico-cruises/cozumel-cruises#

Disney
adults:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disney_adult

Dark
tourism:

https://www.dark-tourism.com/

Meredith’s
episode with the lucid dreaming
artist:https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Omwx67juTKYWymgTaj3rc?si=r6oHbH02R8CuZtmyWTdLJw

Meredith’s
episodes related to her trip to Mongolia:

257 https://open.spotify.com/episode/3ZaeMBDjokkgRenRJTUOOb?si=hk0FhoOaRsitaZ4d649evg

250 https://open.spotify.com/episode/7HxpwdF51xhTzmHsjvht7Z?si=uIZoe5hlS7akTT4YzejYzA

246 https://open.spotify.com/episode/0WzkwIYAwdqxylzJjjmSsG?si=-9U7W4nPSQ6HcsMI4P_SbA

241 https://open.spotify.com/episode/0H8Inp10YtwQO6aN03y0qz?si=fIhHKPhWT66aSxaDckldEA

“Jenny”
by Tommy Tutone:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6WTdTwcmxyo

All
Day I Dream About Food:

https://alldayidreamaboutfood.com/

Meredith’s
podcast is The Curious Introvert:

https://MeredithForReal.com

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I have something brand new for
you today.

I
have started a new storytelling podcast!

The
new show is called Did I Hear That Right? And I’m co-hosting it
with my friend Glenn.

For
this new podcast, each episode we’re gonna have a guest come on and
tell the story of something they’ve done, that most other people
have never done. And these stories are all crazy, and they’re fun
to listen to. No traumatic stories like animal attacks, nothing like
that. And these are shorter episodes too – usually around 20
minutes or so.

I’m
doing this with my friend Glenn Hebert. He has a LONG history of
podcasting. He started the Horse Radio Network, and has hosted the
daily morning show called Horses in the Morning – for more than
4000 episodes. I’ve known Glenn for a long time and I know we’re
gonna have fun with this show.

And
I want you to know, the new podcast will have no effect on What Was
That Like. That’s my main show, and it will continue with those
stories of real people in unreal situations, just like it has since
it started 8 years ago.

And
right now, I’m gonna play you the first episode of Did I Hear That
Right? So you can get a feel for what it’s like. Then I’ll be
back here to wrap it up after.

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I want to tell you about my friend Larry.

Larry
is pretty well known in the podcast world as a content creator, a
consultant, and a subject matter expert for journalists. I’ve seen
lots of times where he’s appeared on local and national TV shows,
talking about podcasting as well as AI – he’s been on the
forefront of how to use AI for personal and business productivity.
And he’s been a sought-after keynote speaker at lots of
organizations where he talks about these things.

A
few years ago, Larry and I were in Los Angeles during a podcasting
conference. One evening during that week there was a big podcast
awards show, and there was an after party. I don’t usually go to
those things, but for some reason I was there. It was a private party
but lots of people were there and it was on a rooftop bar, I don’t
even remember the name of it. Of course the music was loud, and you
would never guess who the DJ was – Paris Hilton. It was pretty
crazy.

And
of course I would see Larry every year in January in Orlando, at the
conference called Podfest.

But
this past January I didn’t see Larry. I didn’t know why he wasn’t
there, and honestly I didn’t think about it a lot. It’s always a
busy week and there are a couple thousand people there. But what I
didn’t know was that Larry was in rehab at that time. He was trying
to overcome Alcohol Use Disorder. Maybe better known as alcoholism.

Larry’s
life is very different now. His addiction to alcohol means he no
longer has his business, his house, his cars, his wife – all gone.
He’s working on his comeback now, and he told me the whole story
which you’re about to hear. I also need to include a content
warning for discussion of suicide.

What
Larry didn’t know at the time was - when he missed that Orlando
conference because of being in rehab – he had not yet reached his
rock bottom.

If
you’d like to contact Larry or follow his journey:

Instagram:
@thelarryroberts

Facebook:
@thelarryroberts

website:
https://LarryRoberts.com

Full
show notes and pictures for this episode are here:

https://WhatWasThatLike.com/263

Graphics
for this episode by Bob Bretz. Transcription was done by James Lai.

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Every
other Tuesday, we grab a past question from the Facebook group, then
Meredith and Scott answer it and read some of the answers given by
other listeners.

The
question for this episode:

What
was a time when you wish you had spoken up?

Links
for this episode:

Lactaid:

https://www.lactaid.com/

Cabot
cheese:https://cabotcreamery.com/

Fred
gets his mower:https://youtu.be/4X61n8bNl0k?si=3zslYydbUnoakJJO

Fred
on the local news:

https://youtu.be/C--tFcw0p_A?si=KRM1rZHh3qWooERZ


Underage
Undercover
show:https://www.hbomax.com/shows/undercover-underage/b06c13c4-6295-466a-b44f-480747b84430

We
Have Cancer
podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-have-cancer/id970806995

What
Would You Do?https://www.youtube.com/@WhatWouldYouDo

Meredith’s
desk topper:https://a.co/d/0cvYknJa

The
Fish Doorbell:https://visdeurbel.nl/en

Meredith’s
podcast is The Curious Introvert:

https://MeredithForReal.com

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