At Peace Parents Podcast

In this episode I coach a mom of a 10-year-old PDAer who is in burnout (Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). The child loves to cook and bake but has a meltdown if family members clean up after her while she’s in the kitchen.
She also melts down if others pass by her bedroom on the way to their own, which her mom has to do if she’s going to clean the kitchen after her daughter leaves.
We talked through if Obsessive Compulsive Disorder was also present, but decided to focus on working through the PDA lens.
We then used our decision making framework to determine how the mother could manage their bedtime routine in a way that would be more pleasant for everyone.
I hope you find the conversations helpful. It's from Parenting PDA Your Way, the show we stream live on our social media on Fridays at 1pm ET.
xo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.
This is the second of two episodes in which Donna and I discussed this topic. In the first episode we covered five of her tips, and in this episode we cover five more.
Here they are:
Reflect on success
Normalize discomfort and fear
Let go of future fears
Pause social media as needed
Breathe -- you're doing great!

I hope you find our conversation helpful!
PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

In this episode I talk with our coach Donna Georgen - parent of PDA 28- and 21-year-olds - about her top tips for parenting PDA teens.
We cover five of her tips in this episode and will release another episode soon with five more.
Here's the first five:
Try to keep autonomy and equality at the forefront
Shift from parent to mentor-friend
Be vulnerable and transparent
Release the pressure to figure it all out
Redefine regression

I hope you find our conversation helpful!
PS - Want to work with Donna to move your family forward? She offers private coaching that you can learn all about here.

In this episode Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alex Klein and I discuss ten common misconceptions about Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy.
Here are five from Dr. Klein:
The parent of a PDAer is doing something wrong, especially if they've lowered demands.
If a PDA child did something yesterday, they can do it again today.
Accommodations won’t prepare PDA kids for the real world.
Progress made by a PDA child is measured by what we see on the surface.
Behaviorism (behavioral parenting) will be enough.

And here are five from me, in strong collaboration with my PDA 11- and 7-year-olds:
PDA kids are bad kids.
How much freedom PDA kids need.
It's not behavioral, it's stress.
Why and when they can hide nervous system stress.
Potatoes are green and they smell like poop :)

I hope the episode is helpful to you!
xo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.

This episode is for parents who are interested in toilet training in a PDA-informed way.
This the third episode in my three-part series on toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance.
In this episode I cover toilet/potty training with your PDA child or teen. Specifically, I cover the following:
Is my child or teen in a good place for toilet training?
Story of toilet training my older son before I knew of PDA, and why I think it still worked (spoiler - we intuitively did a lot of accommodating).
10 tips for if and when you decide to toilet train your PDA child or teen.

I hope this is helpful for you and your family.
xoxo,
Casey
PS - New to PDA? You can take our free 6-minute quiz to learn how well your child or teen fits the profile.