Dear Shandy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your friend regularly makes passive aggressive digs about your childfree-by-choice lifestyle, is a confrontation in order? How can you navigate your in-laws' past financial issues becoming YOUR future problem? If he ends it because of his father's diagnosis, is that a sign you should wait, or is the illness a red herring? And what to do if you love your guy but hate his vegetarianism? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
2:08 - My Friend Keeps Making Digs About My Childfree Lifestyle—Do I Confront Her?
13:15 - My Husband’s Parents Are Likely To Become Our Financial Burden One Day—Any Advice?
30:25 - After 2 Months Of “Bliss”, He Ended It Due To His Father’s Illness—Do I Wait For Him?
57:05 - I Love My Guy But Not His Vegetarianism—Help!

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Content note: This episode contains discussion of alleged domestic violence and may be difficult for some listeners. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, help is available through the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. Please listen with care and skip this episode if needed.

This week, we're joined by Blake Robertson, whom many viewers know from The Ultimatum. Since his time on the show, Blake has also been the subject of public allegations of domestic violence—a topic that understandably evokes strong emotions and one we strived to approach with care in this conversation.

Our goal with this interview is not to tell listeners what conclusions to draw, nor to minimize the seriousness of domestic violence. Rather, we believe difficult conversations are best approached thoughtfully, with honesty, attention to detail, and room for nuance. In this episode, we ask Blake the questions many viewers have had since the allegations became public. He also discusses public scrutiny, accountability, personal growth, and what life has looked like after the cameras stopped rolling.

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome Blake Robertson
1:35 - What Terms He’s On With Hayley Currently
2:13 - Why Did He Propose?
7:31 - The TMZ Article
10:28 - After Filming The Show
19:30 - Charleston
40:49 - Scene 2
55:51 - Night Of The Arrest
1:14:25 - The Affidavit
1:17:24 - Finances
1:22:40 - Did The Show Accurately Represent Their Relationship?
1:26:06 - Beliefs
1:28:43 - Regrets
1:31:44 - Shandy Debrief

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! The Ultimatum happens to be one of Shandy's all-time favorite shows, and today they're breaking down the Finale and Reunion for Season 4!

*** This episode discusses domestic assault. Please listen with care. ***

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
0:51 - Episode 9/Finale
13:43 - Episode 10/Reunion
59:43 - Reviewing Predictions
1:00:18 - Who We Would Go For

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! The Ultimatum happens to be one of Shandy's all-time favorite shows, and today they're breaking down episodes 5-8 of Season 4!

*** Note: This episode was recorded before news dropped about one contestant getting arrested for assault **

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
2:26 - Episode 5
36:46 - Episode 6
49:33 - Episode 7
1:11:13 - Episode 8
1:34:09 - Predictions
1:38:13 - Who We Would Go For

Referenced NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/07/17/well/couples-therapists-fight-advice.html

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Shandy is back with their world-famous recaps! The Ultimatum happens to be one of Shandy's all-time favorite shows, and today they're breaking down episodes 1-4 of Season 4! Stay tuned for your recap of episodes 5-8 dropping later.

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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Housekeeping
2:06 - Episode 1
27:49 - Episode 2
43:19 - Episode 3
1:13:45 - Episode 4
1:36:09 - Predictions
1:37:01 - Who We Would Go For

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