Episode 313: Enneagram Intro with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
Okay I’m going to read a quote, “If you’re not paying attention to how you affect other people, you’re missing a big piece of what makes life work. What you don’t know about yourself can hurt you, others, and your relationships.” This wise quote is from Suzanne Stabile, of course. This feels so true and it feels exactly why we’re diving into what we’re diving into over the next several weeks.
It honestly feels appropriate that we would kick off this part of the Parenting Personalities series on the Enneagram with a quote from our dear friend, Suzanne Stabile. Because we would both say that she has hands down taught us the most about the Enneagram.
She’s our favorite Enneagram teacher, and so we’re going to be quoting her all throughout this time and sharing things we’ve learned through all of her decades of studying this great ancient wisdom tool. We’re excited to bring all that we’ve learned through her and how we see that walked out in parenting. We talked about this recently, but why wouldn’t we want to grow?
Those of us who love kids or in relationship to anyone else, in fact we would love for you to share these episodes with your kids' grandparents, with aunts and uncles, with educators. Really anybody in your life, you don’t have to be a parent, to hopefully learn from and glean from the growth and grace that’s going to weave all throughout these conversations.
Book recommendation mentioned in episode: "The Road Back to You" by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 312: Understanding Attachment Styles with Dr. Alison Cook
We are so excited for you to listen to this conversation with our friend Dr. Alison Cook. Folks are going to feel so hopeful! It’s so easy to just feel overwhelmed by the topic of attachment and she makes it feel practical, manageable, graceful, possible, hopeful.
You guys, make sure you stick through the end, cause she gives us the most practical things to do in the carpool lane. You’re going to love this one with Dr. Alison Cook!
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Website: https://www.dralisoncook.com/
Dr. Alison Cook is a psychotherapist, best-selling author, and host of the top-ranked The Best of You podcast, where she brings her unique blend of psychological expertise and spiritual encouragement to listeners worldwide.
She is the author of I Shouldn't Feel This Way and The Best of You, and co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul. Her work empowers individuals to experience healing and wholeness through inviting God’s loving presence into every part of the soul. She and her husband, Joe, are the parents of two young adult children.
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 311: Understanding Attachment Styles with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
Attachment has become a buzzword in parenting circles—but what does it really mean for your kids and your family? In this episode, we unpack the history of attachment theory, clear up common misconceptions, and share practical ways to think about what your child truly needs.
We’ll cover:
Why “attachment” has resurfaced as such a hot topic.
How attachment impacts early development and later relationships.
The difference between holding information wisely vs. fearfully.
The four styles of attachment—starting with what a secure attachment looks like.
Real-life examples of how parents can unintentionally give fear too much power.
Whether you’ve ever worried about separation anxiety, or just wondered, “Am I doing enough for my child?”—this episode will help you breathe easier and focus on what matters most.
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 310: A Deeper Dive: Understanding Birth Order with Dr. Kevin Leman
Okay you guys, Buckle up! We just interviewed Dr. Kevin Leman, whose work on Birth Order, we have talked about, referenced, more times than we could possibly count. We are so excited about having this conversation with him. We knew without a doubt we’d learn a lot.
We were not expecting to laugh as much as we did. And we were doubled over in some moments. He is so funny, which will make more sense when he talks about his birth order and how that translates to often be true for that particular birth order.
Now stick around to the end, because he threw out some incredible wisdom of what to say to kids: who want everything to be fair, and how to navigate allowance, expectations and bed time unique to birth order. And stick around because he gave David a really hard time about being a 1st born. He teased him hard and so I never said that I was too, I just laughed along! Ya’ll are going to love this episode!
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Episode 309: Understanding Birth Order with David Thomas and Sissy Goff
We’re jumping back in with another episode in our Parenting Personalities series, and we are excited about this episode! This episode is on Birth Order, and can I tell you something fun that I love to do. When kids come for their very first visit at Daystar, we call it an assessment. We take kids on a tour around the Daystar house, they get to meet the dogs, we get them a snack, and we sit down to talk. We meet with their parents at a later point. During my time with just the kid, I love to not look at the paperwork, which would inform where they would fall in birth order and try and make a guess.
I don’t want to brag on myself, but I’m going to say that I have a pretty high percentage. I have a strong batting average in that space. I think it’s the reality of us having done this work for a lot of decades. Knowing so many of the things we’re about to talk about with birth order and seeing little lumps as watching where kids may drop some crumbs, that’s really fun to do.
Listen in as we will share two primary things about oldest daughters and oldest sons, children who fall in the middle, and the youngest kids in birth order and all of their coping strategies.
Recommended books to read:
Braver, Stronger, Smarter by: Sissy Goff (For parents with daughters in younger years and elementary grades)
Brave by: Sissy Goff (For parents of daughters in Middle school and High school)
Growth Mindset by: Carol Dweck (For parents of 1st born sons and daughters)
The Gifts of Perfection by: Brene Brown (For parents who are 1st borns)
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Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience
Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage
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Welcome to the Raising Boys and Girls Podcast with Sissy Goff, David Thomas, and Melissa Trevathan. In each episode of this podcast, we’ll share some of what we’re learning in the work we do with kids and families on a daily basis at Daystar Counseling Ministries. Our goal is to help you care for the kids in your life with a little more understanding, a little more practical help, and a whole lot of hope. So pull up a chair and join us on this journey of raising boys and girls. Connect with us at raisingboysandgirls.com.
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