Raising Boys & Girls

Grief looks different at every age, and understanding a child’s developmental stage can help parents recognize what they need most. Sissy Goff and David Thomas explore how grief may appear in babies and toddlers, preschoolers, elementary-age children, middle schoolers, and teenagers—from regression and separation anxiety to withdrawal, risk-taking, and unexpected emotional reactions. They offer practical guidance for providing stability, addressing guilt, creating opportunities for side-by-side conversations, and surrounding kids with trusted support. Above all, they remind parents that children don’t need perfect words—they need adults who notice, remain close, and continually reassure them, “I see you, I’m here, and you don’t have to go through this alone.”

Resources mentioned:

Helping Kids Through Grief by Sissy Goff

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s five experiences of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance from On Death and Dying

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In this episode of Raising Boys and Girls, it features Sissy Goff and David Thomas in an in-person conversation with author and Duke professor Kate Bowler about her newest book, Joyful Anyway. Kate unpacks the difference between happiness (built from luck and circumstance) and joy (a surprising, embodied experience that can coexist with grief and hardship), drawing on her own journey through stage four cancer. She talks about letting go of the "professional happiness manager" role in parenting, how to be honest with kids about grief without burdening them, and how relinquishing control can open people up to deeper love and connection.

Resources mentioned:

Joyful Anyway by Kate Bowler

Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I've Loved by Kate Bowler

No Cure for Being Human: (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) by Kate Bowler

Good Enough: 40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection by Kate Bowler and Jessica Richie

The Lives We Actually Have: 100 Blessings for Imperfect Days by Kate Bowler and Jessica Richie

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld

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Grief can look very different in children than it does in adults. In this episode, Sissy Goff and David Thomas share five important ways kids process loss: in small doses, in the middle of everyday life, through emotions connected to secondary losses, through play, and in new ways as they grow and develop. They encourage parents to follow their child’s lead, offer language when grief unexpectedly surfaces, and remember that there is no “right” timetable or expression of grief. Rather than trying to make children grieve like adults, caregivers can remain close, make room for remembering, and reassure kids that they never have to walk through loss alone.

Resources mentioned:

Helping Kids Through Grief: A Parent's Guide for Making Sense of Death, Processing Loss, and Finding Hope by Sissy Goff

The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis

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Ginny Yurich, founder of 1000 Hours Outside, joins Sissy and David to explore how outdoor play, movement, and hands-on experiences prepare children to learn and grow. She shares how homeschooling has shaped her understanding of education, emphasizing that children learn constantly through their interests, relationships, everyday responsibilities, and time in nature. Ginny also explains how outdoor play builds problem-solving skills, agency, confidence, and the ability to assess healthy risks. In a rapidly changing, technology-driven world, she encourages parents to focus less on performance and more on developing distinctly human strengths such as creativity, empathy, communication, practical skills, and meaningful relationships.

Resources mentioned:

1000 Hours Outside tracker sheets

Homeschooling: You're Doing It Right Just by Doing It by Ginny Yurich

Until the Streetlights Come On: How a Return to Play Brightens Our Present and Prepares Kids for an Uncertain Future by Ginny Yurich

Smart Moves: Why Learning Is Not All in Your Head by Carla Hannaford

Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto

Learning All the Time by John Holt

UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World by Dr. Michele Borba

The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud

Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross

Generative Artificial Intelligence: What Everyone Needs to Know by Jerry Kaplan

Capable by David Thomas and Sissy Goff

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Parent-teacher conferences can feel stressful for parents, but Sissy Goff and David Thomas encourage families to approach them as opportunities to build a supportive team around their child. They share practical ways to create a spirit of partnership with teachers, receive honest feedback without becoming defensive, and look beyond grades to understand how a child is growing academically, emotionally, and socially. They also remind parents to focus on a few meaningful next steps, involve children in solving problems, and recognize where stepping back may allow kids to develop greater independence, responsibility, and confidence.

Suggested parent-teacher conference questions:

How can I support what you’re doing at school from home?

Is there anything you see at school that we might not be seeing at home?

Where do you see capability in my child that they might not see yet?

Where could we give our child more responsibility?

What are two things we could work on at home right now?

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