Ep.7 Rupture Isn’t Failure: It’s the Path to Healing
In this episode, we explore the emotional and nervous system layers of rupture in parenting. What if rupture doesn’t mean you’re failing—but that something deeper is trying to heal through you? We’ll talk about the shame so many mothers carry after explosive moments with their hypersensitive, high-needs child, and how those moments can become openings for healing—not just with your child, but within yourself.This discussion includes personal stories, nervous system insight, and a reframe that will help you relate to rupture with more compassion, meaning, and hope.💻 To read the full blog article, visit: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/rupture-isn-t-failure-it-s-the-path-to-healing
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Ep.6 3 Things Your Nervous System Needs When Your Child Is Triggering You
When your child’s behavior overwhelms you — whether it’s yelling, swearing, or melting down — it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost all control and have no idea what to do. In this episode, I share a powerful framework based on nervous system science to help you regulate your body in the hardest parenting moments. Learn the 3 things your nervous system needs to feel safe — context, choice, and connection — and how giving yourself these can help you respond instead of react. I also walk you through a real-life example and offer tools to return to calm and confidence, even when your child is at their most dysregulated.You can read the full article here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/what-your-nervous-system-needs-when-your-child-is-triggering-you
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Ep.5 You Are Not Your Activation: Becoming the Awareness Behind Your Mind and Body
What if you’re not the rage, the shutdown, the overwhelm you feel in those hard parenting moments?In this episode, we explore a powerful shift that lies at the heart of nervous system healing: becoming the awareness behind your mind and body. I share a deeply personal story of breaking a painful reactive cycle with my son—and the moment I accessed my true essence, free of attachment, outcome, or reactivity.You’ll learn how cultivating awareness can transform your relationship with your nervous system, your child, and your authentic Self—and why this step is essential if you want to become a more regulated, resilient parent.💡 This is an AI-generated discussion based on my original blog article using Notebook LM. You can read the full article here: Becoming the Awareness Behind Your Mind and Bodyhttps://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/you-are-not-your-activation-becoming-the-awareness-behind-your-mind-and-body
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Ep.4 Wired for Connection: How a Mother’s Nervous System is Designed to Feel Her Child
In this episode, we explore the profound biological and nervous system connection between mother and child. From the science of microchimerism to the lived experience of co-regulating a hypersensitive, high-needs child, this conversation sheds light on why motherhood can feel so overwhelming—and how awareness and compassion can create powerful shifts.This episode is an AI-generated discussion based on my blog article:Read the full article here → How a Mother’s Nervous System is Designed to Feel Her Child https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/wired-for-connection-how-a-mother-s-nervous-system-is-designed-to-feel-her-child
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Ep.3 Why I Froze: Understanding the Fear, Rage, and Burnout Cycle in Parenting My High-Needs Child
In this episode, we explore a powerful trauma loop that many mothers of hypersensitive, high-needs children unknowingly get stuck in: the rage → fear → freeze → shame → rage cycle.I share how this loop forms in the nervous system—often from early trauma—and how it can show up in parenting, especially when our child’s behaviors trigger deep survival responses. You’ll learn:Why your nervous system might default to rage or collapse in the face of your child’s outburstsHow shame deepens the loop and keeps you stuckWhy your reactions are not character flaws—but nervous system patternsWhat the path to healing looks like, starting with awareness and compassionYou are not broken.You are not your activation.You are the one who can bring safety to it.🌀 This is an AI-generated discussion of my original blog article.📖 Read the full article here: Why I Froze: Understanding the Fear, Rage, and Burnout Cyclehttps://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/why-i-froze-understanding-the-fear-rage-and-burnout-cycle-in-parenting-my-high-needs-child
If you're raising a hypersensitive, high-needs child — including Autism, PDA, OCD, ODD, ADHD, or anxiety — this podcast is for you. I'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach for mothers like you. Here, we talk about what most people don’t: how it really feels, how your nervous system responds, and how to find your way back to calm, courage, and connection — even on the hardest days. You're not alone, and you were never meant to do this without support.
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