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Brought to you by ⁠The Marriage Academy⁠A marriage will never rise above the level of counsel surrounding it.In this message, Derek reveals one of the most overlooked causes of stalled, confused, and collapsing marriages: false, unconsecrated counsel.Not every pastor is safe.Not every therapist is God-led.Not every friend, mentor, or church is spiritually alive.And when the voices around your marriage are not governed by the Spirit of God, they don’t bring healing — they quietly pull you out of covenant.Scripture tells us that plans fail without counsel, but with many godly counselors they succeed (Proverbs 15:22). But the Bible also warns that wisdom from below is earthly, unspiritual, and even demonic (James 3). That means not all advice is neutral — some of it carries spiritual influence.In this teaching, you will learn:Why a spiritually dead counselor cannot produce spiritual fruitHow false counsel becomes a demonic access point in marriageWhat consecration actually means in ScriptureWhy comfort is not the same as peaceHow to discern between wisdom from above and wisdom from belowWhy your relationships are either nourishing or poisoning your covenantHow unconsecrated environments sabotage restorationWhy deliverance, discipleship, and accountability are non-negotiable for growthYou were never meant to fight for your marriage alone.You were never meant to heal in isolation.And you were never meant to entrust your covenant to people who do not fear God.The Hebrew word picture for counsel means “the hand that knows the hook.”And when a marriage is under spiritual attack, there are hooks everywhere — in past trauma, in sin agreements, in false doctrine, and in emotional wounds. Without godly counsel, those hooks stay buried. With godly counsel, they are exposed and removed.This is a call to consecration.To be set apart.To be purified.To be surrounded by people who walk in truth, not comfort.God is bringing you relationships that will not flatter your flesh — but will protect your future.Proverbs 15:22Proverbs 24:6Proverbs 27:6Isaiah 5:20James 3:13–181 John 4:1Leviticus 20:7–8Romans 12:1Hebrews 5:141 Timothy 4:1Hebrews 12:152 Corinthians 3Ephesians 4Genesis 2:24

Brought to you by ⁠The Marriage Academy⁠As we move beyond the foundations of inner healing and deliverance, we must learn how to identify spiritual strongholds—especially in our marriages and families.If we are going to live as sons and daughters of Christ, walking in covenant, functioning as the Body of Christ, and operating as a mobilized Ekklesia, we must be rooted in the right stronghold: Christ as our cornerstone and Christ as our defense.In this teaching, we unpack what spiritual strongholds actually are, how they form, and how they keep marriages bound—often hiding beneath what feels normal. Using Scripture, biblical language, and lived testimony, we expose how strongholds take root in the mind, emotions, identity, family lines, and even through demonic influence, and why they cannot be removed without repentance, truth, and spiritual authority.You’ll learn:What the Bible means by “strongholds” (and why they don’t form overnight)How agreement, legal access, and topos (territory) sustain bondageThe difference between temptation, sin patterns, and demonic strongholdsHow mental, emotional, and generational strongholds show up in marriageWhy distorted views of God, identity, and fear are not “just personality”How cycles of defeat and chronic spiritual resistance reveal deeper issuesWhy freedom begins with repentance, not behavior modificationHow to take every thought captive and walk in true authority in ChristThis message is for spouses who feel stuck, exhausted, spiritually heavy, or confused as to why years of effort haven’t produced lasting change. You are not alone. Freedom is not out of reach. And it is not too late.We close this teaching with a guided prayer of repentance, renunciation, and declaration—breaking agreement with fear, shame, pride, addiction, rejection, and every lie that has opposed the truth of God in your marriage and family.📖 Key Scriptures referenced include:2 Corinthians 10:4–5 • Philippians 4:6–9 • Exodus 20:5 • 2 Peter 3:9 (and more)If this teaching resonated with you:Like the videoSubscribe for more teachings on marriage, inner healing, and deliveranceShare this with a spouse or family who needs clarity and hopeYour prayers are heard. Your tears matter. And the blood of Jesus did not miss anything in your story.

Brought to you by The Marriage AcademyMarriage Wisdom is a new series on The Established Family Podcast where we share timeless, biblical truths concerning God's heart and foundation for marriage.This clip lays the theological groundwork for why inner healing and deliverance are not optional for the believer—or for a marriage walking in God’s design.Salvation is not only about being forgiven; it is about being healed, delivered, and made whole. Scripture makes it clear that while the spirit is made alive and sealed in Christ, the soul—mind, will, emotions, and moral understanding—can still be influenced when lies, unforgiveness, and unrepented agreements remain unaddressed.In this teaching, we break down the biblical foundations for deliverance, the meaning of sozo, the reality of spiritual footholds (topos), and why many believers remain bound despite sincere faith. We confront the false belief that salvation alone guarantees freedom, and we expose how ignorance of God’s spiritual laws keeps marriages cycling in bondage rather than walking in Kingdom mission.This episode calls spouses into truth, repentance, and surrender—so that healing can move from concept to transformation, and marriage can reflect the fullness of God’s original intent.Freedom from sin’s penalty is not the end.Freedom from sin’s power is the goal.

In this episode, we confront a hard truth the Church has avoided:your marriage will not heal, grow, or last unless its Kingdom mission is restored.Jesus said:“He who does not gather with Me scatters.” — Luke 11:23In this teaching, we break down why Kingdom mission in marriage is rooted in three non-negotiables:Glory — the weight of God’s presencAuthority — the right to rule under His presenceOffice — the role and responsibility you are stewardingWithout these, marriages exhaust themselves under responsibility, drift into resentment, and blame God, the church, or their spouse for being out of position.In this episode, you’ll learn:1) Why responsibility without God’s glory leads to burnout and division2) Why healing often follows mission—not the other way around3) How glory (kavod) empowers responsibility (massa)4) Why many marriages feel spiritually alive but relationally stuck5) How authority and office are lost through fear, offense, and poor stewardship6) What it means to be a glorified husband and a glorified wifeScripture Referenced:Luke 11:23Joshua 24:151 Kings 18:21Deuteronomy 30:19Nehemiah 4:17Genesis 1:26–28Psalm 8:4–6Luke 10:19Isaiah 6:1–8Exodus 24 & 40John 1:14

In today’s episode, Derek exposes one of the deepest spiritual roots behind marital destruction: the false oaths, internal vows, and unholy agreements spouses make during pain, betrayal, fear, and exhaustion.This message walks you through the biblical difference between promises, oaths, vows, and agreements—and how violating the order of God leaves marriages spiritually bound, oppressed, and disconnected from the hope that anchors the soul.If your marriage feels stuck, hardened, confused, or spiritually tormented, this episode will show you why—and how to return to God’s promises over your marriage and bloodline.In this episode:• Why God forbids humans from making oaths• How spouses unknowingly bind themselves with internal vows• 9 categories of false oaths that destroy a marriage• How the enemy claims “legal access” through agreements• The biblical pattern: Promises → Oaths → Vows → Agreements• How to dissolve false covenants and return to God’s design• Why many spouses lack hope as an anchor to their soul• How to realign with God’s promise over your family and lineage