The Living Marriages Podcast | Effective Communication, Intimacy, Healthy Habits, Christian Counseling, Christian Parenting

"Pain drives reactivity..."

We've all been there. An innocent comment turns into an hour-long fight or a simple mistake makes us feel worthless. What is happening? Why do we react in a way to certain things that seem out of proportion or don't make sense? The answer in all likelihood is pain. 

In this episode we discuss:

Our Pain Stories: How they are built over time and shape our reactions.

The Path to Healing: Why moving forward means facing our pain head-on.

4 Unhealthy Coping Strategies: Breaking down Blame, Shame, Control, and Escape.

God's Hope: Remembering that pain never has the last word

Resources

The Mindful Marriage by Ron and Nan Deal. A book full of sound biblical teaching, wisdom, and helpful exercises. Get your copy here: rondeal.org

The Raabsmith Team: Highly recommended therapists and coaches specializing in the Restoration Therapy modality. Visit their website: https://raabsmithteam.com/

Get in touch

If you want someone to pray with you or encourage you, we would love to hear from you!
📬 Drop us a line: info@livingmarriages.com

You've heard about the importance of having "an attitude of gratitude," but what does that actually mean in practice?
On today's episode, we break down the tangible science and daily habits behind true thankfulness. We discuss:

The Brain Science: 7 ways gratitude literally rewires and transforms our brains.

The Relationship Impact: How renewing your mind can completely reshape and help heal your marriage.

The Daily Practice: Simple steps to shift out of a negativity bias and into a growth mindset together.

Resources

Read the article: 7 Ways Gratitude Rewires Your Brain 

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We’d love to hear from you. Drop us a line at info@livingmarriages.com to share your episode ideas, or let us know how our team can be praying for you this week!

All You Need Is Love???
Popular culture tells us that love is the only ingredient a marriage needs. Songs by Frank Sinatra and The Beatles make it sound simple. However, believing this myth can lead to division and heartbreak. Love is vital, but a thriving marriage requires more.
 
In this episode, we explore the truth about what makes a marriage work. We look at how love, identity, trust and safety build a lasting bond.
 

Key Topics Covered

The concept of "usness": What it means for two people to truly become one flesh.

The foundation: How God's love and faithfulness help us relate to our spouses.

The two pillars: Why love and trust must work together.

Love and trust in action: How love gives you identity, and trust creates safety.

Featured Resources

Book Recommendation: Read The Mindful Marriage by Ron and Nan Deal for transformational advice.

Podcast: Listen to Living Marriages Podcast Episode 65 to discover how your view of God impacts your relationship.

Get in Touch
Do you need prayer, or do you have ideas for future episodes? Send an email to info@livingmarriages.com.

What do you do when your spouse is the problem?
So many of us feel stuck in marriages where our partner doesn't seem to understand us, or isn't willing to change. What are we supposed to do? While marriage is certainly a team effort, sometimes the starting place has to be with me.
In this episode, we dive into:

Renewing your mind: Exploring the practical application of Romans 12:2 in the midst of conflict.

True humility: What it looks like to lay down the need to "win" an argument.

Self-regulation: Why we must begin with our own thoughts and emotions, not changing our spouse.

Resources Mentioned:

Missed our last episode? Listen to our inspiring conversation with the Raabsmiths on Nervous System Regulation to De-escalate Marriage Fights on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

Recommended Reading: Pick up a copy of Ron and Nan Deal’s great book, The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, available on Amazon.

Want Prayer?
Please get in touch with us! We would love to pray over your relationship. Drop us a line at info@livingmarriages.com.

"What are we even fighting about anymore?"
Have you ever wondered this when fighting with your spouse about money, the in-laws, or even what to have for dinner for the umpteenth time? While these issues matter, underneath the arguments are fundamental, unresolved pain points. As we trigger one another, we find ourselves spiralling in unhealthy conflict.
 
Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith of The Raabsmith Team experienced this firsthand before discovering a powerful, four-step tool to regulate the nervous system and move from pain to peace.
 
In this episode, you’ll learn:

The hidden pain fueling your daily marriage conflict.

How to practically regulate your nervous system mid-argument.

How God wants to step into your conflict to restore true intimacy.

Resources:

Connect with Matthew and Joanna: https://raabsmithteam.com/

Listen to the Raabsmiths' marriage story on the Living Marriages Podcast here.

Find Ron and Nan Deal's "The Mindful Marriage" here.

Get in Touch

If you'd like to get in touch with your feedback, prayer requests or episode ideas, drop us a line! info@livingmarriages.com

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