The Love Doc Podcast

• Episode 9, Season 2: "Your Burning Questions Answered – Straight from Our Private Community"

  Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 9, Season 2: "Your Burning Questions Answered – Straight from Our Private Community"In this special Q&A episode, Dr. Sarah Hensley opens the floor to you—our loyal listeners and members of the Love Doc Clients & Community Facebook Group. After reading through dozens of thoughtful, heartfelt questions submitted by group members, Dr. Hensley sits down to answer as many as she can in one episode. These are real questions from real people—many of whom are navigating the painful complexities of insecure attachment, emotional neglect, and modern relational dynamics.Unsurprisingly, many of the questions center around the dismissive avoidant—an attachment style that continues to confuse and captivate so many of you. Why do they pull away when you get closer? Can they change? What does healing even look like with someone who seems so shut down? Dr. Hensley dives into all of this and more, shedding light on the misunderstood emotional blueprint of the dismissive avoidant partner while also addressing broader topics like boundary setting, nervous system regulation, and self-abandonment in relationships.If you’ve ever felt alone in your experience or wished for more clarity about your patterns and pain points, this episode is for you. And if you’re not already part of the free, private Love Doc Clients & Community Group, this is your invitation to join a supportive, trauma-informed space where you can connect, ask questions anonymously, and receive guidance rooted in attachment science. ➡️ Join the group here. We're excited to make this monthly Q&A a regular part of the podcast, so stay tuned—and keep your questions coming. Your healing matters here.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

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• Episode 8, Season II: "Meet Coach Elizabeth: Coaching with Joy, Purpose, and Compassion"

  Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this heartfelt and inspiring episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley introduces listeners to one of the core members of her coaching team—Coach Elizabeth, a certified relationship coach under The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services. With a deeply rooted background in both education and psychology, Coach Elizabeth brings a unique and powerful blend of empathy, wisdom, and joyful presence to every coaching interaction. Having taught students at every grade level from kindergarten through 12th grade, her transition into relationship coaching felt like a natural extension of her lifelong passion for helping others grow, heal, and thrive. Dr. Hensley and Coach Elizabeth dive into a rich conversation about how coaching beautifully bridges the worlds of therapy and education. With their shared experience in academic settings, both women reflect on how effective coaching often mirrors the best aspects of teaching—offering guidance, structure, curiosity, and support, all while encouraging personal discovery and transformation. Elizabeth’s warm, non-judgmental approach is deeply inspired by the groundbreaking work of Dr. Allan Schore, whose research on joy-based attachment and right-brain emotional regulation highlights the healing potential of emotionally attuned relationships. Elizabeth coaches from a place of deep compassion and trust, creating a secure space where clients feel safe to explore, evolve, and reconnect with themselves and their partners.Throughout the episode, Dr. Hensley poses thoughtful questions about what Coach Elizabeth sees most often in her coaching practice—especially regarding attachment styles and their impact on modern relationships. Coach Elizabeth offers her insight into the most common patterns she sees in her clients and shares her favorite attachment style to coach (you might be surprised!). She also reflects on one of her most memorable client success stories, offering an inspiring glimpse into how powerful the journey of healing and connection can be with the right support. The conversation naturally flows into topics around life-coaching balance, and how both women strive to model sustainable emotional care—both for their clients and themselves.To close, listeners are given a deeper look into Coach Elizabeth’s extensive training and passionate philosophy. Elizabeth Pomeroy holds a Master’s degree in Counseling from Asbury University and is certified directly by Dr. Hensley in attachment-based relationship coaching. She is formally trained in trauma-informed care, attachment theory, and the science of human interaction. With a calming presence and deep emotional insight, Elizabeth specializes in healing attachment wounds, nurturing healthy communication patterns, and integrating faith-based healing strategies where desired. She believes wholeheartedly that humans are wired for connection—but sometimes need guidance navigating the complexities of love. Her coaching is grounded, joyful, and deeply transformative, helping clients bridge the gap between where they are in their relationships and where they long to be.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

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• Episode 7, Season II: “When the Past Keeps Bleeding In: The Science & Stories of Retraumatization”

  Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.In this raw and revealing episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina dive deep into the rarely understood—but widely experienced—phenomenon of retraumatization. What actually happens to the brain and body when we’re retraumatized? Why does it sometimes feel even more painful than the original event? Dr. Hensley walks us through the neurobiological process of retrauma, explaining how trauma is stored in the brain differently than typical memories—lodged in the amygdala and body rather than neatly filed in the hippocampus. So, when a familiar cue triggers that trauma, we often relive it with the same intensity as the original moment—except now it’s stacked on years of previous pain.From a clinical and evolutionary perspective, Dr. Hensley explains how the human nervous system is wired to remember pain for survival. “When you’ve been traumatized over and over, especially in relationships or systems of power, your body becomes hypersensitive—it’s not just hypervigilance; it’s your body trying to keep you alive,” she shares. The repeated trauma essentially short-circuits our ability to regulate emotions or assess danger accurately. The nervous system begins to perceive safety as foreign, and threat as familiar—especially when our trauma stems from people we loved or trusted.The conversation takes a personal turn as both Dr. Hensley and Raina open up about recent experiences of being retraumatized—Raina through an emotionally manipulative exchange with a co-parent, and Dr. Hensley through a recent betrayal that echoed a childhood wound. They both reflect on how these moments didn’t just “remind” them of earlier traumas—they reactivated them, sparking physical symptoms like shaking, shutdown, and dissociation. These aren’t overreactions—they’re biological responses to perceived survival threats, and they’re devastatingly real.The episode also links retrauma to insecure attachment patterns, especially those who find themselves in repeated dynamics with narcissistic or dismissive avoidant (DA) partners. “People with insecure attachment often unconsciously seek out what’s familiar, not what’s safe,” Dr. Hensley explains. “That’s how the retrauma cycle continues—we don’t just remember pain, we recreate it.” The cycle becomes especially dangerous when one’s nervous system is so accustomed to chaos that anything resembling peace feels threatening. They discuss how the body learns to expect harm in love and how, without awareness and healing, retrauma becomes a repeating loop.Lastly, the episode ties into The Love Doc’s ongoing Family Court Series, highlighting the retraumatizing impact of legal systems. From both personal experience and client stories, Raina and Dr. Hensley reveal how courtrooms can become breeding grounds for PTSD—especially when survivors are forced to continually interact with their abusers, relive past harm, or defend their truth in a system that doesn’t always protect them. Even the mere mention of court in a co-parenting text or email can trigger days of dysregulation and panic.This is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever wondered why they “overreact” to certain people, places, or patterns—or why healing sometimes feels so hard. Dr. Hensley and Raina blend science with soul in an episode that’s as validating as it is empowering.Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

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• Episode 7, Season II: “When the Past Keeps Bleeding In: The Science & Stories of Retraumatization”

  Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 7: “When the Past Keeps Bleeding In: The Science & Stories of Retraumatization”In this raw and revealing episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Hensley and Raina dive deep into the rarely understood—but widely experienced—phenomenon of retraumatization. What actually happens to the brain and body when we’re retraumatized? Why does it sometimes feel even more painful than the original event? Dr. Hensley walks us through the neurobiological process of retrauma, explaining how trauma is stored in the brain differently than typical memories—lodged in the amygdala and body rather than neatly filed in the hippocampus. So, when a familiar cue triggers that trauma, we often relive it with the same intensity as the original moment—except now it’s stacked on years of previous pain.From a clinical and evolutionary perspective, Dr. Hensley explains how the human nervous system is wired to remember pain for survival. “When you’ve been traumatized over and over, especially in relationships or systems of power, your body becomes hypersensitive—it’s not just hypervigilance; it’s your body trying to keep you alive,” she shares. The repeated trauma essentially short-circuits our ability to regulate emotions or assess danger accurately. The nervous system begins to perceive safety as foreign, and threat as familiar—especially when our trauma stems from people we loved or trusted.The conversation takes a personal turn as both Dr. Hensley and Raina open up about recent experiences of being retraumatized—Raina through an emotionally manipulative exchange with a co-parent, and Dr. Hensley through a recent betrayal that she has spoke on in detial in Episode 4 "What Can I Say?". They both reflect on how these moments didn’t just “remind” them of earlier traumas—they reactivated them, sparking physical symptoms like shaking, ra[id heart rate, and high emotional reactivity. These aren’t overreactions—they’re biological responses to perceived survival threats, and they’re devastatingly real.The episode also links retrauma to insecure attachment patterns, especially those who find themselves in repeated dynamics with narcissistic or dismissive avoidant (DA) partners. “People with insecure attachment often unconsciously seek out what’s familiar, not what’s safe,” Dr. Hensley explains. “That’s how the retrauma cycle continues—we don’t just remember pain, we recreate it.” The cycle becomes especially dangerous when one’s nervous system is so accustomed to chaos that anything resembling peace feels threatening. Dr. Hensley discusses how the body learns to expect harm in love and how, without awareness and healing, retrauma becomes a repeating loop.This episode also ties into The Love Doc’s Family Court Series, highlighting the retraumatizing impact of legal systems. From both personal experience and client stories, Raina and Dr. Hensley reveal how courtrooms can become breeding grounds for PTSD—especially when survivors are forced to continually interact with their abusers, relive past harm, or defend their truth in a system that doesn’t always protect them. Even the mere mention of court in a co-parenting text or email can trigger days of dysregulation and panic.This is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever wondered why they “overreact” to certain people, places, or patterns—or why healing sometimes feels so hard. Dr. Hensley and Raina blend science with soul in an episode that’s as validating as it is empowering.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

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• Episode 6, Season II | "Due Process Denied: Inside the Broken Family Court System with Attorney Christine Miller"

  Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind’s complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 6, Season II | Family Court Series -  "Due Process Denied: Inside the Broken Family Court System with Attorney Christine Miller"In this gripping and eye-opening episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley sits down with Christine Miller, a seasoned attorney turned fierce advocate for family court reform—and the visionary founder behind Judge-Y, a groundbreaking platform and upcoming app designed to bring transparency and accountability to the courtroom.Christine opens the episode by sharing her reaction to Meg Miller’s heartbreaking case from last week’s episode, shedding legal insight into how red flags were missed, due process was denied, and ultimately how false allegations and judicial oversight led to the unjust removal of Meg’s children. Her analysis is not just professional—it’s deeply personal, fueled by a passion for justice and firsthand knowledge of a broken system.Having practiced family law for years, Christine reveals what drew her into the courtroom—and what eventually pushed her out. She shares unfiltered truths about how the system is failing the very people it claims to protect, particularly children, who often become collateral damage in custody battles riddled with bias, lack of oversight, and limited accountability. What You'll Hear in This Episode:Why due process is almost non-existent in family court—and how judges often take the bench without reading motions or evidenceHow false allegations can lead to devastating outcomes with little recourse or protectionWhy perjury is rarely prosecuted, unlike in criminal court, leaving parents vulnerable to manipulationThe financial exploitation of families through prolonged litigation, draining them emotionally and financiallyThe urgent need for judicial accountability, and why Christine believes judges should be held to higher standardsDr. Hensley’s powerful proposal: Should family court rulings be decided by a jury of 12 peers, just like in criminal court?Christine also introduces her trailblazing platform, Judge-Y—a public review system and upcoming app that provides families with access to verified information and firsthand experiences with local judges and attorneys. Judge-Y is built to empower families with knowledge and help prevent the kind of injustice that is currently far too common.As the episode concludes, Christine reminds us that a significant portion of the population will encounter the family court system, often walking away with little more than trauma, financial devastation, and fractured families. She lays out bold ideas for reform—because without systemic change, we are perpetuating a cycle of harm that echoes for generations.To connect with Christine Miller:📱 TikTok: @kentuckychristine📸 Instagram: @itsmillertimelouisville▶️ YouTube: Its Miller Time Louisville🌐 Learn more or share your own story at Judge-YTune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. To see all of Dr. Hensley’s services please visit the links below and follow her on social media. PROMO CODE FOR OUR LISTNERS: Use LOVEDOC27 to receive 27% off any of Dr. Hensley's courses or her Hybrid Group Coaching Program. Patreons link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

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