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Salad. Donuts. Or... the whole buffet?

Marcella is back with her favorite co-conspirator Ashlyn (@this.isashlynn) for a conversation that is equal parts hilarious, healing, and long overdue.

They were both raised in the Mormon church — where sex was sacred, self-pleasure was a confessional offense, and your body was something to be managed, not enjoyed. So now that they're out? They've had to completely rebuild their relationship with one of the most natural things in the world.

The question on the table: is sex like salad — nourishing, wholesome, good for you — or is it like a donut — indulgent, a little naughty, and something you still kind of feel guilty about after?

Spoiler: it's neither. It's both. It's the entire buffet.

They get into the programming that never fully goes away, the weird guilt that shows up even when you know better, and what it actually looks like to reclaim pleasure when you were taught it wasn't yours to have in the first place. It's raw, it's funny, and it's the kind of conversation that will make you feel a lot less alone.

Pull up a plate. This one's a full spread.

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Buckle up, we've got two Ex Mormon midlife women sharing how they went from everything matters to NOTHING matters!

Marcella is joined by her friend and partner-in-chaos Ashlyn (@this.isashlyn) to talk about something they've both been sitting with for a while: the idea that nothing matters — and why that belief might actually be the most grounding, most freeing, most feeling thing either of them has ever encountered.

As two women who grew up in the Mormon church, they were wired from the beginning to believe that everything mattered — eternally. Every decision carried cosmic weight. Fast forward to now, and a few meaningful experiences with psychedelics have completely rewired how they move through the world.

This episode is equal parts hilarious and profound. They talk about the moments that cracked them open, why "nothing matters" doesn't mean you stop caring or stop feeling — it actually means the opposite — and what it looks like to live a life where you're not performing for an outcome, you're just actually here.

If you've ever felt the relief of letting something go that was never really yours to carry, this one's for you.

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Ashlyn is the host of THIS IS ASHLYN podcast, and hosts midlife awakening retreats! Go follow her, she will light up your life♥

What if Mother's Day isn't actually for mothers?
Marcella Hill and her sister Sharon Johnson are back — and they're blowing up one of the most "sacred" days of the year. Spoiler: the way we celebrate Mother's Day has almost nothing to do with what it was originally intended for. And once you learn that, you can't unsee it.
But they don't stop there. This episode is a full-on audit of the things women do simply because society said so — how we dress, whether we shave, how we decide what's "right" and "wrong," and who actually gets to make those rules. Marcella and Sharon get personal about how their thinking has completely shifted since leaving the Mormon faith, and what it means to finally ask the question nobody raised them to ask:
Why am I doing this — and is it actually for me?
If you've ever followed a tradition, a rule, or a beauty standard on autopilot, this episode is going to hit. Hard.

As always you can find us on social media
Sharon @sharon.a.life
Marcella @BeingMarcellaHill

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Why are so many women feeling disconnected—from their partners, their desire, and even themselves?
In this powerful episode of the Wake Her Up Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Mariah Sophocles, gynecologist and author of The Bedroom Gap, to talk about a topic that so many women experience but few openly discuss: the growing disconnect in intimacy during midlife and long-term relationships.
We dive into the real reasons this “bedroom gap” is happening and why it’s not just about libido. Dr. Sophocles shares the physical, emotional, and relational factors that impact desire, connection, and confidence for women—especially in midlife.
In this conversation, we explore:
• Why so many women feel disconnected from intimacy
• The surprising biological and emotional contributors to the “bedroom gap”
• How communication, curiosity, and self-awareness can rebuild connection
• Why this conversation is so important for women in midlife
This episode is honest, eye-opening, and incredibly validating for any woman who has ever wondered, “Is it just me?”
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In this episode, I sit down with Jessica Frew, life coach, author, and bold decision maker, to talk about her remarkable journey through betrayal, healing, and self-rediscovery.
Jessica shares the deeply personal story of her first marriage and the life-altering discovery that her husband was gay and had an affair with a man. Instead of allowing the experience to break her, she chose a path of compassion, growth, and radical acceptance. Today, they are close friends and co-parents, offering a powerful example of what healing and emotional maturity can look like.
Through her journey, Jessica came to a profound realization: other people do not complete us. We become whole by reconnecting with ourselves. She opens up about releasing expectations, trusting her inner voice, and rebuilding her sense of identity and self-worth. Now, she helps other women do the same by guiding them through betrayal, divorce, and major life transitions.
Jessica is also the author of Shove Your Shoulds, a transformative book about letting go of external pressures and making courageous decisions. You can download the book for free on her website.
Connect with Jessica:
Website: https://heyjessicafrew.com/
Instagram & TikTok: @heyjessicafrew
This conversation is honest, empowering, and deeply validating for any woman navigating heartbreak, reinvention, or the journey back to herself.