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#21 Bonus Episode: Who ARE those guys?
Some people on Instagram have been asking @milklesspodcast about just who Max and Matt actually are. Here's the answer, Raw and Uncut! Childhood, marriage, career - the boys cover the whole enchilada in this candid and informal bonus episode.
#20 Hot Takes | The Best Part of Having Kids (things we hold onto when it sucks)
It's the Season 1 Finale! Not that big a deal, actually, Matt and Max'll be back at it in a few weeks - but it did feel like a good excuse to riff on some of the absolute BEST parts about being a Dad. From laughing your ass off at the dinner table, to having a tiny hype man tell their friends how strong you are - the whole parenting gig comes with some pretty tasty perks. This isn't about ignoring the hard parts - The Boys have spent much of the first nineteen episodes trying to stumble their way through those. But that's what makes remembering the good stuff so important! In the day-to-day grind of life, it can be easy to forget the wins, and a little shot of good vibes goes a long way when the Gremlins won't go the f*ck to sleep. Hopefully this episode sparks a few good memories from your own household, and maybe gives you a trick or two for keeping those types of things near the front of your mind. Parenting isn't a fairytale or a nightmare... it's both! And today we honor the first part. Let's ride.
#19 Worry, Anxiety, and a Poetry Reading That’ll Blow Your C*ck Off
Don't know about you, but Max and Matt both kind of wish somebody had told them that having kids meant signing up for a lifetime of worry. Some of that anxiety is inevitable. As parents, we all have to reconcile the fact that our favorite tiny humans will go out and encounter a world that can be scary and unpredictable. And as mammals, it's our job to protect the offspring, so the Mama/Papa bear instinct needs to be strong. But how do you keep that natural parental worry from slipping into its unproductive big brother, persistent anxiety - especially in an era of rapid change, nonstop incoming information, and 24/7 news that's designed to scare the sh*t out of us. The Boys dive into it all, from sweating it around swimming pools, to pouring over finances, and hand-wringing about the state of the world. The chaos of life isn't going anywhere, so it's all about getting ourselves in a place to meet that uncertainty with confidence and calm. Sleep, exercise, the great outdoors, therapy - Max and Matt talk about the tools and practices they lean on to quiet those internal voices that like to freak the f*ck out. Let's do this!
#18: Parenting Mistakes: 7 Things We Both Do Sometimes That Kind of Suck
While doing research for another episode, Max came across an article called, "7 Mistakes that Destroy Kids' Mental Strength." After getting past the clickbaity headline, he actually found some pretty solid ideas. The boys go down the list one-by-one (just about all of these are things we mess up sometimes). How often do we rescue our kids from necessary struggle? What does it look like to navigate a ridiculous tantrum without invalidating your child's real feelings? Is it cool to spit on ducks, or is that a hard no? Nobody's destroying anybody around here, but it would be cool if we could avoid a few of these things a little more often. Now, let's go obliterate this episode.
#17 When Your Sweet, Wonderful Kids Make You Want to Light Yourself on Fire
Dad… Dad.. Dad! DadDadDadDadDaaaaaaaaaddy Dad! -WHAT?!?! Getting annoyed with your kids is a time-honored tradition as old as parenting itself... but it still sucks! Why is it that the people we love by far the MOST in the world (no offense, spouses) so often drive us up the MFing wall? It's the little things - from fighting over the window seat, to totally disregarding sound parental guidance, to the never-ending barrage of “why?” - that can make even the best of us want to scream. So, are kids just inherently annoying? Is there any hope? And how do we come to see some of those behaviors not as pestering, but as an expression of real, legitimate needs - manifestations of curiosity and development in action. Because, while our kids are, undeniably, enormous burdens on all of us - we sure as hell don't want them to feel that way. And it wasn't their idea to be born and need us so bad. Matt and Max dive into the suuuuuper fun world of getting annoyed with your kids. Are we there yet?
Searching for that parenthood balance so when our kids are old they look back and say, "yeah, my dad (or mom) was awesome," however we get there. And while we love our kids unconditionally, that doesn't mean we're wimpy pushover dads who have lost every shred of dignity and respect in the home. Let's find that balance together. We're Milkless.