Stepmom Side Chats

Friendships as a stepmom can feel... complicated. In this raw and honest episode of Stepmom Side Chats, Alyssa and Becca dive into one of the most isolating parts of stepmom life, how friendships shift when your reality becomes blended family drama, court dates, co-parenting chaos, and emotions your friends simply may not understand.
We’re talking about losing friendships, feeling judged, oversharing, emotional boundaries, and why so many stepmoms feel like no one truly gets it. We also share personal stories of friendships that changed, what we wish we had done differently, and how to find the people who can actually support you through this journey.
Plus, we end with one of our favorite segments: Texts I Didn’t Send, and trust us... these submissions are wild.
If you’ve ever felt alone, misunderstood, or like your friendships changed after becoming a stepmom, this episode is for you.

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Disclaimer: This episode includes discussion of suicide, domestic violence, and mental health crises. Please take care while listening.
In this episode of Stepmom Sidechats, Alyssa & Becca sit down with Randy Keith, also known as Present Father, a fatherhood advocate, creator, and founder of the Present Father Movement. Randy shares his deeply personal story of divorce, navigating a high-conflict custody battle, parallel parenting, and what it has looked like to fight to stay present for his children through some of the hardest seasons of his life.
We also talk about the impact of mental health, how children can become caught in the middle during high-conflict dynamics, the realities of blended family life, and what support from a partner can look like when co-parenting feels anything but peaceful. Randy offers a rare and honest dad’s perspective on loyalty binds, weaponized parenting, stepmom support, and why consistency, documentation, and emotional regulation matter so much.
This conversation is raw, validating, and full of insight for stepmoms, dads, and anyone navigating the complexities of high-conflict co-parenting and blended family life.

Connect with Randy Keith:
Instagram: @present.fathers
Website: ⁠https://present-father.com/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Present-Father

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In this episode, Alyssa and Becca sit down to unpack what this holiday really feels like as stepmoms, especially when you’re doing all the “mom things” but don’t always get the recognition that comes with it.
They reflect on where they started, navigating Mother’s Day as childless stepmoms, and how their experiences have evolved over time. From awkward first holidays to now balancing life as both stepmoms and biological moms, Alyssa and Becca share the honest, unfiltered reality of what this day brings up.
They get into the tough questions, what hurts more, no acknowledgment or forced acknowledgment? What role should partners actually play? And how do kids experience this day when they’re caught between two homes?
Along the way, Alyssa and Becca talk about expectations, resentment, growth, and why creating your own version of Mother’s Day might be the key to getting through it.
If you’ve ever felt invisible, conflicted, or unsure where you fit on Mother’s Day, this conversation will make you feel seen.

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In this episode of Alyssa & Becca, we sit down with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober, an Enneagram coach and speaker, to talk about how understanding your Enneagram type can help you navigate stepmom life with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion.
We get into how different Enneagram types respond to conflict, triggers, boundaries, people-pleasing, resentment, and relationship dynamics, especially inside blended families. We also talk about why stepmom life can feel so emotionally layered, how your core motivations shape the way you react, and what it can look like to better understand both yourself and the people around you.
Whether you are the stepmom who overthinks everything, takes things to heart, avoids conflict, or feels like you always have to prove yourself, this conversation offers insight into why you may respond the way you do and how that awareness can help you move through blended family dynamics with more intention.
We also answer a listener question and share practical takeaways for stepmoms who want to better understand their triggers, communication patterns, and emotional responses.

Connect with Ashton:
Instagram: @enneagramashton Website:https://www.enneagramashton.com/
Click here to: Find out your enneagram

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Season 2 is here and we’re starting with a conversation so many stepmoms know by heart. In this first episode, Alyssa & Becca talk about the exact moment they realized stepmom life was not what they thought they signed up for. From overfunctioning, unrealistic expectations, and feeling invisible in your own home, to the emotional labor, criticism, and identity shifts no one prepares you for, we’re getting honest about the parts of stepmom life that hit the hardest.
We’re also sharing what we wish we would’ve known earlier, the boundaries we wish we’d set sooner, and the biggest lessons we’ve learned along the way. If you’ve ever thought, “Wait… this is not what I expected,” this episode is for you.

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