The Art of Becoming Visible

What if the life you want isn't waiting for you to become someone new—but to finally give yourself permission to become more fully you?
In this episode I sit down with leadership strategist and Reinvention Road Trip creator Jes Averhart for a powerful conversation about reinvention, visibility, confidence and letting go of the beliefs that keep us small. Jes shares how she went from refusing to speak into a microphone for more than 20 years to becoming an international speaker—and why looking back at your own "highlight reel" can give you the courage to take your next bold step.
We also talk about designing ourselves back into our own lives, embracing the changes that come with midlife, and remembering that you don't need a whole new life—you need the courage to live more fully into who you already are.
If you've been feeling the pull toward something more, this conversation is your invitation to stop waiting for permission.
This Episode Explores:
● Why reinvention isn't about becoming someone new—it's about
becoming more fully YOU.
● The invisible beliefs that can keep us playing small for decades—and
how to finally break free from them.
● How to stop designing yourself out of your own life and start reclaiming
what makes you feel alive.
● Why you don't need anyone's permission to be seen or step boldly into
what's next.
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If you have plenty of clothes but still stand in front of your closet thinking, I have nothing to wear, this episode is for you.
The problem probably isn't that you need more clothes. It's that somewhere along the way, your wardrobe stopped making sense.
In Part One of my Build a Better Wardrobe series, we're talking about how disconnected purchases, impulse buys, changing bodies and lifestyles, trends, and even an outdated version of yourself can leave you with a closet full of clothes—but very little that actually feels like you.
Because a better wardrobe doesn't begin with buying more.
It begins with understanding why the one you have isn't working.
And if this hits home, join me for my free masterclass, How to Build a Better Wardrobe, where I'll show you what to do next. Sign up now:
https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/Free-Live-Masterclass
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What if the only thing standing between you and the life you want is the
belief that you have to earn your place in it?
In this deeply moving conversation, Crissy Fishbane shares how surviving a
life-changing accident at sixteen transformed the way she saw herself—and
why so many women spend their lives trying to prove they're worthy instead
of simply taking up space. Together, we explore courage, visibility,
perfectionism, and why confidence isn't something you have before you
begin—it's something you build by showing up. If you've ever felt like you
were playing small, waiting until you were "ready," or wondering if you
belong, this episode is for you.
In This Episode, We Explore…
● Why confidence is built through action—not before it—and how messy
beginnings are the price of becoming visible.
● The hidden belief that you must prove your worth before taking up
space, and how to finally let it go.
● How courage, curiosity, and self-expression can transform the way you
show up in your life and the world.
My guest today is Crissy Fishbane, a speaker, educator, and co-founder of
HER Health Collective who helps people move beyond perfectionism,
pressure, and the need to prove their worth so they can build lives grounded
in courage, curiosity, connection, and belonging.
Drawing from her own extraordinary story, a background in psychology and
education, and years of experience building thriving communities, Crissy
inspires audiences to redefine success and create lives that feel deeply
meaningful—not just impressive on the outside.
Crissy's StyleFinder ID is Sporty/Natural with a touch of Whimsical, a beautiful
reflection of her approachable, grounded nature and the playful curiosity she
brings to every conversation. She has a gift for making people feel safe enough to let down their guard, while gently encouraging them to step more fully into themselves.
In this conversation, we talk about what it really means to take up space, why
so many women struggle with the need to prove their worth, and how
courage isn't something you're born with—it's something you build one
small, brave step at a time.
Let's dive in.
Connect with Crissy here: https://herhealthcollective.com/ and
https://crissyfishbane.com/
Follow Crissy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/crissyfishbane/
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When Wendy Valentine found herself divorced, deeply in debt, chronically ill,
grieving multiple losses, and facing a future she no longer recognized, she
made one life-changing decision: she stopped abandoning herself.
Today's guest, Wendy Valentine, is an internationally published author,
certified life coach, keynote speaker, founder of Midlifology™, and host of the
globally ranked The Midlife Makeover Show™. Through her bestselling book
Women Waking Up: The Midlife Manifesto for Passion, Purpose, and Play and
her signature FREEDOM Framework®, Wendy is helping women around the
world redefine what it means to thrive in midlife.
In this inspiring conversation, Wendy shares the pivotal moment that
changed everything. Standing at rock bottom, she envisioned herself sitting
in the driver's seat of an RV—not because of the adventure itself, but because
of the woman behind the wheel. That single image became the catalyst for
an extraordinary reinvention, leading her to bestselling books, a top-ranked
podcast, international travel, and a life she once believed was out of reach.
This episode is a powerful reminder that reinvention doesn't begin when life
changes—it begins the moment you decide to choose yourself again.
In this episode, you'll discover:
● Why the greatest obstacle to becoming visible isn't other people's
rejection—it's the ways we've been abandoning ourselves.
● How one simple vision of becoming "the woman in the driver's seat"
transformed Wendy's life from divorce, debt, and chronic illness into
purpose, freedom, and joy.
● Why midlife isn't something to survive—it's the perfect season to
rediscover yourself, reclaim your voice, and step fully into the woman
you were always meant to become.
If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to begin again, this conversation
will remind you that your best chapter may be just beginning.
Connect with Wendy here: https://wendyvalentine.com/
Get Wendy's book, Women Waking Up, here: https://on.ltk.com/+v_g-HisZGfB2oxQ8qOB4mA
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There are moments in life that completely change the way we see
ourselves—not because our circumstances change, but because our
perspective does.
My guest today is Nicole Phillips, a keynote speaker and five-time author
whose work centers on one powerful idea: what you look for is what you
see. A former TV news anchor and hospital chaplain, Nicole now helps
audiences rewrite the stories they're living by. She hosts The Kindness
Podcast, named one of the top happiness podcasts by Oprah Magazine, has
appeared on NBC Nightly News, the Hallmark Channel, and HGTV's House
Hunters, and has shared her message with more than 30,000 people across
200-plus speaking events.
But her own transformation began with one unexpected encounter at a
neighborhood swimming pool with a girl in a gold bikini.
What started as a simple act of kindness became the catalyst for overcoming
addiction, negative self-talk, burnout, and self-rejection, ultimately leading
her to a life of greater joy, purpose, and impact.
In this conversation, you'll discover:
● Why the stories we tell ourselves shape the lives we create
● How to stop rejecting yourself before the world ever has the chance to
say yes
● The surprising lesson that taught Nicole about happiness, and the one
question that has the power to shift everything.
If you've ever struggled with confidence, visibility, or believing your voice truly
matters, this episode will inspire you to see yourself—and your life—through
an entirely new lens.
Take the FREE Signature Style quiz now and discover your archetype:
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Follow Nicole Phillips here: https://nicolejphillips.com/
Get her book, The Negativity Remedy, here: https://amzn.to/3RnJFJa
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