Become New with John Ortberg

What if the key to overcoming condemnation isn’t arguing better — but listening better?

In this episode, John explores Jesus’ surprising instruction in Luke 8:18: “Consider carefully how you listen.” Through the parable of the sower, Jesus explains that the condition of our hearts determines whether the words we hear bring growth or simply bounce off.

John shares a recent moment when he caught himself listening critically instead of humbly — and how a simple shift changed everything.

You’ll learn:

- why we often listen in order to judge
- the three unhealthy ways we listen
- what Jesus means by a “good and noble heart”
- how humble listening opens the door to growth
- why listening well makes condemnation harder

When we begin to listen with humility — asking what God might want to show us — conversations change. And so do we.

Because there is now no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Deborah Tannen, You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation 
Kenneth E. Bailey, Poet & Peasant: A Literary-Cultural Approach to the Parables in Luke 

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The opposite of condemnation isn’t just restraint...it’s blessing.

In this episode, John Ortberg explores how Jesus calls us to become people who actively bless others — even those who curse us. Drawing from Scripture and insights from The Blessing by Gary Smalley and John Trent, John walks through five powerful ways to bless others: meaningful words, honoring value, appropriate touch, envisioning a future, and showing up with presence.

Blessing doesn’t just change others — it changes us.
Because when we bless, we live the life Jesus envisioned.
There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Gary Smalley & John Trent, Ph.D., The Blessing 

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Why does condemnation feel like it’s everywhere today?

In this episode, John Ortberg explores a cultural shift: we no longer define a “good person” by love and character, but by holding the “right” opinions. The result? More judgment, more division, and less humility.

Jesus offered a different path — a life marked by compassion, forgiveness, and what Kierkegaard called “blithe humility.” Like the birds and lilies, we can release the burden of controlling the world and trust God with it.

The result is freedom, joy, and a life without condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Søren Kierkegaard, The Lily of the Field and the Bird of the Air
Grace Hamman, Ask of Old Paths: Medieval Virtues and Vices for a Whole and Holy Life 
Doug Teschner et al., Beyond the Politics of Contempt: Practical Steps to Build Positive Relationships in Divided Times

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What if the antidote to condemnation isn’t trying harder to be nice… but learning to know yourself?

In this conversation, John Ortberg talks with philosopher Jim Taylor about intellectual virtue — qualities like humility, courage, and self-knowledge that help us pursue truth and love people well.

Jesus warned against condemning judgment, but he also invited us to remove the log in our own eye. The path forward begins with honest self-examination and a simple prayer:

“Search me, O God, and know my heart.”

Because when we grow in self-knowledge, condemnation loses its grip.

📚 Today's Resources:
The Blessing — Gary Smalley & John Trent
The Lost Art of Listening — Michael Nichols (with Martha Straus)

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You don’t condemn people… right?
Let me stop you right there.
In this episode, John Ortberg walks through six surprisingly common styles of condemnation — from the obvious (aggressive anger) to the subtle (silence, sarcasm, perfectionism, conditional acceptance, even martyrdom).
We all judge.
 We all distance.
 We all find creative ways to say, “I’m above you.”
Drawing on Scripture, psychology, and real-life examples (including the “Pan Am smile” and the devastating power of ridicule), John helps us name our default style — and invites the Holy Spirit to gently interrupt it.
Because condemnation doesn’t just hurt others.
 It corrodes us.
And the freedom we’re after this Lent is simple and radical:
Let me stop you right there.
There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

📚 Today's Resources:
Paul Tournier, Guilt and Grace: A Psychological Study
Lewis B. Smedes, Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve 

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