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Keith and Rebecca are taking over the podcast this week and are answering your questions — from how to find a healthy church community to whether complementarianism is a dealbreaker. They're refreshingly honest and a little funny about it. Then Joanna joins to dig into a brand-new peer-reviewed paper on how internalized modesty messaging affects girls' self-esteem and their risk of being sexually harassed in church as minors. What they found is both unsurprising and deeply sobering: environments that emphasize modesty messaging don't just harm girls, they actually groom boys into predatory behavior. It's research that needs to get out of their little corner of the internet and into the broader conversation, and your support made it possible.
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Love & Respect Docuseries
Book suggestions from Rebecca: Mistborn Series by Brandon Sanderson
Project Hail Mary - Andy Weir
Shattered Sea Trilogy - Joe Abercrombie
Farseer Trilogy - Robin Hobb
(Join The Patreon for our great book club for more!)
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What does it mean to have realistic expectations of a spouse with ADHD? How does gender play into how ADHD impacts a relationship? And what do accommodations actually look like—versus what do they not look like in a healthy marriage?
This week Rebecca talks about her own diagnosis of ADHD with her father Keith (a pediatrician) and good friend Daniel Forsythe (a licensed psychotherapist who works with neurodiverse marriages frequently) to dig down to discuss what the evidence actually says is possible, the risk of “caregiver burnout”, and more as Rebecca picks the brains of the actual professionals so we can all land in an evidence-based place!
THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized!
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
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Study regarding impact of ADHD on women versus men in adulthood
Write-up on how we falsely believe that ADHD is easier on women
Study on how a messy home impacts women versus men’s social standing and who we intrinsically believe is “responsible” for cleaning
The Marriage You Want book
Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? 
A more therapeutic book about counselling practices for marriages working with ADHD: 
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if the reason so many women struggle with desire, arousal, and orgasm has nothing to do with their bodies—and everything to do with what they were taught before they even wanted to be sexual? In this episode, Rebecca and I pull together research and real-life stories to trace a thread that runs from how we raise our daughters, to what happens on the wedding night, to why so many women are secretly faking it.
THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized!
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
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Our Orgasm Course and Boost Your Libido Course
Love and Respect Docu-Series
Research Paper: "Sexual Passion in Adolescence: Examining Its Transmission Through Mothers"
Research Paper: "Do Women Withhold Honest Sexual Communication When They Believe Their Partner's Manhood Is Threatened?"
Instagram Thread by Ally Jolie (somatic psychologist, UK)
Podcast episode on men projecting sexual attention-seeking onto girls

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Jay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido is never just a libido problem. If you've ever felt broken, empty, or like you don't even know what you want anymore, this conversation is for you.
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Get Jay Stringer's book Desire
Get Jay's book Unwanted
Follow Jay on Instagram
Sheila's book The Marriage You Want, and the video curriculum that goes with it
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Anna Rollins grew up as the kind of girl who took her faith seriously — and that's exactly why it hurt her so much. In this conversation, Anna and I dig into her memoir Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, where she traces how purity culture's messages about desire, self-denial, and the body quietly fueled decades of disordered eating, compulsive exercise, and sexual pain. What strikes me most is that Anna's parents were loving, her church wasn't overtly abusive — and yet the cumulative message she absorbed was shrink yourself.  I think this conversation is going to resonate deeply with so many of you.
THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
Join our email list!
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Get Anna Rollins' book Famished
Follow Anna on Substack
Watch our Love & Respect Docuseries 
The Portuguese version of The Great Sex Rescue
The Chinese version of The Great Sex Rescue
The Spanish version of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.