Big Lash Energy - Self-Help, Confidence & Real Talk for Women!

Is there really such a thing as "happily divorced"?  If you or someone you know has been quietly suffering in an unhappy, unfulfilling, or soul-crushing relationship for far too long, If you know deep down it's over, but something keeps you stuck... then this was written just for you.
This epiosde is an encouraging message for anyone who feels trapped, who's been carrying the weight of "should I stay or should I go?" and can't seem to pull the plug. Jayna shares her own experience with divorce, as well as the things we don't usually say out loud—the relief, the rediscovery, the unexpected joy on the other side.
If you've been unhappy for a long time and wondering if there's more waiting on the other side… this episode is your permission slip to start wanting more and making your peace a priority.
A gentle reminder that sometimes, what seems like an ending is really a new beginning.

Are your friends top tier, or have you just gotten used to the bare minimum?
In this episode, Jayna is putting friendships to the test—with a playful (but telling 👀) Fab Friend Report Card that will have you side-eyeing your group chat in the best way. From hype levels and loyalty to jealousy (or lack thereof), reciprocity, and being a true safe space… we're breaking down what top tier friendship actually looks like.
You'll be scoring your circle in real time—1 to 3 for each category—plus a little bonus point for something Jayna describes as the highest top tier quality.
But don't worry—this isn't about cancelling your friends. It's about getting honest about what you have, what you deserve, and what you might want to call in more of.
Because the truth is… not everyone is meant to be top tier—and that doesn't make them bad. It just means they might not be your people in that way.
So grab a pen, open your notes app, and let's find out…
✨ Are your besties the best… or is it time for a friendship upgrade?
SCORING
💛 7–12 points: "Baseline Friends"
These are your good, normal, everyday friends.
They:
like you
enjoy your company
show up when it's easy
But they might not:
go out of their way
deeply invest
or consistently show up at that next level
"These are your 'we have a good time' friends… not necessarily your 'I'd trust you with my life' friends."
👉 Translation: Totally fine… just know what lane they belong in.
🙂 13–16 points: "Growing Into It"
There's definitely something better than average here here.
Your friends:
have top tier moments
show flashes of real depth
sometimes rise to the occasion
But it's not fully consistent yet.
"They can be that friend… they're just not always that friend."
👉 Translation: Potential is there—but consistency is what makes it elite.
🔥 17–19 points: "Solid Circle"
Okay this is a strong group.
These friends:
support you
care about you
show up in meaningful ways
You likely feel:
safe
valued
and seen most of the time
"You've got real connection here… this isn't surface level."
👉 Translation: This is a circle you can build with.
💎 20–21 points: "Top Tier Energy"
Now we're talking.
These are the friends who:
consistently show up
genuinely celebrate you
inspire you
and make your life better just by being in it
"You don't question them… you experience them."
👉 Translation: This is the kind of friendship people wish they had.
👑 22 points (with bonus): "Elite, Ride-or-Die"
This is rare air.
These friends:
don't just support your life… they're part of building it
protect your name
show up behind the scenes
and would absolutely help you move, cry, build, heal… all of it
"These aren't just friends… these are your people."
👉 Translation: Keep them close. Be that friend back.

If you're going through something right now… this one's for you.
This week, Jayna found herself emotionally drained — the kind of tired that sleep doesn't fix. And the hardest part? The world doesn't stop because you're having a hard day. Life keeps life-ing! There's work, deadlines, mom duties, pets… all the things that still need you, even when you don't feel like yourself.
So today's episode is about the one small, simple thing Jayna does to keep going when life feels heavy, overwhelming, and just plain hard.
It's something simple... but somehow, it makes a world of difference.
And if you're in a season where you're just trying to get through the day…this might help you do exactly that. 
 
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Our not-so-secret goal is to create a tribe of badass women who find beauty in the messiest parts of life. We're learning and laughing as we go! If you know someone who could use a little BLE in their life? If so, could you pretty please share this show with them! ...let's grow this tribe together! 
 
HOW TO CONNECT:
 Find us on INSTAGRAM! 
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 Jaynas makeup and personal IG:
JaynaMarieMakeup 
 We're official! Here's our website:
www.biglashpodcast.com 
 
IN THIS EPISODE:
How to stay positive when life feels overwhelming

A simple mindset shift that helps you get through hard days

What "micro wins" are and why they matter

How to find small blessings 

The real reason the little things can make the biggest difference

How to keep going when you feel emotionally drained

How to cope on the hard days 

The power of noticing what's still going right

A funny, real-life story about finding a "micro win" in an unexpected moment

Why gratitude doesn't have to be big to be powerful

The Red Car Theory

Consider this a "How It's Made" BLE style. In this episode, you'll get a peek behind the curtain along with some fun facts, messages from some of the BLE besties and the inside scoop as to what's next for BLE and the exciting direction the show is heading.
Whether you're a day one listener, a cherry-picker who's only here for the drama or someone who just discovered the show — this episode is a celebration of how far BLE has come since episode 1.
Cheers to 200 (plus one!) episodes of BLE...
If there's one thing we know for sure, the story is just getting started!
 
🧡 If you enjoy this show and would like to show your appreciation, please click here: Buymeacoffee.com/BigLashEnergy
Our not-so-secret goal is to create a tribe of badass women who find beauty in the messiest parts of life. We're learning and laughing as we go! If you know someone who could use a little BLE in their life? If so, could you pretty please share this show with them! ...let's grow this tribe together! 
 
HOW TO CONNECT:
 Find us on INSTAGRAM! 
BigLashPodcast 
 Jaynas makeup and personal IG:
JaynaMarieMakeup 
 We're official! Here's our website:
www.biglashpodcast.com

This was supposed to be a celebration, but life had other plans. Days before recording her 200th episode, Jayna lost one of her dearest friends. Someone who supported BLE since conception, wore the hoodie with pride and spread his bad ass, Big Lash Energy everywhere he went. Instead of a party, this is a quiet moment to reflect on friendship, grief, and a gentle reminder that none of us know how many days we have left.
big hugs to all of Nathans family and friends
🧡 If you enjoy this show and would like to show your appreciation, please click here: Buymeacoffee.com/BigLashEnergy
Our not-so-secret goal is to create a tribe of badass women who find beauty in the messiest parts of life. We're learning and laughing as we go! If you know someone who could use a little BLE in their life? If so, could you pretty please share this show with them! ...let's grow this tribe together! 
 
HOW TO CONNECT:
 Find us on INSTAGRAM! 
BigLashPodcast 
 Jaynas makeup and personal IG:
JaynaMarieMakeup 
 We're official! Here's our website:
www.biglashpodcast.com 
 
IN THIS EPISODE:
Mourning the loss of a loved one 
Unexpected loss
My experience at On Air Fest New York
Dealing with grief
Friendship story