The Sabrina Zohar Show

Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.

If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous

02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him

05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs

09:30 What Discernment Actually Means

11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?

14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating

17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy

19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To

21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise

25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change

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What does it actually mean to do the work? In this solo episode, Sabrina breaks down how therapy talk gets weaponized to dodge accountability, and what real healing looks like when you stop intellectualizing and start implementing. She digs into sitting in discomfort, regulating your nervous system, the difference between ruminating and processing, why journaling rewires your brain, and how inner child work changes the way you show up in dating and relationships.

She also answers a listener question about telling a healthy, secure partner you're not ready, unpacks anxious and avoidant attachment, and shares why detaching from the outcome is the number one lesson of doing the work. If you're tired of surface level advice and ready for the real, unsexy practice of becoming secure in yourself and your relationships, this one is for you, babes.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

0:00 Therapy Talk Is Killing Accountability

3:10 What Doing The Work Actually Means

5:59 Stop Using AI To Replace Therapy

8:16 Ruminating vs Processing

11:20 Inner Child Work In Practice

13:43 Healing Doesnt Erase The Pain

16:34 Detaching From The Outcome

19:21 There Is No Being Fully Healed

22:30 Single vs Relationship Healing

25:48 Tool Of The Week + Product Of The Week

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Why do you keep chasing someone who only shows up halfway? Sabrina breaks down the difference between choosing yourself and waiting to be chosen, and why hope works exactly like a slot machine when you are stuck in a situationship. She reads a listener letter about falling for a married man from the gym, unpacks why ghosting and mixed signals feel so addictive, and explains how intermittent reinforcement turns a fantasy into an obsession you cannot shake.

Plus the first ever listener voice note on modern dating and dating app burnout, why early intensity says nothing about someone's intention, and a rapid fire round covering how to get over not being chosen, surviving a long distance breakup, handling core wounds and triggers that pop up out of nowhere, and what to demand when someone comes crawling back. If you are done with breadcrumbs, low effort dating, and being the one who always texts first, this one is for you.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Two Dates Then They Went Cold

03:00 Why Going Slow Beats Intensity

06:00 Gym Crush Turned Out To Be Married

09:00 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Them

12:00 Asking Why Keeps You Stuck

15:00 You Weren't Replaced, Reframe It

18:00 Core Wounds That Randomly Pop Up

21:00 Has Modern Dating Actually Changed

24:00 Attention Versus Intention In Dating

26:39 Tool Of The Week: Choosing Yourself

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What actually makes someone attractive, and why it has almost nothing to do with how they look. Sabrina sits down with Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam for a conversation that goes completely off script, into her father wound, the dating patterns she repeated through all of her 20s, and why the relationship she almost walked away from for being "boring" turned into the healthiest one she's ever had.

They get into energy and attraction, healing childhood wounds, why safe love feels boring to a dysregulated nervous system, how to know if you're settling or actually in the right relationship, why a secure partner will still trigger you, and how fast you move from rupture to repair. If you keep dating the same person in a different body, this one is for you.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠

Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

Chapters:

00:00 What Makes Someone Attractive

03:36 What Makes A Man Attractive

07:20 Healing The Father Wound

11:08 Why You Think You're The Problem

14:40 Choosing The Man You Didn't Want

18:32 Why My Dad Disowned Me

21:45 Going Against Your Nature Works

25:43 Are You Settling Or Growing

29:30 Dating Again After Divorce

34:09 Does Staying Single Protect Your Peace

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Certainty in dating is a fantasy. There is no milestone, not exclusivity, not "I love you," not moving in, not marriage, that finally makes relationship anxiety go away. In this episode Sabrina breaks down why your brain would rather have a bad answer than no answer, how anxious attachment turns an unanswered text into a story about rejection, and why chasing, overthinking, testing, people pleasing, and checking your phone every five seconds are ways of managing anxiety rather than dating strategies.

She also separates the two kinds of discomfort: walking on eggshells, accepting breadcrumbs, and tolerating mixed signals and inconsistency, versus asking for what you need, setting boundaries, saying no, and letting someone leave. Plus the tool of the week, evidence versus story, a simple practice for catching the narrative your brain invents when you do not have all the information. Secure people are not secure because they have certainty, they have capacity.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠

Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

Chapters:

00:00 Why certainty in dating is a fantasy

02:58 Why your brain needs an answer now

05:39 Overthinking texts and short replies

08:01 Why not knowing feels so stressful

10:24 Wrong discomfort vs right discomfort

13:12 Do they come back after a break?

15:54 Why control does not make you safer

18:38 Why you attract the same people

21:53 Tool: evidence vs the story

23:48 Why secure people have more capacity

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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