Living with your Thoughts

• Episode 210 A 30-Day Stop People-Pleasing Plan

  A 30-Day Stop People-Pleasing Plan

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• Episode 209 Who are You on the other side of not saying YES to Everything

  I’ve talked about people-pleasing before, but I see this struggle every single day, and the truth is… we can’t talk about it enough. So many people are carrying invisible guilt, exhaustion, and resentment simply because saying no feels impossible. And it’s time to change that.Today, we’re diving into why we people-please in the first place—and here’s the secret most people don’t know:People-pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy.Something you learned, not something you are.Maybe being quiet, helpful, or agreeable was how you earned love.Maybe conflict made you anxious, so you avoided disappointing anyone.Maybe your worth felt tied to how useful you were.Or maybe you’re deeply empathetic and feel other people’s discomfort like it’s your own.Wherever it came from, people-pleasing isn’t a flaw. It’s a coping mechanism that once protected you—but now, it may be holding you back. In your goals. In your peace. Even in your health.In this episode, we’re going to talk about the real cost of always saying yes, what boundaries actually are (and what they’re not), and how to start saying no without guilt—practically, calmly, and confidently.Because every time you say yes to something you don’t want…you say no to something you do want.Let’s change that.Let’s talk about the art of saying no.

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• Episode 208 The Dice We Roll - The Life We Build

  What if the choices that scare you the most are the ones that grow you the deepest? In this episode, I talk about rolling the dice—taking the step, saying yes, and trusting yourself even when the outcome is unknown.Because fear will always try to keep you safe… but intuition will always nudge you forward.So ask yourself: what might shift if you finally let go of control and took the leap anyway?

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• Episode 207 The Chair You Find Yourself In

  I invite listeners to pause, breathe, and reflect on where they are — both literally and metaphorically. The “chair” represents one’s present situation, shaped by past experiences (“the chairs behind us”) and guiding toward future possibilities (“the chairs ahead”).​The chair you’re in now: It’s important to notice and learn from your current season — even if it feels uncomfortable or ill-fitting. Every moment has lessons to teach about who you are and what you need.​The chairs behind you: Each past experience — whether painful, beautiful, or ordinary — has shaped your strength, humility, and self-awareness. Those chairs built your resilience and formed the posture with which you now face life.​The chairs ahead: These represent future opportunities and unknown paths. You can sense their pull, but you can’t rush into them. Growth happens when you fully inhabit your current “chair,” learn from it, and trust that you’ll know when it’s time to move forward.Ultimately, the episode is an invitation to be present, to reflect on how past experiences have moulded you, and to look ahead with curiosity and courage. Every chair — past, present, and future — tells a story and contributes to becoming the best version of yourself.

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• Episode 206 The Impatience Within

  This episode explores patience not as weakness or delay, but as wisdom and presence. It examines why impatience arises—biologically, psychologically, and culturally—and offers practical ways to live more patiently.Why We’re Impatient​Biological roots: Our brains evolved for survival and instant gratification. The dopamine system rewards immediacy, so waiting feels uncomfortable.​Psychological roots: Impatience stems from a desire for control and certainty. Waiting exposes our lack of control, which triggers anxiety.​Cultural roots: Modern life glorifies speed—fast food, instant delivery, productivity metrics—teaching us that faster equals better. The Wisdom of Patience​Patience isn’t passive — it’s “choosing presence over pressure.”​It’s about allowing life to unfold without forcing outcomes, being a human being rather than a human doing.​Impatience lives in the future; patience lives in the present. When we are present, time softens.The Practice of Patience Practical strategies include:​Recognise triggers: Notice when and why you feel impatient. Awareness creates space before reaction.​Reframe waiting: See waiting as open space—a chance to breathe, think, or rest mindfully.​Shift from control to trust: Trust the process and focus only on what you can control—your breath, your response, your presence.​Use your body to calm your mind: Deep breathing and relaxation signal safety to the nervous system.​Challenge your story: Replace “this shouldn’t be happening” with “this is taking the time it needs.”​Practice presence daily: Do one thing slowly—drink coffee, walk, or listen without distraction.​Accept imperfection: Be patient and kind with yourself; self-compassion breeds patience with others. The Closing Reflection Patience is not waiting for the future—it’s being fully here. As you move through your day, pause and ask:“What’s one small step I can take toward peace or purpose?”Then take it—because action is the bridge between intention and transformation.

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