The Thais Gibson Podcast

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The Dark Tetrad - Epstein & Huge Dating Red Flags to Spot Early.

The Dark Tetrad refers to four socially harmful personality traits that can show up in dating, friendships, communities, and even positions of power:

Narcissism
Machiavellianism
Psychopathy
Sadism

Episode Summary
In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down how these traits operate, how they overlap with grooming and manipulation dynamics, and most importantly, how to spot early warning signs before you learn the hard way. This isn’t about diagnosing people. It’s about pattern recognition so you can protect your boundaries, your emotional health, and your future relationships.

In today’s video, you’ll learn:
• What the Dark Tetrad is and why it matters in dating
• How narcissistic traits present early on
• The strategic manipulation behind Machiavellianism
• The emotional coldness and lack of remorse tied to psychopathy
• The disturbing enjoyment of others’ discomfort seen in sadism

You’ll also learn how to trust your body’s signals; confusion, anxiety, walking on eggshells as early indicators that something may not be right.

Awareness is empowerment.

Key Takeaways
✔️The difference between personality traits and clinical diagnoses
✔️How narcissists respond to boundaries and micro-disappointments
✔️Why Machiavellian individuals treat your “no” like a problem to solve
✔️The “remorse test” for identifying psychopathic traits
✔️How sadistic tendencies can show up in dark humor, escalation, or cruelty
✔️Why chronic confusion and nervous system stress are red flags

Timestamps
00:00 – The Dark Tetrad
01:14 – 1. Narcissism
01:51 – Signs of Narcissism
03:37 – 2. Machiavellianism
04:43 – Signs of Machiavellianism
07:45 – 14-Day Trial Promo
08:34 – 3. Psychopathy
09:15 – Signs of Psychopathy
12:51 – 4. Sadism
13:02 – Signs of Sadism
14:04 – Final Thoughts

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
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If you value independence, feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness, or tend to pull away when relationships deepen, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style.

These patterns aren’t about a lack of care or desire for connection, they’re subconscious protection strategies developed to avoid emotional overwhelm, vulnerability, or feeling trapped.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 10 common ways Dismissive Avoidant attachment can sabotage intimacy, helping you recognize these patterns with compassion and understand how to shift them so relationships can feel safer, more connected, and more sustainable.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why emotional distance can feel safer than closeness
How counterdependence develops from early emotional neglect
Why commitment may trigger fears of being trapped
How minimizing vulnerability and needs damages intimacy
What causes quick exits, intermittent reinforcement, and shutdowns
How learning healthy interdependence supports secure attachment

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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Understanding the Fearful Avoidant Push-Pull Cycle
If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, relationships can feel like an exhausting emotional pendulum, pulling you toward closeness one moment and pushing you away the next.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down why Fearful Avoidants experience this push-pull dynamic and how healing begins by understanding your activating and deactivating strategies, the stories you tell yourself, and the unmet needs driving these patterns.

Episode Summary
Fearful avoidants often carry both anxious and avoidant wounds at the same time. This creates inner conflict, wanting closeness while also fearing it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why Fearful Avoidants swing between activation and deactivation
How trauma, core wounds, and subconscious stories fuel push-pull patterns
Why calm, secure relationships can feel unsafe or unfamiliar
How emotional regulation helps you identify and meet your real needs
How questioning your internal stories brings you back to balance
Healing isn’t about choosing closeness or distance, it’s about learning how to return to center.

Key Takeaways
Fearful Avoidants have both activating (anxious) and deactivating (avoidant) sides
Push-pull patterns are driven by unmet needs and core wounds, not character flaws
Awareness is the first step, noticing when you’ve left emotional center
Questioning your stories helps prevent emotional dysregulation
Regulating your nervous system allows you to express needs more clearly and safely

Timestamps
00:00 – The Fearful Avoidant’s Push Pull Patterns
00:34 – Fearful Avoidants Have an Activating and Deactivating Side
02:45 – Take Notice of Your Activating And Deactivating Tendencies
03:15 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
03:51 – Question Your Stories
05:32 – Regulating Your Emotions Can Help You Meet Your Needs

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access:
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If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, the people who frustrate, hurt, or emotionally activate you the most are not random. They are mirrors, reflecting the parts of yourself that have been repressed, conditioned, or pushed into the shadows in order to survive.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down one of the most powerful healing tools for attachment recovery: relationship shadow work and how your triggers reveal the subconscious patterns shaping your relationships, self-worth, and emotional safety.

🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode, you’ll learn how the relationship shadow, a concept rooted in Carl Jung’s work, directly influences fearful avoidant patterns in love and connection. When parts of you were once shamed, punished, or deemed unsafe to express, they didn’t disappear, they went underground.

These hidden traits show up later as intense emotional reactions to others. Whether it’s feeling taken advantage of, disrespected, controlled, dismissed, or overwhelmed by closeness and distance, your triggers are signposts pointing toward unresolved inner conflict and unmet needs.

You’ll also learn the difference between the shadow and the golden shadow, why Fearful Avoidants often abandon themselves to stay safe, and how this creates painful relationship dynamics that can be healed through conscious integration and boundary repair.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why your strongest emotional triggers reveal what you’ve been taught to repress
• How Fearful Avoidants often take advantage of themselves to please others
• The hidden link between people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and resentment
• How lack of boundaries creates feelings of being disrespected or controlled
• Why you may attract dismissive or anxious partners and how this mirrors inner patterns
• Practical reflection questions to integrate shadow traits in a healthy, balanced way
• How daily awareness and small behavioral shifts can reprogram attachment patterns

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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Do You Actually Want Love… Or Do You Just Want to Be Chosen?

The feeling of not being chosen by someone you deeply care about can feel devastating. But what if the real wound isn’t about love at all?

In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the deeper subconscious pattern behind the need to be chosen and how it may be rooted in unresolved childhood experiences. You’ll learn why this pattern keeps repeating, what healthy love is actually supposed to feel like, and how to finally shift out of chasing and into secure connection.

Episode Summary
The desire to be chosen often masks something much deeper: a subconscious belief that being selected equals worthiness. When this pattern forms in childhood through not feeling fully seen, safe, or special, it can show up later as chasing emotionally unavailable partners or investing in people who don’t fully choose you.

In this video, you’ll uncover the five pillars of healing this wound, including understanding your subconscious comfort zone, recognizing how you may be recreating unresolved childhood experiences, and learning how to truly choose yourself first.

Because the truth is: healthy love is not supposed to feel like auditioning.

Key Takeaways
• Why not being chosen feels so painful and grief-oriented
• How wanting to be chosen can stem from childhood experiences
• The difference between conscious desire and subconscious programming
• Why we subconsciously choose familiar (even painful) dynamics
• What secure love is actually supposed to feel like
• How choosing yourself rewires your subconscious comfort zone
• Practical steps to begin healing and building self-alignment

Timestamps
00:00 – The Feeling of Not Being Chosen
01:27 – 1. Think of a Time When You Wanted to Be Chosen
03:36 – 2. The Desire to Be Chosen Is a Recreation of an Unresolved Childhood Event
05:16 – 14-Day Trial Promo
06:06 – 3. We Choose What to Invest in From Our Subconscious Mind
09:12 – 4. Love Is Not Supposed to Feel Like That
11:24 – We Heal This When We Learn to Choose Ourselves
12:32 – 5. In Order to Change, You Have to Start With Your Subconscious Comfort Zone
14:51 – Steps to Heal

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/