On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People (Listen To This To Attract a Long Term Relationship And Stop Wasting Your Time In The Wrong Ones) With Lisa Bilyeu

  Have you ever found yourself holding onto someone who couldn’t fully open up to you? Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have, hoping things would finally get better? In today’s episode, I’m doing something a little different. My good friend Lisa Bilyeu flips the script and interviews me. Lisa is the co-founder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition, founder of Women of Impact, and one of the most honest, fearless voices I know when it comes to growth, relationships, and empowerment. Together, we unpack some of the most misunderstood truths about relationships, from why we settle to how we can start making choices rooted in self-worth rather than fear. We talk about how to stop crowd-sourcing your most important life decisions and why learning to listen to your own voice—without all the outside opinions—is one of the most healing things you can do. I share the real reason many of us struggle with being alone, how to break the cycle of chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and why true love should feel like peace—not anxiety dressed up as passion. This episode is about so much more than dating. It’s about rebuilding your self-worth one choice at a time. I walk you through my 5 daily habits that help me build inner confidence, how to tell when you’re compromising in love versus losing yourself, and the honest questions you need to ask before deciding whether to stay—or walk away. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Settling and Start Choosing From Confidence How to Trust Your Intuition Without Second-Guessing Yourself How to Break Free From the Fear of Being Alone How to Create Peace In Order to Attract a Healthy Relationship How to Know If You’re Compromising or Abandoning Yourself How to Build Self-Worth With 5 Simple Daily Habits I’m so grateful to Lisa for creating this space. I hope it brings you a deeper sense of direction, healing, and the reminder that you are always worth choosing—especially by yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:21 The Three Reasons We Settle in Love 04:24 We All Have a Different Take on Love 06:36 The 7-Day Opinion Fast 13:15 Why Do We Keep Chasing the Wrong Person? 17:29 The Technique Men Use to Flirt with Women 23:44 The Difference Between Adapting vs. Diminishing Yourself in Relationships 28:39 This is the Biggest Reason for Breakups & How to Avoid It 31:50 Promoting a Healthy Relationship Through 'US' and 'WE' 34:52 Never Say these Two Words During An Argument 36:41 Is it Love or Just Lust? 38:24 Are You Comfortable or Complacent in Your Relationship? 45:24 Don't Let Your Insecurities Affect Your Current Relationship 48:06 The Three People You'll Fall With in Love in Your Life 53:29 Why Trust Should Be Given Easily 56:02 Fixing Someone Isn't Your Responsibility 01:00:39 Three Ways to Adapt to Your Partner's Personality 01:06:23 You Can't Live on Someone Else’s Timeline 01:12:29 This is the Type of Conversation You Should be Having With Your Partner 01:16:16 5 Daily Habits to Build Self-Worth 01:22:47 Best Nighttime Routine to Block Negative Thoughts 01:25:25 Jay's On Tour Update Episode Resources: Lisa Bilyeu | Website Lisa Bilyeu | Instagram Lisa Bilyeu | TikTok Lisa Bilyeu | Facebook Lisa Bilyeu | YouTube Lisa Bilyeu | X Lisa Bilyeu | LinkedIn Women of Impact Podcast Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You WantSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Jay’s Must-Listens: If You’re Feeling Stuck Use These 4 Methods To ACTUALLY Manifest What You Really Want (Ft. Roxi Nafousi and Dr. Tara Swart)

  Do you believe our thoughts can shape our reality? Have you ever had a moment where something you visualized came true? In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together a powerful lineup of voices—including Roxie Nafousi, Dr. Tara Swart, Big Sean, and Will Smith—to explore how manifestation can be truly transformative when rooted in clarity, alignment, and intentional action. Through candid conversations and personal reflections, Jay and his guests break down the mindset shifts and daily habits that turn dreams into reality. This episode challenges common misconceptions, revealing that manifestation isn't about wishful thinking but about cultivating a deep sense of self-worth and purpose. Listeners will discover how to harness the power of visualization, overcome limiting beliefs, and align their actions with their deepest desires. The discussions emphasize the importance of consistency, gratitude, and resilience in the journey toward personal fulfillment. Whether you're new to the concept or seeking to deepen your practice, this episode offers practical insights and inspiring stories to guide you on your path. It's a reminder that with the right mindset and intentional effort, you can create the life you've always envisioned. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Shift from Passive Wishing to Active Creating How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust How to Visualize and Embody Your Desired Outcomes How to Stay Motivated and Bounce Back from Setbacks How to Align Daily Actions with Long-Term Vision Manifestation is more than a buzzword, it's a commitment to living with purpose and intention. Tune in to uncover the tools and perspectives that can help you turn your aspirations into tangible realities. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:10 This is Why You Attract Rejection and Negativity 04:40 Stop Manifesting the Wrong Things 08:19 Manifesting the Life You Want Isn't a Trend 12:06 Start Small to Grow Big Long Term 15:04 The Impact of Micro Changes to Make Your Life Better 17:57 Why is the Brain Wired to Avoid Risk? 24:45 How Acceptance Can Help You Move Forward 28:52 Stop Chasing, Start Attracting 30:29 Focus on the Things You Can Control 33:08 The Price of Having the Wrong Success Mindset 36:02 How to Live Your Life in Love and ServiceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Sleep Expert Matthew Walker: Do THIS to Sleep Through The Night And Never Wake Up Tired Again

  How well did you sleep last night? Do you wake up feeling rested? Today, Jay welcomes renowned neuroscientist, sleep expert, and bestselling author Dr. Matthew Walker to unpack the profound importance of sleep and how it shapes every facet of our health and wellbeing. Bestselling author of Why We Sleep, Dr. Matthew Walker brings scientific rigor and heartfelt clarity to one of the most misunderstood and underestimated aspects of our lives. Matthew opens the discussion by challenging the myth of the 'eight-hour rule.' While the average adult does best with seven to nine hours of sleep, the focus quickly shifts beyond just duration. Instead, Matthew introduces a more holistic four part framework—Quantity, Quality, Regularity, and Timing, or QQRT. This framework highlights how sleep is not simply about how long one sleeps, but also how deeply, how consistently, and how well it aligns with our natural biological rhythms. Jay and Matthew's conversation also tackles common disruptors of restorative sleep, including caffeine, alcohol, and excessive exposure to artificial light. Dr. Walker discusses how these elements can interfere with the brain’s ability to enter deep and REM sleep, the latter being especially important for emotional processing, hormonal regulation, and memory consolidation. Sleep, it turns out, influences far more than individual health. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Know If You’re Getting Enough Sleep How to Improve Sleep Using the QQRT Formula How to Align Your Sleep With Your Body’s Internal Clock How to Avoid Waking Up Tired Every Morning How to Optimize Your Evening Routine for Better Sleep How to Fall Back Asleep After Waking Up at Night How to Diagnose Sleep Apnea at Home With scientific insight and practical wisdom, the episode paints a vivid picture of how sleep, when prioritized and protected, can serve as a catalyst for healing, clarity, and sustainable energy. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:12 The Four Metrics That Define Great Sleep 06:03 Can You Actually Change Your Sleep Cycle? 09:45 Why You Wake Up Tired—Even After a Full Night’s Sleep 14:29 What Sleep Apnea Really Is and Why It’s Often Missed 19:21 The Body-Wide Damage Caused by Sleep Loss 23:20 The Hormone That Increases Late-Night Cravings 28:42 Best Types of Food to Eat Before Bed 33:48 How Late-Night Eating Disrupts Your Sleep Rhythm 37:23 The Truth About Melatonin Supplements 40:47 Should You Give Melatonin To Your Children? 44:25 The Evolution of Sleeping Pills Explained 52:36 The Best Nighttime Routine For Optimal Sleep 55:07 Three Practical Tricks to Fall Back Asleep 01:04:58 What It Really Takes to Clear Caffeine From Your System 01:08:01 Surprising Health Benefits of Drinking Coffee 01:10:02 How Alcohol Quietly Ruins Your Sleep 01:13:06 Can Sleeping Well Actually Make you More Successful? 01:16:40 The Real Risks of Losing Just One Hour of Sleep 01:21:16 What Regular Sleep and a Digital Detox Can Do For Your Life 01:22:45 Why Weekend “Catch-Up” Sleep Doesn’t Work 01:24:09 The Overlooked Link Between Sleep and Mental Health 01:27:32 How Poor Sleep Fuels Loneliness and Disconnection 01:30:58 Why Self-Forgiveness Might Be the Ultimate Sleep Tool Episode Resources: Matthew Walker | Website Matthew Walker | Instagram Matthew Walker | LinkedIn Matthew Walker | X The Matt Walker Podcast Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and DreamsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Stop Chasing Love! (How to Shift Your Mindset to Start Attracting It) With Tinx

  How do you know when someone is truly right for you? Have you ever confused attention for love? In this special crossover episode, Jay Shetty steps out of his usual host role and joins media personality Tinx on her podcast, Office Hours, for a candid and profoundly enriching conversation. Jay opens up about his journey with meditation, relationships, and personal well-being. He breaks meditation down into simple, approachable practices like breathwork, visualization, and mantra, making it accessible to anyone who’s ever felt like they ‘can’t meditate.’ Jay and Tinx go deeper, unpacking the digital overwhelm of the constant pings, nonstop news, and the pressure of staying connected. Jay shares practical strategies for reclaiming your peace, especially in the crucial first moments of the day. From changing how we wake up to choosing when and how we consume news, he emphasizes building rituals that foster clarity rather than chaos. Jay explains the concept of love through the three key relationship types: the firework, the candle, and the mirror. He challenges the idea of “one soulmate,” suggesting instead that the people we attract reflect where we are in our own growth and emotional state. The conversation is filled with insight into how to find peace in your singlehood, develop a deeper understanding of yourself, and create a life that naturally attracts meaningful connection. In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Start Meditating When You Feel Stuck How to Use Breathwork to Calm Anxiety Instantly How to Build a Tech-Free Morning Routine How to Consume News Without Feeling Overwhelmed How to Create Real Human Connection in a Digital World Remember, peace shouldn't be something you have to chase—it’s something you can create, right here, right now. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:48 Building Purpose Through the Calm Community 03:38 Struggling with Meditation? Start Here 08:26 Simple Breathing Practice to Calm Your Mind 11:05 Managing News and Notifications Without Losing Peace 18:16 Inside Jay’s Grounding Morning Routine 23:14 The Interview That Changed Jay’s Perspective 25:09 When Interviews Get Deep and Emotional 27:06 Must-Listen Episodes to Start With 29:48 Jay’s Ultimate Dream Guest Revealed 30:36 The Three Types of Love You’ll Experience 34:25 How Jay Met His Wife, Radhi 35:43 What to Look For When Searching for Love 44:37 The Root of Desperation in Dating 45:27 What to Expect from the On Purpose Live Tour 46:46 Preparing Mentally and Physically for Live Shows 48:55 Jay’s Favorite Guilty Pleasures Episode Resources: Tinx | Podcast Tinx | Instagram Tinx | TikTok Hotter in the HamptonsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

  Do you feel guilty when you put your needs before others by saying no? When was the last time you chose yourself—just because you needed it, not because you earned it? Today, Jay is joined by Meggan Roxanne, writer, entrepreneur, and founder of the globally loved platform The Good Quote. Known for curating some of the internet’s most powerful and inspiring affirmations, Meggan now steps into the spotlight with her own voice, sharing a remarkable personal story of loss, resilience, and transformation. From growing up in a warm and loving home to experiencing a heart-wrenching moment at just four years old, when a grandparent told her they didn’t love her, Meggan opens up about how early trauma shaped her emotional world. Following her mother’s final wish, Meggan became the caretaker for her estranged grandfather, the very man who once wounded her deeply. Through that act of grace, she discovered the true meaning of forgiveness, empathy, and unconditional love. Throughout the episode, Meggan and Jay explore the difference between people-pleasing and creating space for authentic connection, how emotional boundaries protect our well-being, and what it takes to stop repeating the pain we’ve inherited. She candidly discusses the challenges of grief, especially after losing her mother, her best friend, her guide, and how that loss forced her to reimagine her identity and rebuild from the ground up. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty How to Heal After Losing a Parent How to Reconnect with Your Intuition How to Break Generational Cycles of Trauma How to Build Confidence Through Self-Respect Even in the darkest of seasons, you have the power to find peace, reshape your path, and step into a life guided by intention, healing, and light. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 The Pain of Feeling Unloved by Family 04:12 Would You Take Care of Someone Who Doesn't Love You? 10:20 How Do You Enforce Your Boundaries? 16:20 Are You a Chronic People Pleaser? 23:06 How The Good Quote Started 34:59 Do You Trust Your Intuition? 43:49 Your Intuition is Your Best Guide 45:20 How Do You Reconnect with Your Intuition? 50:52 How Meditation Helps Calm Down Your Day 53:10 Dealing with Grief, Depression, & Losing a Loved One Episode Resources: Meggan Roxanne | Instagram Meggan Roxanne | LinkedIn The Good Quote | Instagram The Good Quote | Facebook The Good Quote | Tumblr How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart: THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER. Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries, and Heal from Self-SabotageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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