Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Your nervous system is not trying to destroy your relationship. It’s simply trying to protect you from something that it learned to fear.
Have you ever known that someone cared about you, but the moment their tone changed, your entire body prepared to lose them? Before you had any actual evidence that something was wrong, your chest tightened, your stomach dropped, and your mind began writing how the relationship was going to end. Your body may be responding to your past in the moment. Today we’re going deeper, below the surface, below the communication, into why you can consciously know the healthy thing to do, yet still feel physically compelled to do the exact opposite. And I need you to hear me when I say this: you are not broken. These responses are simply the evidence that you adapted.
Inside the Episode:
Sticks and snakes: one of my favorite explanations I have come across recently, and why a delayed text can feel like life and death
The question that is one of the most powerful whenever you’re getting triggered in a relationship (and what happened when I shared mine with my husband)
Why familiarity is not safety, and why love that just comes to you may actually feel really scary and undeserved

The Secure Rewire is here ✨
If you’re listening to this show, you probably have a ton of awareness, but you may not have as much actual embodied change. The Secure Rewire is a 30 day course plus group coaching experience to rewire your brain and actually embody secure attachment. We kick off December 7th, and this will have a limit. We’re not waiting until 2027 to become securely attached. Start this work now.
👉 Get all the information at drmorgancoaching.co/rewire

Have you ever entered a conversation knowing exactly what you wanted to say, but then five minutes later, you’re sending paragraphs?
We are kicking off the Secure Communication Mini-Course, because let’s just acknowledge it: we’re never taught this stuff. Once the intensity passes, you start blaming yourself: why did I do that? I know better. Knowing better and being able to actually embody a different response, those are two completely different things. This is not proof that you’re toxic or broken: reactive communication is protective. But oftentimes that protective communication creates the exact thing you’re afraid of. It creates the disconnection.
Inside the Episode:
Pursuing, attacking, defending, or withdrawing: what is your autopilot when you’re in a difficult conversation?
The most attacking thing I ever said, at eight years old (and I am a crazy dog person)
Why reactive communication is the junk food of relationships, and state, story, soothe: what you can do instead

Ready to work with me?
If you have been waiting to do this work, I just want to ask you why. I have just a couple of spots left to work with me one-on-one for the rest of the year. Nothing changes until you change. Decide: I’m worthy of healing, I’m worthy of support, now is the time. Stop putting it off.
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We have hit 700 episodes of this podcast, y’all. I get goosebumps when I say that.
If you would have told me in February of 2020 that I would still be doing this show, I would be so shocked. And it is because of you. When I started the show, I was still really, really deep in my healing journey, and all of the things I was teaching were because I desperately needed it. I’m not the same person that I was when I started this show. So this one is just you and me, like we’re out to coffee, and I’m telling you about this journey.
Inside the Episode:
Why I am the most supported I’ve ever been in my life, and what it took to finally feel worthy of support
The four things I am really, really proud of since I launched this podcast 700 episodes ago
What would be different if you stopped relying on motivation and just made the decision that you’re gonna show up?

The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. And please know, you’re so, so worthy of it.
Want to do this work one-on-one with me?
There’s only two spots left until the end of the year. This is your opportunity to finally rewire your brain, with direct coaching from me, customizing your healing journey so that you get to embody secure attachment and finally attract the kind of relationship that you deserve. Don’t keep trying to do this by yourself. You deserve support. 👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

You cannot be authentically chosen while you’re performing a version of yourself that is designed to prevent rejection.
So many of you say that yes, you want to be the main character of your life, but your actions and ways of being are not aligning with truly valuing yourself. This is not about taking a solo vacation or pretending that you don’t care about love. It means that your life is no longer organized around being wanted, around finally being chosen. You can desire partnership, you can feel it in your bones, and you can live your life as the main character now. Today, I’m doing what I wish someone had done for me: we’re talking about what it actually looks like in real life to stop waiting to be chosen and start choosing yourself.
Inside the Episode:
The questions you’re constantly asking yourself when you’ve made somebody else the main character of your life, and the ones I want you asking instead
How a little thing called the pandemic forced me to build a full life I was excited about (and what happened to my podcast because of it)
The conversation with Robert that could have gone horribly wrong, and why it’s what secure love actually looks like

Maybe you’re like, “Dr. Morgan, I need to go deeper. Will you please hold my hand and guide me through exactly what to do?” I’ve got you. You deserve the deep work that actually changes you. Apply using the link and grab a time to speak with my team.
👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!

The goal is not to stop wanting love. The goal is to stop losing yourself while you are trying to receive it.
Today we are kicking off a brand new series, your secure relationship era, and it’s all about decentering romantic love. (There’s a huge distinction between decentering and devaluing.) Somewhere along the way, you were taught that being chosen was the ultimate proof that your life mattered. So your mood depends on their attention, your confidence depends on their consistency, and your future begins to revolve around whether they choose you. This is not your fault, but you do get to decide whether you keep building your life around this pressure. This series is about how you hold on to yourself, step into that high self-worth, high self-love, and bring in the partner that you’ve always wanted.
Inside the Episode:
Why you can know somebody is inconsistent, maybe even incompatible, and still feel unable to let go
The deeper heartbreak that has nothing to do with them leaving
The questions to ask instead of “How do I get them to choose me?” (Some of you will be squirming.)

Ready to start rewiring?
You get it logically. You know in your brain that I’m right, but you don’t actually feel it. That’s why it’s so important to do this work on a deeper level. Identity Reset is my daily practice for rewiring your brain at the subconscious level, so you have the beliefs in place that support the behaviors that allow you to hold on to yourself.
Start here: https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/identity-reset
Ready to break this cycle?
If you are so ready to break this cycle and bring in the kind of relationship you’ve always wanted, I am here for you. I just have a couple spots left to work with me 1:1 in my VIP program. Don’t wait till 2027. You will feel so much better if you get the momentum now.
👉Apply for my One-on-One program here!