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• DR. STEVEN PINKER | How Common Knowledge Hurts and Helps Us

  Why do people refuse to say what they see, and, what everyone knows…whether or not they’re willing to acknowledge it? Is there some benefit to keeping quiet, adhering to the “unwritten rules,” and, is there a time and place to break tradition? Today, I’m joined by Harvard professor, Dr. Steven Pinker to answer these questions. We also discuss the difference between common knowledge and common wisdom, whether or not it’s hypocrisy to stay quiet about the unwritten rules, when to be radically honest or complacently quiet, how to judge risk in your honesty, how the “Abeline Paradox” will serve you, and the importance of male initiation. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Welcome and introduction to Steven Pinker 00:45 – Defining “common knowledge” vs. “common sense” 03:11 – “Don’t ask, don’t tell” and social hypocrisy 07:46 – Cultural shifts and the meaning of hypocrisy 09:41 – Morality, religion, and policy contradictions 11:21 – Hidden hypocrisies: paper bags and escort services 14:07 – How common knowledge shapes power (Taiwan example) 17:05 – “Coming out” and the social costs of honesty 20:10 – Honesty vs. tact in relationships 23:13 – Learning social nuance: autism and empathy 31:00 – Layers of communication and meaning 34:50 – The Abilene paradox and pluralistic ignorance 38:02 – How silence empowers repression 42:42 – Conformity and social conditioning 44:06 – Building virtuous influence as men 47:22 – Civilizing young men and the role of masculinity 51:48 – The crisis of modern manhood 54:08 – Ruthless honesty with compassion (closing) Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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• Lead with Curiosity, Don’t Make People Part of Your Checklist, and Exceed Your People’s Expectations | ASK ME ANYTHING

  In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle a wide range of powerful listener questions—from raising children without a “heart at war” to building better connections with your sons and wives. They dive deep into personal growth, leadership, and balance, discussing authenticity, recovery, and what it means to find peace while still pursuing excellence.  They also explore the realities of career transitions and starting new business ventures. A thoughtful, real, and motivating conversation filled with practical wisdom and relatable life lessons. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening banter & hunting talk 02:19 – First viewer question (Tony) 12:14 – Staying driven without Iron Council 15:53 – Connecting with teenage sons 26:13 – Reflecting on past podcast episodes 30:41 – Relationship checklists & intentional connection 34:32 – Resources for starting a business 39:32 – When to leave your job 43:17 – Finding peace while still growing 50:08 – Promotions & course announcements 52:22 – Closing remarks Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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• JEREMY RYAN SLATE | How Rome Fell… Is America Next?

  It’s no secret that men are fascinated with the Roman Empire. Tales of battle, glory, and reign ignite our passion and enthusiasm for exerting our will against our enemies and for the benefit of those we lead. But these tales aren’t just an entertaining insight into the way men’s minds work – they’re also cautionary regarding how every once-great civilization has fallen. Today, I’m joined by Jeremy Ryan Slate to discuss what makes men so attracted to the Roman Empire, in what ways the United States in following in its ill-fated footsteps (and, in which ways it isn’t), lessons we can learn from monetary policy, political aspirations, wars and conquests, and how we can avoid the fate (or, at least prolong) every great civilization has eventually faced. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and setup 00:58 - Technical issues and restart 04:07 - Why men are fascinated by the Roman Empire 07:45 - Monetary policy, inflation, and control in Rome 13:50 - The rise of Julius Caesar and fall of the Republic 21:18 - Augustus and the birth of the Roman Empire 25:00 - Power, propaganda, and lessons from history 28:43 - Modern parallels: populism, media, and literacy 34:06 - Social programs, dependency, and autonomy 36:10 - The real reasons Rome fell 40:20 - Immigration, loyalty, and national identity 43:03 - Decadence, morality, and the weakening of men 46:47 - How modern men can preserve the Republic 48:04 - Closing thoughts and where to find Jeremy Slate Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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• The Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

  In this deeply personal episode, Ryan opens up about his own divorce - how it unfolded, what he learned, and how men can navigate their own journey with strength and integrity. Drawing from experience and thousands of conversations with men, Ryan shares five things NOT to do and five things TO do when facing divorce. He reminds listeners that divorce, while painful, doesn’t have to be the end - it can be the start of rebuilding your life with purpose, clarity, and resilience. Key Takeaways Five Don’ts:  - Don’t sedate yourself - Avoid alcohol, porn, or distractions that numb growth.  - Don’t stalk your ex - Cut off emotional dependence and focus forward.  - Don’t sleep around - Don’t use others to fill emotional voids.  - Don’t seek vengeance or self-harm - You’re needed, and life can get better.  - Don’t watch porn - It distorts intimacy and respect for women. Five Do’s:  - Build male friendships - Brotherhood is essential for healing and accountability.  - Develop new skills - Strengthen your financial and professional foundation.  - Learn a new hobby - Rediscover fun, joy, and adventure.  - Train your body - Rebuild strength, confidence, and vitality.  - Give back - Serving others heals your own pain. Resources & Mentions Divorce Not Death Program: divorcenotdeath.com Email Ryan: [email protected] Follow on Instagram: @ryanmickler SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro   00:31 - The Moment It Happened   02:54 - Hitting Rock Bottom   04:54 - The Don’ts: Avoid Sedation   07:17 - Don’t Stalk or Chase   09:42 - Don’t Sleep Around   12:03 - Don’t End It All   13:50 - Don’t Seek Vengeance   16:17 - The Do’s: Build Brotherhood   18:39 - Develop Skills & Wealth   21:01 - Learn to Have Fun Again   23:19 - Train Your Body   25:18 - Give Back   26:50 - Divorce Not Death   28:30 - Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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• The Pareto Principle, Overcoming Despair, and Why the Basics Always Win | ASK ME ANYTHING

  In this week’s Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and guest co-host Jay Jairdullo tackle powerful questions from members of the Iron Council and the broader Order of Man community. They dive into overcoming complacency after success, saving a struggling marriage, the real key to consistency, and finding clarity amid diet confusion.  Ryan also shares guidance on battling depression, building self-worth, and mastering emotional regulation. This episode is packed with wisdom, frameworks, and honest stories that every man can apply to become stronger and more grounded in purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and catch-up with Jay 01:26 – Setting new goals and avoiding complacency 07:42 – Navigating marital separation and self-improvement 17:31 – Why some men thrive in the Iron Council 34:18 – Using the Pareto Principle 42:51 – Overcoming depression and learning self-love 48:35 – Managing emotions and staying calm 56:21 – Final thoughts and Iron Council invitation Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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