This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

If you’ve ever waited to “feel confident” before you take the leap… congratulations, you’ve been scammed by your own brain. In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil goes full confidence-nerd (with the occasional rant) with Dr. Shadé Zahrai—behavioral researcher, peak performance educator, and author of Big Trust—to expose what confidence actually is, why self-doubt doesn’t disappear, and how to build real self-trust that holds up when life gets messy.

What we get into:


Why confidence isn’t the opposite of self-doubt (and why that myth keeps you stuck)


The thing you actually need first: self-trust / Big Trust—backing yourself before the outcome is guaranteed


How “failure” can build confidence if you stop making it mean you are a failure


The self-image trap (including a wild scar study that proves your brain will invent reality if you let it)


The Four A’s of Big Trust: Acceptance, Agency, Autonomy, Adaptability (aka the internal upgrades your confidence has been begging for)


The 4 Inner Deceivers (and the bonus villain):


The Classic Judge (never impressed, always loud)


The Misguided Protector (aka fear dressed up as “logic”)


The Ringmaster (grind culture’s toxic BFF)


The Neglector (everyone else first… until you break)


The Victimizer (outsourcing your power like it’s a hobby)

If self-doubt is showing up, it doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human and doing something that matters. Build Big Trust, take the step anyway, and let confidence catch up like it always does.

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Connect with Shadé :

Website: https://www.shadezahrai.com/ 

Book: https://www.shadezahrai.com/bigtrust?utm_source=chatgpt.com 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/shadezahrai/ 

LI: https://th.linkedin.com/in/shadezahrai?trk=public_post_feed-actor-name 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shadezahrai?lang=en 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shadezahrai 

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We need to talk about asking for help — and not the polite, over-explained, apologetic version most of us were taught.

In this unfiltered and slightly unhinged mini-episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil shares a courtside lesson she learned from a group of middle school girls playing basketball — and honestly, they’re doing teamwork, boundaries, and support better than most adults.

When these girls get caught on defense, they don’t spiral, minimize, or pretend they’ve got it handled. They yell “HELP! HELP! HELP!” loudly, clearly, and without shame — fully expecting their teammates to show up. And guess what? They do.

No judgment. No scorekeeping. No martyrdom.

This episode is a reminder that burnout isn’t a badge of honor, doing it all alone isn’t strength, and asking for help early is one of the smartest, strongest things you can do. Because life, love, leadership — it’s all a team sport.

And around here? We answer when someone yells for help. That’s woman’s work.

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Connect with Nicole:

Subscribe to Nicole’s Substack: https://nicolekalil.substack.com/ 

Join the Inner Circle: https://nicolekalil.myflodesk.com/newsletter 

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Food isn’t just food anymore — it’s guilt, pressure, decision fatigue, and a never-ending group project you didn’t sign up for. In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole Kalil sits down with Jenn Lueke (Jen Eats Good) to talk about meal planning, meal prep, grocery shopping on a budget, and how to stop feeding your family like it’s your unpaid side hustle.

Jenn breaks down a simple, realistic system that helps you waste less food, spend less money, and reclaim your weeknights — without turning Sunday into a six-hour kitchen hostage situation or expecting Pinterest-level perfection.

In this episode, we cover: Jenn’s meal planning framework (high-level):


Why most women have a complicated relationship with food (and why it’s not a personal failing)


How to meal plan in 20–30 minutes and save yourself hours of midweek chaos


The pantry–fridge–freezer inventory that stops you from buying your 18th jar of salsa


“Partial prep” for people who hate meal prep


Component cooking so you don’t hate your lunches by Wednesday


Low-stress strategies for picky eaters


How to actually use a cookbook instead of admiring it like kitchen décor


Friday: Inventory + pick meals + grocery list


Weekend: Grocery run + 30–90 minutes of prep


Weeknights: Less thinking, more eating

Because when dinner stops requiring constant brainpower, you get your time, energy, and patience back. And that’s the real win — not perfection, just a system that works for your life instead of draining it.

Thank you to our sponsors!

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Connect with Jenn:

Website: https://jenneatsgoood.com/

Cookbook: https://jenneatsgoood.com/cookbook/  

Substack: https://jenneatsgoood.substack.com/subscribe 

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Leadership is already messy. Add culture, identity, power dynamics, and a workplace that rewards sameness… and suddenly you’re not leading—you’re surviving. In this episode, Nicole talks with Aiko Bethea, founder of RARE Coaching & Consulting, about what actually creates diversity (spoiler: it’s not a checkbox) and why diversity is the outcome of great leadership.

We get into:


Why “diversity” isn’t a skill set (and why treating it like one makes you a worse leader)


Power-sharing vs. power-hoarding and how that impacts belonging, equity, and performance


The real reason leadership advice feels like a chaotic buffet of contradictions


How to measure leadership impact beyond “we hit the number” (because people aren’t spreadsheets)


Why leaders making mistakes feels riskier than ever—and why ownership is still the right move


The “punching a ghost” feeling when reality is being rewritten in real time 


What it means to be a well leader: aligned, accountable, humane—not perfect

Because the goal isn’t to lead like the “stereotypical old-school leader.” The goal is to lead like your full self—and create workplaces where more people can do the same.

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Connect with Aiko:

Website: https://www.rarecoaching.net/ 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/rare_coach 

Invite to join RARE community  -  https://www.rarecoaching.net/membership/

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Manifesting has been turned into a social media vending machine: think it, post it, get it. Spoiler alert: the universe is not Uber Eats.

In this episode, Nicole goes full curious skeptic with Colette Baron-Reid, internationally respected intuitive, oracle expert, and bestselling author—to reclaim manifesting from influencer fluff and bring it back to what it actually is: alignment over attachment, being over chasing, partnership over control.

This is not about “good vibes only” or visualizing a yacht and waiting for it to dock. It’s about who you’re becoming, how you’re showing up, and what you’re rehearsing every single day—consciously or not.

What We Get Into:


Why performative spirituality cheapens real intuition (and why it feels so off)


The truth bomb: you don’t manifest what you want—you manifest what you are


Why attachment to outcomes kills trust, joy, and momentum


How curiosity + gratitude open the door to synchronicity


The science behind perception, focus, and your brain’s internal “sorting system”


Colette’s Art of Manifesting practice: a meditative drawing method using circles and flowy lines to rewire patterns and co-create with intention


Destiny vs. free will—and why it’s not either/or


Why manifesting doesn’t eliminate pain or challenge, but can radically transform how you experience your life

Bottom line: manifesting isn’t a magic trick—it’s a practice. You don’t get to control the universe, but you do get to control how you show up, what you rehearse, and what you’re available for… and that’s where the real power (and real transformation) lives.

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Connect with Colette:

Website: https://www.colettebaronreid.com 

Book: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Manifesting-Meditative-Drawing-Practice/dp/1401997856/ref= 

FB: https://www.facebook.com/colettebaronreid 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/colettebaron_reid/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ColetteBaronReid/featured 

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