180 | complex emotions in autism parenting: the path from grief to acceptance
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of grief that parents may experience upon learning about their child's autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay discusses the various stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—and how these emotions impact the parenting journey. She emphasizes that grieving in this context is not about mourning the child but rather a shift in expectations and the challenges of raising an autistic child in a predominantly neurotypical world. The episode includes real-life examples from Dr. Tay’s community, highlighting the diverse experiences of parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay shared about her educational membership and clinical services aimed at providing continuous support for parents processing grief and a sense of community for parents navigating similar journeys.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview01:58 Understanding Grief in the Context of Autism04:49 Personal Experiences and Examples of Grief08:43 Navigating Grief and Acceptance13:51 Community Insights on Grief25:56 Navigating Different Parenting Perspectives26:19 Seeking Support and Resources28:05 Understanding the Stages of Grief28:48 Denial in the Grief Process30:12 Anger and Its Manifestations32:07 Bargaining and Desperate Measures33:47 Depression and Its Impact35:49 Acceptance and Psychological Flexibility40:59 Complicated Grief and Its Variations47:59 The Importance of Community and Support52:07 Final Thoughts and Resources RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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179 | navigating autism misdiagnosis with Dr. Marie Hooper
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Marie Hooper, a clinical psychologist (supervised practice) from Toronto, Canada. They dive into the nuances of autism diagnosis, discussing why autism is often misdiagnosed and the importance of differential diagnosis. Dr. Marie shares her personal journey of being diagnosed as autistic at 43 and talks about her clinic, Flourish Health Services, and her upcoming initiative, Autism Reframe. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory differences, the significance of accurate diagnosis, and the benefits of understanding one's neurotype for identity and acceptance. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:28 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hooper01:45 Personal Stories and Professional Background04:00 Challenges in Autism Diagnosis09:52 Misdiagnosis and Clinical Practice11:45 Reevaluating Diagnoses and Identity22:41 Parental Guidance and Support25:37 Supportive Nudges and Clinical Care25:56 Listening to Autistic Adults26:20 Addressing Fear and Celebrating Diagnoses27:10 Misdiagnosis of OCD and Autism30:44 Understanding Sensory Differences31:46 Challenges with Diagnostic Tools36:54 Misdiagnosis of ODD and PDA38:42 Borderline Personality Disorder and Autism40:28 Final Thoughts and Resources43:02 Conclusion and Call to Action RESOURCES ⚡️learn more about Dr. Hooper's services in Canada flourishhealthservices.ca and her upcoming clinician trainings through autismreframe.com. ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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178 | peeling back the layers: identity and self-discovery
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this candid and vulnerable episode, Dr. Tay dives deep into the theme of identity, sharing personal insights and challenges from her own journey. She discusses the importance of showing up as one's true, authentic self, especially for parents navigating life with autism. Dr. Tay touches on the struggles of balancing various roles in life and the discomfort that comes with self-disclosure and authenticity. Drawing inspiration from the 'Call Her Alex' documentary and addressing the need for self-integration, Dr. Tay encourages listeners to explore their true identity, model vulnerability, and seek support when needed. The episode is an invitation to embrace the journey of self-discovery and authenticity.00:00 Introduction and Today's Theme00:24 Navigating Identity and Authenticity01:54 The Power of Self-Disclosure03:32 Personal Reflections and Inspirations04:55 Embracing Vulnerability and Realness06:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery09:49 Integrating Parts and Internal Family Systems12:34 Balancing Personal and Professional Life20:27 Invitation to Join the Membership27:42 Concluding Thoughts and Future Episodes RESOURCES ⚡️ it is FINALLY officially open - join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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177 | navigating medication conversations with your autistic child: insights from Dr. Stacy Greeter
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay welcomes psychiatrist Dr. Stacy Greeter to discuss the complexities of explaining medication to autistic children. They emphasize the importance of maintaining a neurodiversity-affirming approach, focusing on informed consent, and fostering a healthy relationship with medication. Dr. Greeter shares personal experiences and tips on building trust, understanding unique responses to medications, and the critical role of autonomy in treatment. They also discuss the broader challenges within the medical profession and the importance of continual learning and flexibility for practitioners.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:54 Guest Introduction: Dr. Stacy Greeter01:26 Host Background and Podcast Purpose02:40 Challenges in Psychiatry and Neurodiversity05:19 Dr. Greeter's Personal Journey12:27 Medication and Autism: Key Insights18:12 Guiding Parents on Medication Conversations23:34 The Role of Medicine in Treatment24:08 Balancing Medicine and Personal Responsibility25:11 Addressing Anxiety with Medication25:58 Using Metaphors to Explain Medication26:46 The Importance of Patient Ownership27:18 The Impact of Beliefs on Medication Efficacy28:18 Parental Concerns and Positive Expectations29:29 Navigating Medication with Autonomy31:35 Building a Therapeutic Alliance34:26 Understanding Reluctance to Take Medication39:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement41:31 Resources and Closing Remarks *note: PDA is discussed in this episode. it is a theorized profile often seen in a subset of autistic individuals and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110 RESOURCES⚡️inquire about Dr. Greeter’s services in FL and CO and sign up for her newsletter at stacygreetermd.com ⚡️watch Dr. Greeter’s trainings on YouTube @stacygreetermd ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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176 | understanding your inner authority: insights from human design with Rosy Crescitelli
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of inner authority from human design and its significance in enhancing parental advocacy and personal growth. Joined by Rosy Crescitelli, a human design specialist and multisensory reading expert, they explore various types of inner authorities such as sacral, emotional, splenic, ego, self, sounding board, and lunar. They discuss how understanding and leveraging one's unique inner authority can facilitate better decision-making and create a more supportive environment for autistic children. Practical tips and insights are provided to help parents navigate this journey, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation. Listen in to learn how human design can be a transformative tool for both personal and parental empowerment. 00:00 Introduction and Inner Authority Overview00:46 Guest Introduction: Rosy Crescitelli01:34 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose02:43 Rosy's Journey into Human Design05:14 Understanding Human Design and Inner Authority12:25 Sacral Authority: Trusting Your Gut19:37 Emotional Authority: Riding the Emotional Wave27:19 Splenic Authority: Quiet Intuition31:21 Gratitude and Self-Trust31:50 Understanding Splenic Authority33:01 Ego Authority Explained35:38 Self Authority for Projectors39:30 Sounding Board Authority47:54 Lunar Authority for Reflectors52:53 Recap and Final Thoughts56:04 Advocating for Your Child's Human Design58:41 Connecting with Rosy01:03:10 Closing Remarks please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most. RESOURCES⚡️ find out your human design (be sure to also listen to episode 38 to learn more about HD) ⚡️explore ways to learn more about your or your child's human design with Rosy here ⚡️connect with Rosy on Instagram @wholeheartedrosy ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
About EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids
welcome to a parenting space actually designed for YOU! where you can get answers about navigating a life that includes autism.
I’m Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist specializing in autism and neuroaffirming care. I have supported 100s of autistic children and their families and have been in the autism field for over a decade.
on this podcast, we focus on supporting your autistic child AND your whole family, including you! every topic is on the table, and your questions (which you can submit through my social media) inspire the episodes created. I share some of my personal stories growing up with a brother who was diagnosed at 23 months of age as well as feature other families' stories so you know you are not navigating this journey alone. this is a space for you to be SEEN. HEARD. SUPPORTED. and get reputable and reliable information about autism instead of searching Google endlessly for hours. I am so dang grateful that you are here.
***disclaimer: not clinical advice, for educational purposes only***
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