Why do some people seem naturally confident while others struggle despite achieving everything they thought would make them feel secure? This episode breaks down the hidden blocks that keep you stuck in self-doubt, even when you've "made it" on paper. We explore how overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and living in survival mode actually work against building genuine confidence. You'll discover why chasing external achievements for validation creates a cycle that never ends, and how your nervous system plays a bigger role in confidence than you might think. We also dive into the difference between performing confidence and actually feeling it from the inside out. If you've ever wondered why that promotion, weight loss, or relationship didn't give you the confidence boost you expected, this conversation will shift how you think about building unshakeable self-trust. Join Vibe Club
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06 - How to Stop Letting Other People Ruin Your Day
Discover why your triggers are actually pointing you back to yourself, not at others. Learn the difference between top-down and bottom-up approaches to emotional regulation, and why taking responsibility for your triggers is the key to reclaiming your power. What You'll Learn The Truth About Triggers and Emotional Responsibility Most people believe their triggers are someone else's fault, but this episode reveals why that perspective keeps you powerless. The hosts explore how triggers actually serve as information about your internal beliefs and patterns, not verdicts about other people's behavior. They discuss the hidden space between circumstances and your emotional reaction, where your meaning-making machine creates the stories that drive your feelings. Understanding Your Nervous System Response When you're triggered, your nervous system responds as if you're in physical danger, even during modern situations like work emails or difficult conversations. The episode breaks down why your prefrontal cortex goes offline during these moments, making rational thinking nearly impossible. You'll learn about the 90-second rule for emotional regulation and why fighting the physical response often makes it worse. Top-Down vs Bottom-Up Approaches to Healing The conversation explores two complementary approaches to emotional regulation. Top-down work focuses on thoughts and cognitive patterns, while bottom-up work addresses the body and nervous system. The hosts share why relying on only one approach often falls short and how integrating both creates lasting change. Practical Applications for Real Life Through personal examples including road rage and workplace triggers, the episode demonstrates how to allow emotions to move through your system without feeding them. You'll discover how to create space between trigger and response, identify the underlying beliefs creating your reactions, and use this awareness to make conscious choices rather than reactive decisions. Relationship Dynamics and Accountability The hosts tackle the nuanced balance between taking responsibility for your emotional reactions and addressing genuinely problematic behavior from others. They explore how trigger work transforms relationships by removing the need for others to change for you to feel okay, while still maintaining healthy boundaries.
Are you stuck trying new self-help tools, meditation apps, and personal development programs but seeing zero lasting results? You download the latest mindfulness app, commit to journaling every morning, or sign up for another course promising change, yet somehow you end up right back where you started. The frustration builds as you watch others break through while you stay trapped in the same patterns, wondering what's wrong with you. This episode reveals why most people fail at creating real change. The conversation shares uncomfortable truths about the personal development industry that keep people spinning their wheels instead of moving forward. You'll discover why the approach most people take to change actually works against their progress from the start. We dive deep into the meditation trap that catches even dedicated people. Many people meditate for years without experiencing the life-changing results they've been promised. The problem isn't their technique or how often they do it - it's something much more basic about the energy and intention they bring to the practice. This episode shows the common mistakes that kill your efforts before you even begin. The conversation gets more challenging when looking at the real reason personal development doesn't work for most people. It's not about finding the right tool or technique. The uncomfortable truth about who's actually responsible for your results will challenge everything you've been told about healing and growth. You'll understand why "trying" different approaches isn't the answer and discover what's missing that makes all the difference between spinning your wheels and real change. Key areas we cover: The relationship between awareness and action in creating lasting change How endless therapy and processing can become a comfortable prison Why avoiding discomfort keeps you trapped in old patterns The two ways people respond to trauma and difficult experiences Maybe the most challenging part of this conversation addresses analysis paralysis - that endless loop of understanding your problems without ever moving beyond them. After years of therapy, self-reflection, and processing, many people become experts on their trauma while staying stuck in the same life patterns. This episode looks at when understanding becomes an excuse to avoid the hard work of actually changing. The discussion doesn't avoid the discomfort problem that affects modern personal development. We live in a culture focused on feeling better instantly, yet real change requires walking through the very feelings we've spent years avoiding. You'll discover why the difference between feeling better and feeling more is crucial to your growth, and how emotional discomfort can become fuel rather than a roadblock. The conversation reaches its most powerful point when looking at how people turn trauma into either limitation or freedom. Some people use their difficult experiences as proof that life is unsafe and change is impossible. Others use the same experiences as fuel for creating the life they truly want. The choice between these two paths determines whether your past defines your future or launches you toward it. This episode is perfect for anyone frustrated with lack of progress despite trying everything, people stuck in therapy or coaching without seeing real change, and those ready to take full responsibility for their experience. If you're using past trauma as a reason to avoid growth or seeking real change beyond surface fixes, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are. Resources mentioned: Dr. Joe Dispenza's "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," the role of nervous system regulation in behavior change, and the difference between intentional living and operating on default mode. Connect with us: Leave a review for a chance to win a year of Vibe Club or a one-on-one coaching session. Contest ends September 19th, with winners announced September 22nd.
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04 - Decompressing Without Coping Mechanisms
Do you find yourself automatically reaching for your phone, a snack, or a drink the moment you walk through the door after work? You're not alone - evening urges to decompress with these quick fixes are incredibly common, and there's a real reason why your willpower feels so low at the end of the day. In this episode, we explore why that "pressure cooker" feeling builds up throughout your day and why your brain craves those instant dopamine hits when you're mentally exhausted. We'll discuss the difference between actually decompressing versus just numbing, and why the way you're currently trying to "fix" these urges might actually be making them stronger. Enter the Giveaway
Can't stop overthinking, emotional eating, or numbing out? You're not broken—you're disconnected from your body. The Real Work helps women break chronic stress, anxiety, and burnout by addressing root causes, not symptoms. Host Maggie Sterling combines neuroscience and nervous system regulation to help you stop self-abandonment, build self-trust, and feel safe in your skin. No toxic positivity—just practical tools for rewiring your brain, regulating emotions, and coming home to yourself. Deep transformation for women ready to stop escaping and start living.
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