unPAUSED with Dr. Mary Claire Haver

Dr. Mary Claire Haver breaks down everything you need to know about perimenopause, menopause, and postmenopause in this solo episode, answering critical questions about hormones, symptoms, and treatment with the medical expertise and personal experience that's made her a trusted voice for millions of women. Most women don't realize perimenopause can begin at 35-36 years old, a full seven to ten years before periods stop. Dr. Haver explains why the first signs are often brain-related: fog, anxiety, feeling like "something's not right," rather than physical changes. Menopause itself is just one day (one year after your last period), but postmenopause represents 30-50 years of life without ovarian hormones. Understanding these three phases changes everything about how women can navigate this transition. In this episode, Dr. Haver answers questions like: What is menopause and when does it really start? Why am I gaining weight around my middle even though my diet hasn't changed? Why am I suddenly experiencing anxiety and depression? What changes happen to the vagina and bladder? What are my hormone therapy options? And what about testosterone, do I need it? With estrogen receptors mapped throughout the body, Dr. Haver reveals how declining hormones affect nearly every system. She lists over 40 potential symptoms beyond hot flashes: frozen shoulder, elevated cholesterol, insulin resistance, joint pain, kidney stones, even heightened hearing. Understanding the biology of how your hypothalamus frantically signals ovaries that can't respond explains why menopause impacts so much more than your cycle. She also explains why visceral belly fat triples during this transition regardless of diet and exercise changes, and what that means for long-term health. Dr. Haver shares a revealing statistic: only 8% of OB-GYN residents feel competent treating menopause, and 77% receive zero menopause training. She explains what doctors should know but often don't: hormone therapy as first-line treatment for mental health changes in perimenopause, prophylactic vaginal estrogen for all perimenopausal women (considered safe even for many breast cancer patients), no mandatory stop date for hormone therapy when benefits outweigh risks, and affordable bioidentical options that exist beyond expensive pellets. This episode arms you with knowledge to find menopause-educated clinicians, recognize quality care, and demand treatment that actually works. As Dr. Haver emphasizes throughout the episode, no woman should suffer unnecessarily when safe, effective options exist. Articles: When zero doesn’t mean zero: the limits of coronary calcium in women (Dr. Peter Attia) Guest links: Mary Claire Wellness The ‘Pause Life Dr. Mary Claire Haver (Instagram) Dr. Mary Claire Haver (YouTube) Books “The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver Other Resources The Menopause Society The Women’s Health Initiative Dr. Kelly Casperson Dr. Corinne Menn To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Divorce rates for people over 50 have doubled since the 1990s, and women are initiating the majority of them. What's really driving this shift? In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with family law attorney and broadcaster Jenny Hutt to discuss the facts, finances, and fallout of midlife divorce. Jenny Hutt is a family law attorney specializing in divorce and mediation in New York, and she spent two decades as a broadcaster on SiriusXM. She's one of Dr. Haver's earliest supporters, and she brings both personal experience and professional insight to this conversation about a controversial topic relating to women's health: the connection between menopause and divorce. Dr. Haver and Jenny start with the facts: the statistics behind gray divorce, why women are initiating most of them, and what's really happening beyond the oversimplification of "dry vagina" causing divorces. They discuss feeling unsupported, undervalued, and reaching a breaking point after years of caregiving. They also dive into finances: what every woman should know about her money whether she's thinking about divorce or not, the three things to do if you're considering divorce, the difference between mediation and legal representation, how to protect inheritance, and the details around a postnuptial agreement. They also address the financial reality that women's household income drops 41% on average after divorce compared to 23% for men. Finally, they explore the fallout: the stress on the sandwich generation of caring for aging parents while raising children, how trauma strains marriages, rebuilding identity after a long marriage, the shame women feel, and why the other side of divorce can bring unexpected peace and freedom. Guest links: Jennifer Hutt  Just Jenny Podcast (Apple Podcasts) Jennifer Koppleman Hutt (Wisselman Harounian Family Law) Jenny Hutt (e-mail) Jenny Hutt (Instagram) Other Resources U.S. Divorce Rates Down, Marriage Rates Stagnant From 2012-2022 (U.S. Census Bureau) Women More Likely Than Men to Initiate Divorces, But Not Non-Marital Breakups (American Sociological Association) Books“The Galveston Diet: The Doctor-Developed, Patient-Proven Plan to Burn Fat and Tame Your Hormonal Symptoms,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when a news anchor loses her words on live television and discovers it's not stress, but menopause? Emmy Award-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal joins Dr. Mary Claire Haver to share why she walked away from her dream job in pursuit of changing the conversation around women's health, the powerful story behind her New York Times bestselling book How to Menopause, and her groundbreaking PBS documentary The M Factor. Tamsen spent 30 years in broadcast journalism without saying the word "menopause" on air—not once. Then perimenopause hit. Brain fog made her skip words on the teleprompter. A hot flash so severe during a live newscast left her sweating and pale, eventually forcing her off the set entirely. Despite erratic bleeding, insomnia, and mounting symptoms, doctor after doctor missed the diagnosis. But once she understood what was happening, she couldn't stop talking about it. She co-produced The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause with three other women, self-funding the documentary after she was told there was no audience. The trailer went viral. PBS picked it up. Over 1,000 community screenings followed in 43 countries. Dr. Haver and Tamsen reflect on meeting at their first menopause conference, the moment they both realized how little training doctors receive, and why this work feels like a calling. Guest links: Tamsen Fadal The Tamsen Show “The (M) Factor” Documentary Tamsen Fadal (Facebook) Tamsen Fadal (YouTube) Tamsen Fadal (LinkedIn) Tamsen Fadal (Instagram) Tamsen Fadal (TikTok) Books “How to Menopause,” by Tamsen Fadal “The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver “The Galveston Diet,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver “The Wisdom of Menopause,” by Dr. Christiane Northrup “The Menopause Manifesto,” by Dr. Jen Gunter This episode covers: Why many women are prescribed antidepressants for hot flashes instead of hormone therapy Growing up with a mother who suffered through surgical menopause in silence The fear of HRT and what finally changed Tamsen's mind Writing a book publishers said had "no audience" and then hitting the New York Times bestseller list Why the Women's Health Initiative headlines continue to harm women decades later Walking away from a 30-year career as a primetime news anchor to focus on menopause advocacy The "shelf life" for women in journalism and ageism in media Her new documentary Before the Pause focusing on perimenopause Why millennials are approaching menopause differently than Gen X Finding community, purpose, and a second act in midlife Articles The North American Menopause Society recommendations for clinical care of midlife women (Menopause)The Estrogen Dilemma (Time Magazine) To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In our last episode of unPAUSED, we began a conversation with Dr. Lauren Streicher about orgasm, sexual function, and why these topics are still so taboo. Because there was so much to talk about, we decided to make this a two part episode. So today, Dr. Mary Claire Haver continues this conversation. Dr. Streicher is a professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, the host of Dr. Streicher's Inside Information Podcast, and the creator of Come Again, a 30 episode audio series on sexuality and sexual function. She's been at the forefront of sexual medicine for decades, pushing conversations forward that most clinicians still avoid. In this episode, we're diving into why vibrators work when nothing else does and what the research shows about vibration versus other types of stimulation. Dr. Streicher explains non-hormonal arousal creams, CBD oil for the clitoris, and whether these products actually help. We discuss the role of neurotransmitters in orgasm and walk through the FDA-approved libido drugs Addyi and Vyleesi, including why testosterone is often the preferred option for women and why pellets are problematic. Dr. Streicher breaks down the orgasm gap between men and women and explains why it actually narrows with age. She walks us through her clinical approach when a patient comes in struggling with orgasm, why pain must always be addressed first, and how to find a sexual medicine expert. We also talk about what gives her hope for the future of this field and why not every woman needs to have an orgasm for sex to be pleasurable and successful. Guest links: Dr. Streicher Dr. Streicher (Instagram) Dr. Streicher’s Inside Information: Menopause, Midlife, and More (Apple Podcasts) Lauren Streicher - Faculty Profile (Northwestern Medicine) Dr. Streicher (YouTube) Subscribe to COME AGAIN: Sexuality and Orgasm DrStreicher.com/comeagain Use code UNPAUSED20  for 20% off (This code expires Dec 23)  Dr. Streicher's  Podcast Dr. Streicher’s  Inside Information: Menopause, Midlife and More DrStreicher’s Substack https://drstreicher.substack.com/ Gyne Hacks! (Including how to How to Get a Hands-free Free Vulvar View) Books: “Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “Hot Flash Hell-A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat (Dr. Streicher's Inside Information),” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy: Advice from a Gynecologist on Your Choices Before, During, and After Surgery,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman,” by Dr. Ian Kerner “The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens to your orgasm after menopause? It's something nearly half of women experience changes with in midlife, but so few are talking about it. In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Dr. Lauren Streicher to discuss exactly what changes to orgasm, libido, and sex, why it happens, and what you need to know if you're struggling. Dr. Streicher is a professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, the host of Dr. Streicher's Inside Information Podcast, and the creator of Come Again, a 30 episode audio series on sexuality and sexual function. She's a senior researcher at the Kinsey Institute and one of the true pioneers of sexual medicine, helping to define and legitimize a specialty that for decades simply didn't exist. Dr. Haver and Dr. Streicher start with the basics: what an orgasm actually is, the anatomy of the clitoris, and why most women cannot have an orgasm from penetrative sex alone. Dr. Streicher explains vaginal orgasms, cervical orgasms, the G spot, and the historical research of Princess Marie Bonaparte, who measured the distance between the clitoris and vaginal opening in 240 women in an effort to understand why she couldn't orgasm during intercourse. They discuss what happens to orgasm and sex post menopause, including the role of blood flow, nerve health, clitoral atrophy, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and medications, especially SSRIs that can affect both libido and orgasm. Dr. Streicher walks through how genitourinary syndrome of menopause affects the clitoris, why the pelvic floor matters for orgasm, and why so many women have never even seen their own anatomy. They also talk about anorgasmia, the inability to have an orgasm, both primary and acquired, and why this is almost never discussed in medical training. Guest links: Dr. Streicher Dr. Streicher (Instagram) Dr. Streicher: Menopause: The Inside Info (Substack) Dr. Streicher’s Inside Information: Menopause, Midlife, and More (Apple Podcasts) COME AGAIN Lauren Streicher - Faculty Profile (Northwestern Medicine) Dr. Streicher (YouTube) Subscribe to COME AGAIN: Sexuality and Orgasm DrStreicher.com/comeagain Use code UNPAUSED20  for 20% off (This code expires Dec 23)  Dr. Streicher's  Podcast Dr. Streicher’s  Inside Information: Menopause, Midlife and More DrStreicher’s Substack https://drstreicher.substack.com/ Gyne Hacks! (Including how to How to Get a Hands-free Free Vulvar View) Books: “Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “Hot Flash Hell-A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat (Dr. Streicher's Inside Information),” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy: Advice from a Gynecologist on Your Choices Before, During, and After Surgery,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever,” by Dr. Lauren Streicher “She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman,” by Dr. Ian Kerner “The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices