Becoming You

• Four Things You Are Doing Backwards with Your Kids

  Is criticism overshadowing celebration in your parenting approach? Are you always swooping in to save your children from any discomfort? This episode breaks down why it's so tough for us to focus on the wins and the progress crucial for our children's growth and self-esteem, why we focus on happiness instead of resiliency, and other things we do backwards in parenting. This episode is a masterclass on what you can start doing today to cultivate more independence, resilience, happiness and self esteem in your children. [00:03:04] Self-criticism and parenting habits linked to emotional wounds; importance of changing negative mindset. [00:05:02] Encourage consistent effort, celebrate small wins, and avoid focusing on shortcomings. [00:09:30] We should celebrate kids' achievements, gain their trust, and keep our promises. [00:12:22] Parent struggles with bedtime routine and prioritizing self-care, but maintains promise to child with consequences for breaking trust. [00:17:50] Parenting should be based on building emotional resilience, not just making children happy. It's about helping them handle frustration, disappointment, and anger. [00:19:53] The focus should be on emotional resilience, not just happiness. Happiness comes from struggles and discomfort. Saving kids from challenges hinders their emotional growth and independence. [00:24:14] Setting up routines and structures can alleviate the mental load and help children become independent. Montessori method encourages allowing children to make mistakes to foster independence. [00:27:11] Setting them up to rely on you, feeling resentful of lack of independence, punishing them for mistakes, avoiding reflection and change, going back to old routines instead of adapting and sharing responsibilities. Healing relationship with mistakes. Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here Send me a DM on Instagram HERE

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• Co-Parent Clash - How to Create Peace and Harmony through Collaboration

  What do you do when you have a spouse, partner, or someone you co-parent with that is not on the same page as you are when it comes to parenting your children? I often get this question from clients who are on board and doing the transformative work of becoming a conscious, peaceful parent. And yet, their spouses haven't gotten the memo and their spouses don't want to follow or be part of the transformative work. My clients end up in this world of being torn and are left feeling they have to parent their children and parent their spouse as well, It can be really, really hard when it feels like you against the entire world, including your partner or the parent or the co parent. This week - I want to give you some mindset perspectives and tangible things that you can do to help you co parent more peacefully, so you're not ending up feeling exhausted and drained. Where do you see these dynamics? What are you going to do this week to build a new foundation with your co-parent? Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here Send me a DM on Instagram HERE

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• Parenting Strategies are not enough - This is what you are missing

  Is your parenting effective? Are you having lots of fights, yelling and constantly nagging? Do you feel disrespected? Today I have a really hard hitting episode for you and you might be uncomfortable confronting some of your parenting strategies and why they are not working, especially if you have been taking in different parenting ideas from books and podcasts. No matter the age of your kids are or where you are in your parenting journey, how you parent needs to start changing today if you desire to have a peaceful, deeply connected relationship with your child and if you want to stop yelling. If you're feeling disconnected from your child, and worry that if you keep talking to your them and treating them the way you are you won't have that close relationship where they come to you no matter what - take some time to examine these 5 reasons your strategies are falling short. Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here Send me a DM on Instagram HERE

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• Finding Balance and Happiness in Parenthood With Misha Akbar

  This week, I'm excited to bring you an episode where I was featured as a guest on Misha Akbar's podcast Desi Daze. In this episode, we go really deep into talking about the parts of motherhood hardly anyone talks about. There's a certain level of expectation that comes with how you believe you're going to feel when the baby finally arrives, and you believe you will be the happiest you're ever going to feel. I truly, truly believed with every ounce of my being that that's how my experience was going to be. In a sense, there is a grieving period when you become a mom because there is a loss of that old identity and we are grappling with this new identity and a loss of a previous life - with no time to process or time to grieve. Misha and I share a lot of commonalities in motherhood, and we both experienced postpartum depression. We discussed our struggles with that and the shame that we carried around about whether or not we connected with our babies and, how we seeked help and support. Both our missions are making this a topic that no woman should ever have to hide. What is one or two things that you are taking away? And was there anything in this episode that you heard that made you feel less alone? Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here Send me a DM on Instagram HERE

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• Parenting Beyond Judgment - What to do When Your Child Makes a Massive Mistake

  As our kids get older, a lot of us will inevitably face a situation where they make a mistake - stealing, vandalizing, cheating on a test, or worse! Which will lead you to question yourself as a parent and how you prepared them for the world. Facing every parent's worst nightmare without completely losing our cool, reacting defensively and launching into a lecture is not easy! It's a challenge to not immediately blame yourself. This situation actually can help to build a deeper emotional connection with your children, but you need to break your old cycle of blame, shame, judge and give out consequences without any time passing. This episode I lay out your new action plan to diffuse the situation, and actually connect with your child in this worse case scenario. Did your child ever do something that shocked you? How did you react? I would love to hear from you on what that situation was and how you dealt with it. Sign up for FREE live breathwork sessions here Set up a free consultation call to work with me privately here Send me a DM on Instagram HERE

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