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You don't have to be perfect. You just have to stay connected — and maybe stop serving chicken nuggets for every meal. Vicki Renke is back for Part 2 and she is bringing the real talk: how homeschooling actually works day-to-day (spoiler: it's not six hours of worksheets), why food is a sneaky connection tool, what energy healing is and whether it could help YOUR stressed-out family, and the one thing every new parent needs to stop doing right now. Grab your coffee. This one covers it all.

 

WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

The truth about how many hours homeschooling actually takes — and it's way less than you think

How to follow your kid's passion even through the scary teen years (Vicki's daughter went from trouble to a horse farm — yes, really)

Why the #1 advice for new parents is to turn off social media — and what to do instead

The real reason you should stop feeding your kids only chicken nuggets (it's not what you think)

What energy healing with the Body Code, Emotion Code, and Belief Code actually looks like — and the mom whose blood pressure is almost normal now

 

 

WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU:

 

You've read the parenting threads, you've watched the TikToks, you've downloaded the expert's PDF. And somehow you still feel like you're doing it all wrong — because everyone online seems to have a flawless child on a flawless schedule eating a flawless dinner of organic quinoa. Meanwhile, your kid just screamed for 45 minutes because their apple had a bruise on it.

 

The noise is real, and it is exhausting. You're not failing because you can't keep up with the perfect parenting strategies. You're struggling because you're buried in other people's highlight reels while quietly fighting your own invisible battles — the energy that feels stuck, the anxiety that won't quit, the sneaking suspicion that maybe something deeper is going on underneath all the chaos.

 

Vicki has been there — nine times over — and she's built a whole second career helping families get unstuck. This episode gives you the permission to stop performing and start connecting, in every room of your house, including the kitchen.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Homeschooling does not mean six-hour days at the kitchen table. Vicki schooled up to 5 kids at once in about 4-5 hours total — and that included rotation time. One or two kids? You could be done by lunch.

Follow the passion. A son obsessed with mechanics who got out of school early to work at the shop is now on track to become a foreman. Interest-led learning is not a cop-out — it's a strategy.

Repair the disconnect. Every mistake — yours or theirs — creates a little crack. The fix is simple: go back, have the conversation, reconnect. That's it. That's the whole book.

Food is connection. Family dinners, farmer's market trips, kitchen experiments — Vicki challenged her kids to find one new vegetable to try each market visit. They're adults now who eat everything. Correlation? Probably.

Energy healing is real and it works. Vicki's clients regularly feel lighter after a single session. One client's blood pressure went from dangerously high to nearly normal after working on stored emotional energy in her heart. Mind. Blown.

 

 

ABOUT VICKI RENKE:

Vicki Renke is a mother of 9, grandmother of 9, homeschool veteran, children's book author (Don't Leave the Coop), and certified Body Code, Emotion Code, and Belief Code practitioner. She spent decades raising and educating her children across every schooling format imaginable before launching her energy healing practice, where she helps families release the invisible emotional and energetic blocks that therapy alone can't always reach. Vicki is also a faith-filled woman who brings warmth, humor, and zero pretense to every conversation.

 

Connect with Vicki:

Website: AbundantLivingWithVicki.com

Facebook: Vicki Rehnke

Instagram: @RehnkeVictoria

 

READY TO GO DEEPER?

 

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>> SINK OR SWIM PARENTING — Natalie's book, packed with real stories and research-backed strategies for parents of toddlers to teens: nataliemccabe.com

 

>> 5-MINUTE MOM CALM DOWN KIT — Grab Natalie's free toolkit for the moments you're about to lose it: nataliemccabe.com

 

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Raising teen kids without losing your mind — or your relationship with them — is possible, even if your house has 9 children in it. Vicki Renke, mom of 9 and homeschool veteran, is here to bust every myth you've been told about teenagers, homeschooling, and what it actually takes to raise independent adults. If you've ever sobbed in a church bathroom because your kid isn't perfect, this one's for you.

 

WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

Why parenting out of fear is the fastest way to lose your teenager — and what to do instead

How your teen's brain is basically a construction zone (and why that changes everything)

The connection secret Vicki learned the hard way with 9 kids — and how to use it today

Homeschooling myths busted — including how to do it even if you can't do algebra

Why the goal of parenting is to work yourself out of a job (and how to start doing it)

 

WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU:

 

You know that feeling — the one where your teenager looks at you like you just suggested they eat dirt, and you're standing in the kitchen thinking, who IS this person? You've been through the toddler wars. You survived the preschool phase. And now this. The teen years hit different when the person having the meltdown is taller than you and has opinions about literally everything.

 

You've probably tried everything — being stricter, being looser, reading the parenting books, Googling at 11pm. Nothing sticks because most advice doesn't account for what's actually happening inside your teen's brain, or what your fear of their mistakes is doing to your connection with them.

 

Vicki has been there — nine times over — and she's here to tell you that surviving the teen years with your relationship intact is not only possible, it's the whole point.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

You cannot parent out of fear. Fear breaks connection, and connection is the only thing that actually works with teenagers.

Your teen's bad behavior is not a report card on you. Ages 13-15 especially, their brains are literally under reconstruction — lower your expectations, raise your curiosity.

Give them responsibility and autonomy. Kids who feel controlled feel worthless. Kids who are trusted build self-worth.

Homeschooling is more flexible than you think. You can follow your child's passion — Vicki had a son obsessed with bats who grew into a skilled tradesman. Interest-led learning works.

The whole goal is to work yourself out of a job. Independent, capable adults don't happen by accident — they happen when parents intentionally release control, one mistake at a time.

 

ABOUT VICKI RENKE:

Vicki Renke is a mother of 9 children, grandmother of 9, and a homeschool veteran who navigated every educational path imaginable — public, private, online, and home — adapting to each of her kids' unique needs. She began her career as a daycare teacher before running an in-home daycare while raising her own family. Today, she also works as a Body Code, Emotion Code, and Belief Code practitioner, helping people release energetic and emotional blocks rooted even in the womb. Vicki brings hard-won wisdom, zero judgment, and a refreshing sense of humor to every conversation.

 

Connect with Vicki: https://abundantlivingwithvicki.com/welcome-to-my-website/

 

READY TO GO DEEPER?

 

>> FREE COACHING CALL — Not sure where to start? Book a free 30-minute call with Natalie. No strings. Just real support: nataliemccabe.com

 

>> FREE COMMUNITY — Join the Mom Life Uncomplicated community of moms who get it. Share, support, breathe: nataliemccabe.com (select Community tab)

 

>> SINK OR SWIM PARENTING — Natalie's book, packed with real stories and research-backed strategies for parents of toddlers to teens: nataliemccabe.com

 

>> 5-MINUTE MOM CALM DOWN KIT — Grab Natalie's free toolkit for the moments you're about to lose it: nataliemccabe.com

 

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Mom rage & kids' anger — Your kid's anger isn't the problem. Here's what actually is.

 

Mom anger and kids' meltdowns are two sides of the same coin — and most parenting advice gets both completely wrong. If you've ever lost it with your kids and spent the rest of the night swimming in shame, this episode is the lifeline you didn't know you needed. Natalie unpacks the real science behind anger (yours and theirs) and hands you 4 frameworks that will literally change how you see those blow-up moments.

 

WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

Discover why your kid's anger is actually a protective signal — not a behavior problem to squash

Learn about FAST Thoughts (First Automatic Skewed Thoughts) and why you're never really reacting to what you think you are

Understand co-regulation: why your child's meltdown cannot be calmed if you're not regulated first

Break free from 'shoulding' on your kids — and shift from blame to skill-building in one sentence

Hear Natalie's raw personal story about a marriage counseling session that changed how she understood her own anger forever

 

WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU:
You know that feeling — it's 6:47pm, someone's crying over the wrong-colored cup, someone else just slammed a door, and you hear a sound come out of your own mouth that you swore you would never make. The guilt lands before the echo even fades. You planned to be the calm mom. You really did.

 

You've tried counting to 10. You've tried walking away. You've read the books. But nothing actually changes the pattern because no one has ever told you what is happening inside your nervous system — and your kid's — in that 2.5-second window before everything goes sideways. That's not failure. That's a missing piece of information.

 

After this episode, you'll stop seeing anger as the enemy and start seeing it as data. That one shift? It changes everything — from how you respond in the moment to how you talk to your kid about it afterward.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Anger is not the villain — your relationship with it is. Anger is your nervous system's alarm system, wired in to protect you and your people. You can't delete it, but you can stop being at its mercy.

Your FAST Thoughts are running the show. First Automatic Skewed Thoughts fire before you even realize it — and they're loaded with old fears, old wounds, and old beliefs. Learning to catch them is the whole game.

Your kid literally cannot regulate without you. The prefrontal cortex — the brain's 'calm conductor' — doesn't fully develop until age 25. Until then, they are borrowing your nervous system. Which means your calm is their calm.

Replace 'should' with 'skill.' Frustration tolerance, transitioning between activities, sleeping alone — these aren't character flaws. They're skills that haven't been taught yet. Teachable. Every single one.

 

READY TO GO DEEPER?
 

>> ANGER TRANSFORMATION WORKSHOP

If today's episode lit something up for you, Natalie runs a live Anger Transformation Workshop specifically for parents who want to go beyond the concepts into the actual practice. You'll map your personal triggers, identify your Groundhog Day patterns, and build a real plan — including live role play so you can feel the difference between the before and the after. Spots are intentionally kept small. Reach out at nataliemccabe.com to find out when the next one is running.

 

>> FREE COACHING CALL

Not sure where to start? Book a free 30-minute call with Natalie. Zero pressure. Just a real conversation: nataliemccabe.com

 

>> FREE COMMUNITY

Join the Mom Life Uncomplicated community of moms who actually get it. Share, support, breathe: nataliemccabe.com (select Community tab)

 

>> SINK OR SWIM PARENTING

Natalie's book — packed with real stories from 16 years of single parenting and research-backed strategies for toddlers to teens: nataliemccabe.com

 

>> 5-MINUTE MOM CALM DOWN KIT

Grab Natalie's free toolkit for the moments you're about to lose it: nataliemccabe.com

 

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Your kid slams their pencil down. Crumples up the drawing. Says this is boring — but what they actually mean is this is hard and I'm terrified of messing up. Sound familiar? This episode cracks open the door on Natalie's certified Growth Mindset Workshop and gives you real language, real understanding, and one thing you can try at dinner tonight that could shift the entire culture of your home.

 

WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE:

What a fixed mindset actually looks like in YOUR house — including the sneaky disguises you probably haven't recognized yet

Why your child's frustration isn't a problem to fix — it's literally the sound of their brain growing (the zone of growth, or "the ZOG")

The mistake myth that's accidentally keeping your perfectionist kid stuck, and the one reframe that changes everything

A dinner table question you can ask TONIGHT that opens up a whole new kind of conversation with your kid

A sneak peek at the live certified Growth Mindset Workshop — and what's waiting for you inside

 

WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU:

You've told your kid a hundred times that mistakes are how we learn. You've cheered them on, pointed out their strengths, tried every pep talk in the book — and they still shut down the second something gets hard. It's exhausting. It makes you wonder if you're doing something wrong.

 

You're not doing anything wrong. But there's a piece of this that nobody talks about: your child may have a set of deep beliefs about their own intelligence that no amount of cheerleading can actually reach. That's not a parenting failure — it's a belief system. And belief systems, unlike personalities, can absolutely be changed.

 

This episode gives you the language to understand what's happening, the permission to stop rescuing your kid from frustration, and a glimpse into a research-backed framework that parents consistently say changed how they see both their kids and themselves.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Fixed mindset shows up in disguise — as boredom, perfectionism, avoidance, and "is this graded?" dread

Dr. Carol Dweck's 30 years of research at Stanford confirm: a fixed mindset is a belief, not a personality — and it can change

The zone of growth (ZOG) is the sweet spot where real brain development happens — and frustration is the feeling from the inside

Corrected mistakes grow kids; unreflected mistakes just repeat. Start with "what went well" before anything else

One dinner question — "When were you in the zone of growth today?" — can quietly transform the emotional culture of your home

 

WHAT'S COMING IN THE FULL WORKSHOP (Tease & Withhold):

Natalie holds back the A-B-C Plan (a 3-option support system for kids stuck in the ZOG), the frustration body language exercise, the full 3-types-of-mistakes framework, the negative self-talk and procrastination science, the zone chart activity, and the character strengths worksheet. All of it lives in the live, certified workshop.

 

 

CALLS TO ACTION (in order):

GROWTH MINDSET WORKSHOP: Reach out to Natalie to find out when the next live certified Growth Mindset Workshop is happening — online, research-backed, and built for parents and educators. nataliemccabe.com

FREE COACHING CALL: Want support figuring out where to start? Book a free coaching call with Natalie at nataliemccabe.com

COMMUNITY: Join the community of expert parent coaches and moms just like you. nataliemccabe.com — Community tab

BOOK: Natalie's book, Sink or Swim Parenting: Surviving to Thriving with Toddlers to Teens, is available now

 

CONNECT WITH NATALIE:

Instagram: @natalie_mccabe_official

Website: nataliemccabe.com

🧠 WHAT'S INSIDE THIS EPISODE
Did you know that 11% of kids ages 3–17 now have a diagnosed anxiety disorder — and that number nearly doubled between 2016 and 2022? If you've been watching your child spiral into worry, meltdowns, or total freeze mode and wondering what happened to that fearless little kid they used to be — this episode is for you.

Natalie breaks down the science-backed P.O.W.E.R. framework: five resilience superpowers your child was born with, why modern life quietly steals them, and what you can do tonight to start giving them back.

🎧 In This Episode:

[00:00] The childhood anxiety stats that will stop you in your tracks

[02:00] The P.O.W.E.R. framework — 5 superpowers every child is born with

[08:30] How each superpower gets "zapped" and what replaces it

[10:30] The brain science behind worry that most parents have never heard

[13:00] The Movie Theater Technique — a tool to teach your child right now

[15:00] The "What-If Simulator" — one practical thing you can try tonight

[16:00] The worry character technique (and why it actually works for kids)

💔 WHY THIS MATTERS TO YOU
You remember the version of your child who jumped out of bed ready to take on the world. The one who got dressed in a fire hat and a tutu and didn't care one bit what anyone thought. The one who fell down learning to walk and just... got back up, every single time.

Where did that kid go?

Here's the truth: they didn't disappear. Their superpowers got buried — under overscheduled days, social comparison, perfectionism, and a world that keeps telling them exactly who they're supposed to be. And as a mom, you've probably tried everything — the reassurance, the pep talks, the logic — and watched it fall flat every single time.

That's because most of us were never taught the actual science of how worry works in the brain. And without that piece, we're all just guessing.

This episode gives you the foundation — and a few tools you can use today.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

Your child was born resilient. The P.O.W.E.R. framework (Present, Original, Whole, Energized, Resilient) reflects strengths every child comes into the world with — they don't need to be fixed, they need to be unlocked.

The body's alarm reaction is automatic — but what happens next isn't. After the amygdala fires, there's a window where kids can learn to notice what's happening and choose how they respond. That's a skill, and it can be taught.

"Just calm down" doesn't work because of neuroscience, not bad parenting. Understanding the brain's fear response changes everything about how you show up for your anxious child.

Teach your child that their brain is a What-If Simulator. Instead of dismissing worry, help them make a good plan. This moves their brain from spinning to solving.

Give the worry a name and a face. Personifying worry as a character gives kids something to talk back to — and takes away its power.

🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED

📚 Book: Sink or Swim Parenting by Natalie McCabe — nataliemccabe.com

🧠 GoZen Workshop: 5 Keys to Raising Resilient Kids — reach out to Natalie for the next workshop date

📞 Free Coaching Call: nataliemccabe.com

👥 Mom Life Community: nataliemccabe.com → Community tab

📸 Instagram: @natalie_mccabe_official

👍 Facebook: Mom Life Uncomplicated

💬 CALL TO ACTION
If today's episode lit something up for you — if you thought I need MORE of this for my kid — reach out to Natalie about the 5 Keys to Raising Resilient Kids workshop through GoZen. It goes so much deeper than this episode: the full anxiety toolkit, worry science, growth mindset tools, and actual worksheets to use with your child.

And if you want to talk through what's going on with YOUR specific kid, book a free coaching call at nataliemccabe.com. No strings. Just real support.

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