For The Hayters

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses premature birth, traumatic labor, medical intervention for micro-preemies, and birth-related trauma.
"Your family didn't come in your sea bag." That’s what they tell you in the Navy. But what happens when your "family" is a 1-pound, 6-ounce baby fighting for her life in a plastic box while you’re expected back in uniform?
This week, I sit down with a woman who lived through every parent's nightmare while serving her country. At 23 weeks and 4 days, she woke up in a pool of blood, eight hours from home, and facing a medical team that pressured her to choose "comfort care"—essentially letting her baby pass away—because of her age and status as a single mother.
She chose the fight. She hit the 24-week "viability" mark by a mere two hours, delivered via emergency C-section, and was back on active duty just six weeks later. This is the raw, unfiltered reality of a 129-day NICU stay, brain bleeds, 20 blood transfusions, and the staggering resilience of a Sailor who refused to take "no" for an answer.
Connect with Guest: Instagram: @sarah.rucker
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Ever feel like you’re on top of the world on Friday, only to be digging through couch cushions for change by Monday? You aren’t alone—and it’s not just a "low income" problem. In this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky (the Novice) and Alex (the Expert) dive into the "Friday High" vs. the "Monday Panic." We’re breaking down why even high-income earners find themselves trapped in a cycle of overspending and how to finally build some breathing room.
Inside the episode:
The "Friday High": Why your brain triggers a sense of abundance on payday (and how to survive the weekend).
High Earners, Zero Balances: The shocking stats on why making $100k+ doesn't automatically fix the cycle.
The Financial Firewall: Alex coaches a listener through a $20k windfall to build a safety net that actually works.
The $40 Ghost: Becky shares how she found an extra $40/month just by looking (and why you should, too).
Systems vs. Willpower: Why "trying harder" fails and how to automate your way to a net-zero spending plan.
Weekly Homework:
Find Your Leak: Audit your last 30 days and cancel one subscription or "convenience spend" you don't use.
Automate the Difference: Set up an auto-transfer to your savings for that exact amount on payday.
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses teen pregnancy, adoption, and cancer diagnosis.
Jamie Shoemaker’s life has never been a straight line. From navigating a high-pressure teen pregnancy in a conservative church to choosing a private open adoption at fifteen, Jamie has spent her life breaking cycles. She’s been an egg donor, a mother, and a fierce advocate for her own body—a skill that became a matter of life and death when a routine check-up turned into a cervical cancer diagnosis at age 35.
In this conversation, Jamie opens up about the "mind-fuck" of having her uterus—the organ that connected her to so much community and life—suddenly become the villain. We dive into the complexities of open adoption twenty years later, the reality of "survival" income through egg donation, and why she wrote an "ode to her uterus" before a life-altering hysterectomy. Jamie is a storyteller who reminds us that healing doesn’t happen in isolation and that "rest" is not a four-letter word.
Connect with Guest: @jshoe11

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RIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses late-term stillbirth, medical trauma, and postpartum hemorrhaging.
"I didn't even have to hear the words. I could read it all over her face." Alyssa was 38 weeks pregnant—at the finish line—when the world stopped. In this raw conversation, Alyssa walks us through the devastating loss of her first daughter, Marianna Yvette, and the terrifying medical crisis that followed, leaving Alyssa "knocking on heaven’s door."
We dive deep into the reality of pregnancy after loss—the scans every two weeks, the inability to feel excitement until the baby is crying in your arms, and the bittersweet realization that one child's life only exists because another's ended. This is a story about honoring the dead while fiercely raising the living.
Connect with Guest: Instagram: @lyssa821 Facebook: Alyssa Estes
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Becky has beef with the word budget.
It feels restrictive. It feels like failure waiting to happen. It feels like getting grounded.
So in this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky and Alex are flipping the script. We’re retiring the word “budget” and replacing it with something that doesn’t make your nervous system panic: a spending plan.
Inside this episode, we cover:
Why 84% of people “fail” at budgeting (and why that’s not a you problem)
The three-bucket method: Needs, Fun Money (aka the Becky Fund), and Debt/Savings
Why fun money actually helps you reach your savings goals
How to stop the all-or-nothing spiral after one $20 salad
The 10-Second Reset to interrupt impulse spending in real time
Why your spending plan should align with your values — not punish you
This isn’t about tracking your failures.
It’s about planning your freedom.
If you’ve ever started a budget on Monday and emotionally quit by Thursday, this one’s for you.
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