The Healing Trauma Podcast

In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, guest host Dr. Mark McNear speaks with Tammy Gustafson who shares her personal journey through betrayal trauma and the healing process that followed. As a licensed professional counselor, she discusses the complexities of betrayal, the misconceptions surrounding it, and the importance of understanding betrayal trauma as a legitimate form of trauma. Tammy emphasizes the need for time in the healing process, the significance of emotional regulation, and the role of fun and joy in recovery. She also highlights her professional insights gained from her experiences and the creation of her upcoming book aimed at helping others navigate their healing journey.TakeawaysBetrayal trauma is a legitimate form of trauma that can overwhelm one's ability to process emotions.The healing process takes time and cannot be rushed or bypassed.It's crucial for betrayed partners to understand that the betrayal is not their fault.Emotional dysregulation is common in betrayal trauma, and support systems are vital for recovery.Finding joy and fun is an essential part of the healing journey.Tammy emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing one's worth.The journey of healing can lead to personal growth and empowerment.Tammy's upcoming book aims to guide betrayed partners through their healing process.Healing from betrayal can lead to profound transformation and resilience.About Our GuestTammy Gustafson, MA, LPC, is a trauma-informedlicensed professional counselor, coach, and speakerwith over 15 years of experience. She holds a master’sdegree in counseling and is the founder and CEO ofBetrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling. Tammyhosts the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, whichprovides compassionate, expert guidance tothousands of betrayed partners worldwide.**FREE TRAUMA SUPER CONFERENCEGrab Your SEAT HERE: https://www.consciouslife.com/conferences/tsc-6?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=4&affid=697Guest Host: Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNearhttps://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/Tammy's Book:Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayalhttps://amzn.to/4s5bZh0website:https://tammygustafson.com/betrayal-healing/https://www.instagram.com/tammylgustafson/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP.In this conversation, Monique Koven and holistic psychotherapist Esther Schwarz discuss the profound effects of childhood trauma and the journey of healing from complex PTSD. Esther shares her personal experiences with trauma, symptoms, and the importance of understanding and managing these challenges. They explore the role of support systems, the impact of overwhelm on daily functioning, and the necessity of educating partners about trauma. The conversation emphasizes resilience, hope, and the possibility of recovery, encouraging listeners to seek help and not give up on their healing journey.takeawaysEsther shares her journey of living with childhood trauma.Understanding complex PTSD is crucial for healing.Support systems play a vital role in recovery.Overwhelm can significantly impact daily functioning.The journey from anxiety to recognizing complex trauma is complex.Educating partners about trauma can enhance relationships.Resilience is a key component in the healing process.There is hope for recovery and personal growth.Sharing experiences can help others feel less alone.Don't give up before the miracle happens.Find Esther here: https://www.instagram.com/estherschwarz.lmsw/**FREE TRAUMA SUPER CONFERENCEGrab Your SEAT HERE:https://www.consciouslife.com/conferences/tsc-6?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=4&affid=697 Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Trigger Warning: Contains sensitive content & language related to childhood sexual abuse.In this episode of the Healing Trauma Podcast, Guest Host Dr. Mark McNear talks with Dr. Dan Allender to discuss the profound impact of trauma and the healing power of story work. They explore the complexities of personal narratives, the importance of kindness in therapy, and the long-term journey of healing from trauma. The conversation emphasizes the need for a compassionate approach to understanding one's story and the role of kindness in facilitating healing. Listeners are encouraged to engage with their own stories and recognize the ongoing nature of healing.takeawaysStory work can lead to profound healing and joy.Engaging with personal trauma stories is essential for healing.Kindness is crucial in the therapeutic process.Betrayal and powerlessness are common themes in trauma.Shame can complicate the experience of pleasure in trauma.Touch and arousal can evoke complex feelings in trauma survivors.Healing is a lifelong journey, not a quick fix.Understanding the past is essential for present healing.Kindness differs from niceness; it involves deeper engagement.The process of remembering trauma is vital for recovery.About the Guest: Dr. Dan Allender, co-founder of The Allender Center and founding president of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, has pioneered a unique and innovative approach to trauma and abuse therapy over the past 30 years.https://www.instagram.com/allendercenter/TRAUMA SUPER CONFERENCE: Sign uphttps://www.consciouslife.com/conferences/tsc-6?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=4&affid=697Guest Host: Dr. Mark McNearhttps://www.instagram.com/drmarkmcnear/ Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

*This episode is a re release from an earlier season of the HTP. It is a wonderful conversation about understanding Developmental Trauma.In this conversation, Monique is chatting with trauma therapist Mily Gomez. Mily discusses the concept of developmental trauma, its impact on emotional regulation, attachment styles, and relationships. She explains how early experiences shape our ability to connect with others and manage our emotions. The discussion also covers the importance of validation, support, and the healing process through reparenting and somatic work. Mily emphasizes the need for individuals to develop tools for self-regulation and the significance of building healthy attachments in adulthood.takeawaysDevelopmental trauma occurs from conception to age two or three.Implicit memory affects how we feel without conscious awareness.Early experiences set the foundation for emotional regulation.Insecure attachment can lead to trust issues in relationships.Validation and support are crucial for healing.Reparenting oneself is a key part of the healing process.Somatic experiencing helps in processing trauma stored in the body.Clients can learn to self-regulate their emotions.Healthy attachments can be built even after trauma.Therapy provides a safe space for exploring difficult emotions.Find Milly Gomez on IGhttps://www.instagram.com/latibulecounseling/Free Trauma Super Conference 2026https://www.consciouslife.com/conferences/tsc-6?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=4&affid=697 Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this conversation, author and trauma therapist Monica DiCristina shares her insights on the importance of naming pain and understanding one's emotional triggers. She discusses her book, 'Your Pain Has A Name,' and emphasizes the significance of accurate diagnosis in therapy. The discussion also touches on the impact of dismissal in therapeutic settings, the dangers of oversimplified healing approaches, and the importance of finding the right therapeutic relationship. Monica encourages listeners to keep seeking understanding and healing, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.takeawaysMonica wrote her book to help others name their pain.Naming pain is essential for separating identity from trauma.Many people walk around feeling something is wrong with them.Accurate diagnosis is crucial for effective healing.Understanding one's wiring can help in managing mental health.Dismissal in therapy can lead to feelings of isolation.Oversimplified healing approaches can be harmful.The therapeutic relationship is key to successful outcomes.It's important to find a therapist who feels right for you.Everyone's journey to understanding and healing is unique.Monica's new book: Your Pain Has a Name: A Therapist’s Invitation to Understanding Your Story and Sorting Out Who You Are from What Hurts https://amzn.to/4i3qmxFWhere to Find Monica:Website: https://monicadicristina.comInstagram: @monicadicristinaStill Becoming Podcast**FREE TRAUMA SUPER CONFERENCEGrab Your SEAT HERE: https://www.consciouslife.com/conferences/tsc-6?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=4&affid=697 Find a list of trauma recovery books + resources for the healing trauma journey. https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/resources/ SUPPORT this podcast for the cost of a coffee. Your support is appreciated! When you buy me a coffee, your support goes towards keeping the podcast running. HERE: https://buymeacoffee.com/thehealingtraumapodcast Subscribe and watch on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJy4f23JvtdFuQGadOqy3PA Disclaimer: This episode and website may contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase, I may receive a small commission at no cost to you. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEALING for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-healing-trauma-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy