396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's Opinions (But Not Others)
Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves. In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?
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395. Why Women Care Too Much About What Other People Think
Have you ever had a man ask why you care so much about what others think? And then found yourself at a loss for how to explain why it matters so deeply? There’s a reason women tend to fixate on others’ opinions, and it’s not simply a lack of confidence or insecurity. This week, I’m diving into why this preoccupation with others’ opinions is so powerful for women—and why it’s not silly or superficial to acknowledge its hold over us. You'll hear the first step in breaking free from this pattern (hint: it isn’t to judge ourselves) and how to spot the impossible, contradictory standards women are taught to meet.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/395Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?
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FREE TRAINING: How To Stop Caring What Other People Think
Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?The bad news is that making everyone happy and controlling what they think about you is literally impossible to accomplish and you will die trying! Sorry, but it’s true. The good news is you can actually stop trying to manage what everyone else thinks about you at every moment … and feel better about yourself than you ever have before.That’s what I’m here to teach you in my brand new workshop: How to Stop Caring What Other People Think.When: Friday, June 6 from 12:00–1:30 p.m. ETCost: FREE. (Yes, for real. It’s free.)(A limited-time replay will be available if you can’t attend live.)Click here to save your spot: unfuckyourbrain.com/caring/utm_source=podcast
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394. Hopelessness Is a Lie
Have you ever felt that sinking feeling in your stomach—the one that says, “There’s no point in trying because nothing will ever change”? That’s hopelessness, and it’s one of the most dangerous emotional states because it paralyzes us and keeps us stuck. It’s also one of the most deceptive thought patterns your brain can offer you.This week, I’m breaking down why hopelessness is fundamentally a lie. When your brain tells you nothing will ever change, it’s making a claim it can’t possibly back up. Tune in to learn how to combat these thoughts and start embracing the reality that change is always possible—even when it feels like it isn’t.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/394Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?
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393. How to Calm Down Right Now: A Conversation with Emily Decker
Have you ever noticed how your body reacts when you're doom-scrolling? The tightness in your chest, shallow breathing, and racing thoughts aren’t just in your head—they’re physical responses from your nervous system reacting to perceived threats. In today’s episode, I’m joined by somatic-based personal trainer Emily Decker to discuss how our bodies process information and why so many of us get stuck in cycles of anxiety and doom-scrolling. We explore the fascinating connection between our nervous system and the constant barrage of alarming headlines, plus why our bodies can’t distinguish between real physical danger and the emotional stress we get from media consumption.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/393Mentioned in this episode:Free Training Coming Up!Ever feel like your brain refuses to SHUT UP about what everyone else might be thinking about you?
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