Why You Never Feel Good Enough (And How to Change That) with Dr Julie Smith
Tired of fighting your inner critic?Struggling to say no without guilt?Why does comparison feel so painful, and how do we use it to grow instead?Do your friendships feel more like nostalgia than connection? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with bestselling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Smith for a deeply honest, relatable, and practical conversation about what it actually means to take care of your mental health. Dr. Smith opens up about her own journey from NHS therapist to one of the world’s most followed psychologists, and shares the science and soul behind her new book Open When?, a guide for navigating life’s emotional ups and downs. Together, Radhi and Julie explore the traps we fall into — like comparison, envy, self-doubt, and the fear of saying “no” — and how to lovingly untangle them. You'll learn how to set boundaries without guilt, how to respond to resentment, and how to speak to yourself like a coach, not a bully. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why comparison can destroy relationships—and how to stop doing it. How to turn envy into a powerful guide for your growth. The truth about friendships that fade, and how to handle them with grace Why guilt isn’t a sign you’re wrong—it’s a sign you care What to do when your inner critic won’t shut up How to be socially brave (even if you feel awkward) What “winning” arguments can cost—and how to argue with love How to reconnect with your real values when life feels overwhelming This episode is not just therapy—it’s empowerment, emotional clarity, and permission to be human. If you've ever felt "not enough" or lost in the noise of your own mind, Dr. Julie Smith offers you a way back to yourself. Follow Julie: https://share.google/c1zQm2CV2X5Z6AN4r https://youtube.com/@drjulie https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie https://www.instagram.com/drjulie Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Say Less, Mean More: How to Stop Filling Space Just to Be Heard
Why do we rush to fill silence even when there's nothing more to say?Are you using filler words to hide your nerves or to prove you're still interesting?What are you trying to cover up with “like,” “um,” or oversharing?When was the last time you sat in silence with someone you love, or with yourself? In this solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi takes you deep into an unexpected topic: silence. What starts as a reflection on eliminating filler words like “um” and “like” quickly becomes an introspective and revealing look at the discomfort we feel when we’re quiet—and what we’re really trying to hide. She shares how learning to pause and breathe while speaking transformed her confidence, and how too often, we speak just to prove we belong. But what if true connection doesn't come from filling every gap—but from being fully present, even in stillness? Radhi also opens up about self-monitoring, the pressure to perform in conversations, and how she's learning to feel safe even when she has nothing to say. Plus: a sweet life update on her grandma’s health, nostalgia in London, and a birthday plan that’s pure joy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why filler words can be subtle signs of insecurity and anxiety. How silence can feel threatening—but also freeing. Tools to eliminate filler words without losing your flow. Why slowing down your speech makes people actually listen. How to feel more seen and less performative in conversations. The emotional impact of always adjusting to fit in. What it means to be present with yourself—and others. This episode is a gentle invitation to stop performing and start feeling. Whether you’re a fast talker, a chronic over-sharer, or someone afraid of awkward silences—this one will meet you where you are. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life; Logan Ury on Dating Myths, Green Flags & Why You’re Still Single
Are your unrealistic expectations the reason you’re still single?Do you actually want a partner, or just a “perfect” person who doesn’t exist?Is your dating app profile keeping you single without you even realizing it?Can you tell the difference between a pet peeve and a dealbreaker? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Logan Ury—behavioral scientist, dating coach, and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge—for an honest, myth-busting conversation on love, dating, and emotional intelligence in the modern world. Together, they unpack the hidden tendencies that quietly sabotage our relationships, the outdated myths we’ve been sold about romance, and why our obsession with “the spark” might be holding us back from something deeper and more real. Logan shares the truth about modern dating apps, how to read digital body language, and what Gen Z is teaching us all about vulnerability and connection. Whether you’re single, dating, or somewhere in the messy middle, this episode is a warm, honest guide to building relationships with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to spot your unconscious dating tendencies Why emotional intelligence is more attractive than the “spark” The difference between a red flag and a personal preference How to write a dating profile that actually reflects who you are What to do on a first date—and what to never ignore The questions to ask yourself before becoming exclusive How to approach dating with curiosity instead of pressure If you’re tired of feeling like love is something to “get right,” you’re not alone. This conversation is a call back to what actually matters: presence, emotional integrity, and connection that’s honest, even when it’s messy. Follow Logan Ury: https://www.loganury.com/http://instagram.com/loganuryhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/loganury/https://www.tiktok.com/@loganury Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Living with Grief Before Loss – How to Find Peace During Difficult Times
Can you mourn someone who’s still alive?What would you say if you knew time was short? In this honest and deeply moving episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia shares her experience of “living grief” as her 91-year-old grandmother faces an untreatable illness. This isn’t a conversation about death — it’s about life and how we choose to show up when we know time is limited. Radhi opens up about the emotional complexity of loving through loss, the power of presence, and the spiritual and personal awakenings that emerge when we’re forced to let go before we’re ready. You’ll hear reflections on generational wisdom, family dynamics, spiritual detachment, and the importance of asking hard questions before it’s too late. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “living grief” might be the hardest kind — and how to move through it. How regret is often born from inaction, not circumstance Rituals that ground you when you feel helpless The emotional, physical, and spiritual impact of anticipatory grief Why presence is the most powerful gift you can offer The healing power of memory-making, even in grief What it means to detach with love — not avoidance This is an invitation to pause, feel, and live fully with the ones you love — while you still can. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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What Every Woman Should Know About Money: Vivian Tu on Debt, Saving, and Investing
Have you ever felt anxious talking about money—even when you’re doing everything “right”?Are you working hard but still not sure where your money is going?Are you afraid of investing because it feels too complicated or risky? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Vivian Tu—former Wall Street trader and founder of Your Rich BFF—for a grounded, eye-opening conversation on money, mindset, and how financial literacy can be a form of healing. Vivian shares her journey from the pressure-cooker world of finance to becoming one of today’s most trusted voices in personal wealth education. Together, they unpack the emotional layers we carry around money—shame, scarcity, comparison—and how learning the basics can unlock freedom, confidence, and joy. This isn’t about hustle culture or rigid budgets—it’s about clarity, empowerment, and creating a financial life that supports your well-being. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to shift from financial shame to financial clarity Why debt isn’t always bad—and how to make it work for you How to build healthy money habits without sacrificing joy The most common mistakes people make with savings, credit, and investing Simple ways to get started—even if you're earning less or starting late What women should really know about financial independence If you’ve ever felt like money was too overwhelming to figure out, this conversation will help you feel grounded, informed, and empowered to take your next step—with compassion and confidence. Follow Vivian Tu:https://www.linkedin.com/in/viviantu-yourrichbffhttps://www.instagram.com/your.richbffhttps://www.tiktok.com/@yourrichbff Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective.
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