You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.In this episode, you’ll learn:That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are strugglingWhy having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goalResources mentioned in this podcast:Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbookInfluence Behaviors, Not Control https://robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors/Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notdoingitwrongOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::FREE Live Webinar & eBookFocus on the Nervous System to Change BehaviorJune 6, 2023 @ 1pm + recording + eBookhttps://robyngobbel.com/webinar Wondering where to start with all this information about behaviors and the nervous system?Subscribe to the START HERE podcast at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

We cannot be trauma informed without changing our beliefs about human behavior. In this episode, you’ll learn:How staying focused on behavior is objectifying and dehumanizingWhy we cannot heal vulnerable nervous systems with objectifying approachesHow our culture sets parents up to believe good parents are in control of their kids behaviorsHow to begin deconstructing these beliefs so we can stay in our owl brainResources mentioned in this podcast:Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbookHas Trauma Informed Become A Behavior Modification Technique? https://robyngobbel.com/traumainformed/Influence Behaviors, Not Control https://robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors/Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior webinar  https://robyngobbel.com/webinar Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/trulytraumainformedOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::FREE Live Webinar & eBookFocus on the Nervous System to Change BehaviorJune 6, 2023 @ 1pm + recording + eBookhttps://robyngobbel.com/webinar Wondering where to start with all this information about behaviors and the nervous system?Subscribe to the START HERE podcast at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

This is NOT an episode about how to make your kid go to school. What you WILL learn in this episode:What is pathological demand avoidance, or PDA?Schools valuing attendance above all is not helpfulYou are a good parent even if your kid doesn’t go to schoolThat sometimes, all we have to do is be niceResources mentioned in this podcast:Can’t Not Won’t by Eliza FrickerThe Family Experience of PDA by Eliza FrickerThe Educator's Experience of PDA by Eliza FrickerHow to Connect with Eliza Fricker:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTwitterRead a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/SchoolRefusalOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::FREE Live Webinar & eBookFocus on the Nervous System to Change BehaviorJune 6, 2023 @ 1pm + recording + eBookhttps://robyngobbel.com/webinar Wondering where to start with all this information about behaviors and the nervous system?Subscribe to the START HERE podcast at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

In this episode, you’ll learn:Healthy use and overuse when it comes to screen timeConsuming screen time with mindful intentionality Helpful tips for transition time away from screensPower with instead of power over and having collaborative conversationsWhat do we do now that the screens are turned off?Screen Time & Mental Health SummitThe Bright & Quirky Screen Time & Mental Health Summit runs May 15 - 19. CLICK HERE to register for FREE!Resources mentioned in this podcast:The Good Life by Robert Waldinger Atomic Habits by James ClearFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/brightandquirky Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightnquirky/Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/screentimeOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::FREE Live Webinar & eBookFocus on the Nervous System to Change BehaviorJune 6, 2023 @ 1pm + recording + eBookhttps://robyngobbel.com/webinar Wondering where to start with all this information about behaviors and the nervous system?Subscribe to the START HERE podcast at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

A deep and touching conversation with Carrie Contey, PhD. about the profound human work of being in relationship with another developing human and remembering their essence in the midst of challenging behaviors and chaos.In this episode, you’ll learn:What does Carrie Contey mean by Knot ParentingWhat it is to be human and care for humans as they growA bigger container for holding the work of parentingResources mentioned in this podcast:Website: https://www.carriecontey.com/Podcast: https://www.carriecontey.com/podcastEmail: [email protected]: http://www.facebook.com/carrieconteyphdInstagram: @carrieconteyphd https://www.instagram.com/carrieconteyphd/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@carrieconteyphdFreebies: https://www.carriecontey.com/resourcesRead a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/knotparentingOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With:::FREE Live Webinar & eBookFocus on the Nervous System to Change BehaviorJune 6, 2023 @ 1pm + recording + eBookhttps://robyngobbel.com/webinar Wondering where to start with all this information about behaviors and the nervous system?Subscribe to the START HERE podcast at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere