Hello hello hello, we are thrilled to be back after a slightly longer than intended break. We are excited to come back for this very special pod episode in celebration ney… in honour of Vangeya’s impending ascent to the fourth floor!!!!We have a natter about what has been happening in the past few months, there may well be a couple of clues in may in the title of this episode! We really wanted to catch up with you before the end of the year an this felt like the perfect excuse!! I (Vangeya) love my birthday and on this milestone birthday I wanted to celebrate with you all! Sarah shared her thoughts on entering what you will remember is by all accounts ‘a tricky decades’ from one of our earliest episodes: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=-INf-p0zTl-YtByuKJkXJgAs hoped Sarah offers some wisdom as one that has gone before and you will be pleased to know Vangeya feels ready to wave her 30s goodbye and shares her reflections and thoughts on why. So grab a cuppa or a glass of fizz as we raise a toast over the fence!!Excitingly you can now watch us as well as listen on the usual platforms! To see our attempt at video go to our youtube page: https://youtu.be/czVwDQdTbPIResources1. Shelly Tygielski: no is a complete sentence: https://www.mindful.org/no-is-a-complete-sentence/#:~:text=And%2C%20what's%20worse%2C%20when%20we,complete%20sentence%2C%20and%20here's%20why.&text=Saying%20%E2%80%9Cno%E2%80%9D%20is%20all%20about,will%20make%20the%20most%20impact.2. Stewart’s episode: season 3 bonus https://open.spotify.com/episode/40QMaCyB4zjoPPfDi58LDK?si=fBQ2L6eORLm8f_rAKLte-QOver the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah ParkinsonMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comEditing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson
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The Art of Conversation Part 2 - S04E06
The two parties just keep on coming. This wasn’t even an intentional one. This weeks episode ended up being a part two that we didn’t even know the world needed. Those of you that have been listening for awhile. Remember that we did a bonus episode called the art of conversation, which was an episode about the do's and don’ts of conversation, in its complicated, messy and sometimes down right awkward marvellousness. Well, apparently there was much more for us to say! We stumbled upon it, when having a conversation with each other about the pitfalls that people can fall into in ‘big community’ when assumptions are made.So for the last time this season join as as we delve into another big issue from our different sides of the fence.Resources1. Table Manners podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZX2oyIXVvyqEtjQ6C6z5?si=D1ImP8CxSXa_zi3MYo3wYA2. Best Friend Therapy s6 ep6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3crYlhTujhOFshsdrjrdzb?si=U3od1J4GSnulF9xocPHxWw3. Bruce Tuckman’s theory on team formation: https://www.mindtools.com/abyj5fi/forming-storming-norming-and-performingOver the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah ParkinsonMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comEditing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson
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Big Issues Deep Dive Part 2 - S04E05
As promised, we are back with part two of the big issues deep dive with Sarah sharing some of her story from her side of the fence with regard to mental health stereotypes. As with last weeks episode the A+B=C formula was also an expectation for Sarah, get married have kids live happily ever after! Sarah shares candidly and with vulnerability as she speaks of the impact mental health stereotypes have had on her family life as her husband continues to battle PTSD and all of that comes with it. As always we wanted to hold space for the conversation but also to help with practical tips for those wishing to be better equipped in their attempts to be of assistance:1. Drop the expectation that there will be a happy outcome2. Ask questions that create a space for open conversations and rather than an opportunity to give solutions3. Allow people to be where they are rather than trying to skip forward4. Grand gestures are good, but consistency is better5. Set at your store with regard to what support you can offer6. Just ask, don’t assume you know how best to help.Resources:1. Best Friend Therapy: Ep1 boundaries, what are they? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=pb9piMCSTSCe_jW4tqfBTg2. Jay Shetty: killing ego: https://www.jayshetty.me/blog/jay-shetty-on-3-strategies-people-use-to-overcome-their-egoOver the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah ParkinsonMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comEditing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson
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Big Issues Part 1 S04E04
Big Issues Deep Dive - part 1If you have been listening to the pod for awhile, you will know that authenticity is one of our buzz words, and in season four we wanted to wade a little deeper. After a season of hearing the stories of fabulous guests, we wanted this season to be an opportunity to delve into our stories and an opportunity for us to drop the mask further and share more personally. We are loving a two parter this season! In this episode Vangeya kick us off, giving us a peep over the fence sharing about her current ‘ big issue’ and what she is learning along the way.Resources1. Adam Grant: @adamgrant2. Article by Vangeya- Real vs imagined life: https://medium.com/@vangeyamhone/getting-to-know-you-series-9cd3f2e853b23. A Single Serving Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0vVwbdT9RAppTSHeamR6S5?si=-d7FUcgSTM245kSTdIYBiQ4. Shani Silver’s book: A Single Revolution 5. The Art of Conversation: s1 bonus episode- Over the Fence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/49HRkGnyATVXsNCpXSCEqN?si=6pu-bVKoQfiOhoeR1diAGA6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5MgOver the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah ParkinsonMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comEditing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson
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Reviewing the Situation - S04E03
The conversation from last week was so good we came back with a part two and in today’s episode we look at how to ‘friend through’ the hibernation seasons.This conversation is peppered with wisdom from those far wiser than ourselves and as always we list everything below. For this discussion in particular we would encourage you to have a look and listen through because it bud tough to navigate either side of this particular fence. Whether you are the friend struggling or the friend struggling to be let in to try and help.Wherever you are with your friendship we hope this two parter has been useful in helping you process and as always it us our greatest hope j that you have felt seen and a little less alone on your journey. Resources 1. New York Times article: How many friends do you really need? Catherine Pearson: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/07/well/live/adult-friendships-number.html2. Earlier Over the Fence episode referred to: ‘ A tricky decade’: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=2w-oVJLgSJ2CW7_21jd0vQ3. On introversion: a)how introverts can be socially conditioned to appear as extroverts- Best Friend Therapy s1 ep1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=yaYoPlTaTUKJkJcSkcQVaA b) Simon Sinek explains the difference between extroverts and introverts: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kXLVcGPlep44. David Richo: How to be an adult in relationships ( the 5 As of friendship)5. Adam Grant: @adamgrant - alignment not necessarily agreement 6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5MgOver the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah ParkinsonMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comEditing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson
The gap between expected life and reality can be massive join your hosts, Sarah and Vangeya as they share their experiences of navigating their very full lives that on the surface look like they would be worlds apart. But as you will soon discover their emotions and experiences in the realities they find themselves are often more similar than they would have expected from a cursory look over the fence.
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